I don’t know when it started, but more and more elderly single women have appeared around me, especially some highly educated women. Is it really "Men choose a spouse and look downward, but women look upward?"
There are two people around me who are in their thirties and have not found a boyfriend so far, but the reasons are different. It is worth pondering after reading it.
Example 1: Xiao Ya is about to 33. She looks so beautiful but also very pretty. She graduated from college and is over 1.6 meters tall. She works in advertising design. She is active, serious and responsible in work. She is very calm and wants to apply for a civil servant. She has introduced many partners at home, and some of them are better than her and there is no news after meeting. If she is not as good as hers, she doesn't want to contact her or chat on WeChat a few times, it will be left alone.
so anxious that her mother was anxious and couldn't sleep well. I'm afraid she will become an older single woman. But Xiaoya doesn't take it seriously at all. Her mother felt that she was in good condition and felt that the other party was not allowed to go with her. Just like this, year by year, I felt more and more that I could not find a boy with my age and work ability.
Example 2. Tian Tianyan is about to go to the fourth place. But there has never been a partner. Relatives and friends used to introduce them to me, but later she was scolded back again and again, and when she saw that she was determined, she avoided her. Why?
It turns out that she has always fallen in love with an individual boss, a few years younger than her. When she met him during a job recruitment, she felt that this man was so handsome. Since then, the two have left contact information. The man also asked her about her well-being. After a long time, she fell into it. The relationship between the two people changes. Although I knew that the other party had a beautiful wife and a daughter. But she didn't care. The two of them had been secretly together for twelve or thirteen years.
Family members and relatives and friends introduced the partner she refused directly without even looking at. At first, he either didn't want to look for it or felt that he couldn't get over this hurdle. He always felt that men were the most handsome in her heart, and they were eloquent and could make money. Although the man did not spend much money on her, the seeds of love would take root and sprout once they were planted. It is said that women in love are stupid, and this sentence is best to use on her. All the great youth is used in this relationship and cannot be extricated.
Now that the man is getting older, it is obvious that it is impossible for the man to divorce and marry her. She couldn't let go, and she found something she liked and felt it was difficult to find. Those who are older or those who are raising children cannot accept it, so they simply insist on not looking for it. It is great to be alone.
In fact, in summary, the first type of they hope that there is not much difference between the two parties and themselves, and they hope that the other party is better and handsome than themselves. Most of them value men's external conditions, such as education, character, family, career, etc. The existence of this phenomenon of is why many women with high education choose their mates invisibly limit their scope of choosing a mate. I feel that I am not as good as myself. Many men with high education do not use education as their main blind dates. They actually don't want their other party to be much better than themselves.
They will prefer to choose smaller ones, gentle and family-oriented. So this also makes many highly educated women single. It’s not that they can’t find true love, they are unwilling to let go of their stature and accept others, and perhaps fate is hard to come by. But how can there be so many prince charming and tall, rich and handsome in life? Boyfriend should also accept and appreciate it!
The second one: Tian Nan gave us deep thoughts: Even if the meat in other people's bowl is snatched, it is someone else's, and you have to serve it yourself. Don’t waste your best years on men who cannot be entrusted. and may not realize anything now. When you are really old, when you have no one to accompany you, will you feel worthless for your efforts when you were young?
Marriage is a major event for everyone in their lifetime. Don’t compromise or make concessions.
I hope more older single women can avoid more anxiety in marriage issues, don’t underestimate yourself, and don’t look down on yourself too much. Be able to keep your tinted glasses from blocking your vision with a calm attitude, and appropriately relax and examine and control your mate choice range.
Finally, I wish every older single woman can treat her marriage and feelings rationally and truly marry her love.
or above only represents personal opinions. I hope to forgive any inappropriate circumstances. If you have different opinions, we can discuss them together in the comment section.
