Below is a letter of apology to Yu Xiuhua handwritten by Yang Qice .
The word ugly or secondly, the most important thing is that "apology" can be written as "Daoqian". If you don't read much, you still have to read more Chinese studies and not always read foreign novels...
People's evaluation of a person often comes from books she has read, what she has said, and the people she has loved.
and so low that Yang Junce has caused many people who have just followed Yu Xiuhua recently to call her " Love Brain ".
I have been thinking about a question these days: it is also about falling in love, why do women always be called "love brain", and even if a man is addicted to a relationship, it will not become "love brain"?
Maybe it is because there are essential differences in the standards for men and women to choose a spouse.
Think carefully, most boys have clear and clear requirements for what kind of girlfriend they want to find: good-looking face, good figure, long legs...even to the length of their hair.
This is what my male friend said he would never look for a single-parent family in his life.
And another former male colleague of mine said that if you want to be his woman, you must have a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan.
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From this we can see that men’s goals are usually very clear.
For example, "big long legs" is a very distinct and extremely threshold standard. It means that small short legs or small fat legs are not a chance.
Let’s not worry about whether this rule is a pity to screen out some girls who may “not meet the conditions but love this boy very much” and may “girls who can chat with them very much”. At least, it serves the boys who make this rule honestly. The long legs selected from this can satisfy the aesthetics of the makers.
But the standards for girls to find boyfriends are too general: for example, "Be good to me."
"Good to me" standard doesn't seem to be wrong, but when it comes to choosing a partner, it's a nonsense without specific requirements.
It means that as long as you are a man, as long as he lowers his posture slightly and pleases him as much as possible, you may become his prey.
And "good to you" and "how good is" cannot be measured systematically in a short period of time, and even in general, you cannot tell whether the other party is really good to you or pretending to have some intentions.
In short, "being good to you" is not a threshold for choosing a partner, nor does it have the reference value to judge the other party. It is just a basic bottom line for sex interaction. After all, who is in love is to think that the other party is not good to you? Unless there is a tendency to be masochistic.
There is another more important point.
These clear and specific requirements put forward by boys when choosing a spouse so that they can remain firm when facing temptation. They may have an ambiguous relationship with girls who do not meet the ideal conditions, but they are rarely moved by the other party, and they rarely take the initiative to lower their aesthetic standards because they like someone and easily enter a relationship (unless they are scumbags).
This makes boys look very calm. The outstanding external manifestation is: if he likes you, he likes you, if he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t like you.
Girls who adhere to the "good to me" principle are prone to change the standards for choosing a spouse, which leads to their often unconsciously lowering the bottom line or changing their principles for their boyfriends when dating. In addition, girls' motherhood that loves to give, they are easily scumbag.
What I want to say is that maybe many girls still don’t understand: “Be kind to you” is just the baseline of intimate relationships, just like a boy who clearly wants to “length legs” does not mean that he does not ask his partner to “be kind to him”.
Use a vague conceptual baseline to fall in love, and women can easily fall into a "love brain" for the sake of greed for others.
Yu Xiuhua became Yang Qice's prey step by step.
I still believe that even if Yu Xiuhua is lonely, even if her external conditions are poor, if she does it again, she will most likely not take the initiative to show her love to Yang Jun.
In the interview, she disliked Yang Junce, "He has no talent at all and doesn't understand me at all."
She also knew that he could not write poetry at all, and she didn't know how to appreciate her poetry.
He heard that she had stomachache , so he sent her a bee;
Knowing that Yu Xiuhua was trapped by love, he walked from Wudang Mountain to the top of the mountain step by step, and made only one wish: I hope Yu Xiuhua is happy;
When the two finally added to WeChat, Yang began to confess more intensely...
He used this seemingly strong love to let her, who longed for love, fall into his "gentle trap" step by step.
Moreover, at that time, Yang had not yet revealed his fox tail, and Yu Xiuhua was sincere and open-minded - you can tell from her words when she described the two's love. Even though she knew that Yang was clearly coming for her money and reputation, she said "I took Yang prostitute" when she wrote on Weibo...
Yu Xiuhua's tragedy may indeed have some of her own reasons, but this time she failed more because of blindness, she died in the trap of Yang, and found someone she "looks on" instead of a "love brain".
After all, women should not lower their standards for choosing a spouse to seek what others do to them.
In fact, men have understood the truth that "love is not the whole of life" for a long time. It may be because of this that women's fantasy of always trying to conquer men through love is doomed to be shattered.
This may be another reason why women are more likely to be hurt in gender relationships.
I think women should not be in love, but should be targeted.
self-sufficient, not rely too much on the other party's material conditions and emotional value given;
enrich life and understand that love is only a part of life;
result-oriented, emotional stability, sweet-mouthed, don't lead the other party;
peer principle , he is cold, he is hot, you are hot, don't sacrifice too much.
"A honey, B's arsenic", for those who have been longing for true love all their lives, it can also be "B's arsenic, A's arsenic".
So I don’t think there is anything wrong with Yu Xiuhua taking risks again.
is because maybe someone like her who has a lot of talent and talent has been taking risks all her life.
In my opinion, "money first" and "love first" are similar, nothing more than the goals set by living people.
For Yu Xiuhua, she just hasn't found a really even opponent.
is like Xiao Hong . Her short life is to complete her great works that have been passed down to this day in the entanglement with love.
Yu Xiuhua's next object must at least have the talent of Zhao Mingcheng and the writing style of Hu Lancheng. Of course, it would be better to be as true and pure as her and love was the first.
