chat with a friend.
Speaking of why she didn't want to get married, she said that because she found that the marriages of the people around her were not very good. Even said that there was no one around her, the marriage was what she wanted, which made her yearn for marriage.
This is her voice, and at the same time, this seems to be the common idea of many young people today.
Marriage sounds so sacred, and everyone who enters marriage once had so longing.
However, if you really stay in it, many people will find that everything seems not that good.
is not particularly happy, and even says that it often doesn’t feel very good, but is just quite disappointed.
has never been like what fairy tales say. From then on, the two of them have lived a very good life. And why this situation is caused by the other party, and in fact there are also their own factors.
From the beginning, I didn’t choose the right person.
Some people get married and find someone who likes them more and they also like them very much.
There is a relationship between them, but when they are in love, they only care about eating, watching movies and playing together. They have never understood each other well and have never seen what kind of person the other person is clearly.
Some people have married one person, but they may not have much affection between each other. However, it is just because they are old and are urging them to be too powerful. Because the conditions seem to be appropriate, they just found one.
does not have much liked elements, and they don’t even know each other’s views and living habits at all.
. Whether you like it or not, if you don’t really talk to each other about something before getting married, and have experienced a lot together, your values are not similar at all, and your personalities are not so consistent at all. After getting married, it is easy to have problems.
When getting along day by day, it is easy to feel disliked by each other and always feel that some of the other's behaviors can't stand it.
When each other is not on the same channel, it will be very difficult to communicate. No one can understand each other, and they will only feel that the other party is unreasonable.
I was too casual before marriage and didn’t know how to choose well. After getting married, I would inevitably pay the price for it. It is true that people don’t choose the right one, no matter how they do it, they will only be wrong.
doesn’t know how to get along with each other and doesn’t manage it well.
Many people are indeed very cautious before getting married. They know each other enough and recognize each other more, so they firmly stand by each other and form a family with each other.
Even so, it didn't last long after marriage, and the relationship just became more rigid soon.
is indeed a relatively good fit. Unfortunately, living a life is not about the soul, it only involves the firewood, rice, oil and salt, and many trivialities.
For those things, we should discuss them together and deal with them well. They just have more personality and are unwilling to compromise.
is more than to accommodate each other, tolerate each other, and tolerate each other, and tolerate each other, and give more. More people only think about themselves, thinking why they are so, and why they are not giving in to themselves.
is relatively self-centered and is more calculating, and he doesn't know how to get along with the other person. As a result, in repeated conflicts, they are relatively disappointed, thinking that the other person does not seem to be the one who understands him and can live with him.
It has never been so easy for people to get along with each other, especially when they live under the same roof, it is even more likely to become bumpy and stumbling. They need to work together well, be more considerate and slowly find a better model.
However, too many people don’t have that kind of mind and don’t want to do so at all.
After the relationship faded, I never tried my best.
No matter how passionate love is, in the end, it will only become boring.
Even if there is no big problem with each other, everything is still booming, but when you look at each other, you always feel that it is quite boring, as if something is missing.
At this time, add more snacks to the other party, create some romance, and always put your mind at home, so the relationship will be more harmonious.
However, many people will only let it go, and even begin to be distracted and look for excitement elsewhere.
Whether you let each other go, no longer treat each other well, or you really have people outside who shouldn’t have, and have feelings that shouldn’t have, it can be imagined that the impact on marriage will only be great.
has gone through many years together. In the end, many people will even end their marriages because of this and will never have a future.
After getting married, there has never been any saying that after being together for a long time, the relationship will be stable enough, everything will be safer, there will be no more variables, and that person will never leave, and will always be there.
Every stage cannot be taken lightly. It also needs to be performed well and warmed a heart. It takes a long time, but letting a heart cool and pushing a person away for a few moments is enough.
Most marriages are not very good and not very happy, this is indeed true.
After all, people are really complicated. It is really difficult to be with one person and be satisfied with each other.
Even so, we don’t have to be too pessimistic about marriage.
Life is an experience. We always have to try it before we know what everything looks like.
Happiness is difficult, but if we know how to screen, know how to manage well after getting married, always be on the same side as each other, and be able to appropriately lower our expectations and think more about the other person's goodness, everything will not be so unsatisfactory.
There are too many things, things themselves are one aspect, how you view and do it, which is also very important.
Many times, it’s not that the marriage is bad, but that we who are in the marriage have not done well.
text/Tan Meng
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