About love, Xu Zhimo has a very beautiful saying in "Forget Yourself": "At least once in your life, forget yourself for someone, don't seek results, don't seek companions, don't ask for once, don't ask for you to love me. I just want to meet you in my most beautiful years!"
It is also a very happy thing to meet a beautiful love in the most beautiful years. This beauty is fantasized, anticipated and pursued by us. It is precisely because the imagined love is too beautiful that when we encounter a fate, once we are addicted to it, we can easily be unable to extricate ourselves.
It is undoubtedly a lucky thing to meet a sincere love, and we will be happy to enjoy it. However, some love has a false appearance, which is sweet and affectionate on the surface, but in fact it is just false love, and uses sweet words to play with feelings. Therefore, in the face of love, we can lose our minds, but we cannot tolerate completely losing ourselves and are always in a state of loss.
For women, they should not be blind in the face of love, or even sacrifice themselves for love at all costs. Women should know that when they meet a man who truly loves you, they will take the initiative to care about you, feel sorry for you, and think about you, rather than just enjoying your efforts and ignoring your feelings. If you meet a man who doesn’t love you, no matter how much you give, he will accept it for granted and will not give you the same efforts.
Johnson also said: "Love is the combination of two souls."
A sincere love requires two people to cherish and manage. No matter how well a person’s falseness is, he will be exposed sooner or later. If a woman wants to know whether a man really loves you, she must also learn to analyze and observe rationally. If she does not lose herself, she will not be hurt all the time.
A man who truly loves you will not have these three "out of control" behaviors in front of you. Women must understand this truth so that they will not be hurt ruthlessly.
01 I won’t lose my temper at you without restraint and I’m not patient.
Sukhomlinsky said: "Real love not only requires love, but also requires mutual insight into each other's inner world."
If you truly love someone, you will take the initiative to guess the other person's thoughts and consider the other person's feelings. When encountering things, you will also consider the other person, rather than wanting to control everything and standing on the commanding heights of this relationship.
When a man is impatient in a relationship and loses his temper at will, some women will foolishly think that this is just a man's personality. As long as you are more understanding, men can see their own good and their own strengths.
However, for such men, they are not what women imagine, but because they think that a woman loves him, they have the right to squander the woman's love unscrupulously. This will not make them love this woman more, but will instead make them begin to look down on a woman and a relationship. Such a man cannot treat a woman sincerely and love her sincerely.
Women understand this, so they should understand that when a man who truly loves you, he will not lose his temper with you unscrupulously, be patient with you, and do not consider your feelings.
02 Will not be ambiguous with other opposite sexes and do not consider your feelings.
Chernishevsky said: "What does loving someone mean? It means being happy for his happiness, doing everything that needs to be done to make him happier, and getting happiness from it."
When a man truly loves a woman, their affection and loyalty are proactive and sincere, not intentionally expressed. If a man doesn't love you at all, then no matter how much sweet words he says to you, it will not change the fact that he doesn't love you.
A man who doesn’t have you in his heart will not pay too much attention to his words and deeds when he gets along with other opposite sexes. When he meets a beautiful woman, he will also like to get along with him or even show his attention.When you are not there, he will even have ambiguous relationships with other opposite sexes and will not care about how you will feel in the future.
In the face of love, women must learn to observe this behavior of men. A man who truly loves you will definitely not have an ambiguous relationship with other opposite sexes, and this incident makes you angry and sad and disappointed.
03 You will not be left alone at any time.
Before, we often saw such news, two people quarreled, and then the man left on his own when he got angry, regardless of the safety of the woman and his feelings. When encountering such a man, women should keep their eyes open and don’t think that men are just impulsive. A man who has you in his heart will not leave you alone, even if he is angry, and will make you helpless and sad.
Chernishevsky also said: "The meaning of love is to help the other party improve, and at the same time improve yourself."
A man with love in his heart will definitely consider more for you and worry more about your mood. In order to make you happy, he will constantly ask himself to become a more qualified and competent partner. Under the constant request of a man, he will turn these things that are good to you into a habit. No matter what conflicts he encounters, he will not easily change these habits. Even if there are some disputes between you, he will put your safety first.
When you are with a man, if you want to know whether he really loves you, it depends on what position he puts you. In short, a man who truly loves you will definitely not leave your safety issues behind.
