Someone said: "Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, either the east wind overwhelms the west wind or the west wind overwhelms the east wind." Occasionally, you retreat and I advance, and everyone has their own chances of winning, so it is considered to be peaceful.
But if you unfortunately meet a foolish filial man, then your daughter-in-law will have to let the wind and rain blow. Xiao Qi is such an unfortunate daughter-in-law, and she is also a full-time daughter-in-law with her palm facing up.
Xiao Qi and her husband Daqi met through blind dates, and their mother-in-law has been involved in the process of marriage. Daqi lost his father since childhood and was raised by his mother. Therefore, he was considerate and respectful to his mother from the bottom of his heart.
I had talked about two girlfriends before, and they both broke up in a hurry in just half a year. The ex-girlfriends' farewell words were all "You mother-in-law, come with your mother!" The reason for breaking up is that Daqi's mother interfered in her son's life too much, and the girls felt that such a mother-in-law was too uncomfortable to get along with.
Later, through the introduction of relatives, Da Qi and Xiao Qi met. Xiao Qi is a gentle and quiet girl. She has been a famous good girl since she was a child. Da Qi fell in love with Xiao Qi's gentleness and virtuousness at first glance.
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What about Xiao Qi? He had no opinion on Da Qi. The other party had a straight facial features and spoke appropriately, but he didn't feel moved. Later, under the constant matchmaking of relatives and Daqi's pursuit, they began to talk about marriage with Daqi.
Less than a month after the two confirmed their relationship, Daqi took Xiaoqi home to meet his mother. The two women met for the first time, without a sword-like match, only a happy conversation, which was specifically manifested as Daqi's mother talking loudly and Daqi's girlfriend listened and agreed.
Then, the mother and son exchanged opinions and agreed that the girl was suitable for her family and was a girl who could live a down-to-earth life. So, Daqi's mother began to start arranging the marriage in full swing.
During the process, Xiao Qi had some ideas, but was turned a blind eye to her by her prospective mother-in-law. Xiao Qi mentioned it to Da Qi, and Da Qi replied to her, "Just as my mother's wishes, I will get married once in my life, it is appropriate to make her happy."
Xiao Qi must be unhappy, but she has been used to obedient at home since she was a child, so she couldn't say anything refuted, and the wedding was not required to be paid and worked hard, so she persuaded herself to obey her mother-in-law's opinion.
On the days after the marriage, Xiao Qi followed her husband's words and resigned. Da Qi said this: "Our family doesn't have the same kind of melons and two dates. My mother is looking forward to holding her grandson. You can raise it well at home and get pregnant as soon as possible, so that my mother can enjoy the joy of family life."
The mother-in-law also kept persuading her, because her son worked hard outside and needed someone who knew the cold and hot to serve tea and water to let his son work with peace of mind and not worry about housework.
Xiao Qi's original job was administration, and he got three or four thousand yuan a month. His usual relationship with colleagues is very good. When her husband asked her to resign, the young sisters in the office looked envious and felt that it was so happy that they would not have to look at people's faces in the workplace. So Xiao Qi followed everyone's opinions and resigned.
After resigning, my life was calm. Apart from preparing three meals a day, I was just watching books and dramas. My mother-in-law often made an appointment with her friends to go out, and it was comfortable to leave her alone at home.
But my mother-in-law has a hobby and always likes to gather a bunch of relatives and friends to come to her house for dinner on holidays. And every time, he asked Xiao Qi to cook in person, saying that his daughter-in-law has good skills, so he can eat at home with peace of mind.
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More than a month after the marriage, the mother-in-law organized her first family gathering, which means to thank the relatives for their efforts before and after their son's wedding. After organizing the party, the mother-in-law said to Daqi: "This time we are entertaining relatives at home. Your wife has good cooking skills. Let her cook for us, eat healthy at home, and chat and play cards after eating. It will definitely be more comfortable than eating in a restaurant before."
Daqi told Xiaoqi about his mother's arrangements, but Xiaoqi didn't say anything to refuse.After all, I cook every day. I can’t be too old to be tired. I am entertaining relatives for the first time after marriage, and showing off my skills can be regarded as a demonstration of my ability.
So, she bought and prepared two days in advance, and spent most of the day she was busy preparing for the guests. However, when she was about to wash her hands and serve her for dinner, she found that the table was already a mess. Only then did Xiao Qi realize why the aunts and aunts were so active when serving the dishes, and she thought they were sharing the burden for her.
Xiao Qi hurriedly pulled a few bites of rice and leftovers, and her mother-in-law arranged for her to clean up because they needed to start entertainment after meals and use a clean table. Xiao Qi was busy again, cleaned the restaurant and continued to clean the kitchen, and after finishing his work, he was no longer in the mood to eat.
In the evening, Xiao Qi complained to her husband about not having lunch at noon. Da Qi looked incredible: "Then why don't you leave you some food? A cooker can still starve himself. Why didn't you wait for you? Is there a lot of people waiting for you alone? You cook so many dishes, and it's cold when you finish cooking and serving the table."
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Xiao Qi was so angry that he didn't know how to reply, and he was very angry, but he couldn't express it. After this, every family gathering, my mother-in-law would greet a bunch of relatives to her home, and then she would cook and clean the dishes, except during pregnancy and confinement.
This year's Mid-Autumn Festival, when the child was about to be one year old, the mother-in-law proposed to get together at home and celebrate her child's birthday. Daqi proposed to book a private room in the hotel, so that relatives can experience the dishes outside. They always eat at home and may be tired of everyone.
But the old mother said, "Relatives all say that your wife's meals are better than those outside. They all fall in love with our family for dinner. It is more lively for the children to hold their birthdays at home." Da Qi felt that his mother wanted to be at home, so she would be at home, so she turned to arrange specific matters for Xiao Qi.
Xiao Qi was unhappy this time. When he thought of having a hard time giving birth to a son, he had to serve his family and aunts and aunts on his good days, he felt a sense of resentment.
But when she disagreed, the reply she received was "You don't have to worry about eating and drinking at home a day, so you're tired of making one more meal? My mother pulled me up, and now she enjoys her life. If she wants to be lively at home, she will buy it at home. If you don't want to do too much, people are waiting to do it."
Xiao Qi was speechless, so she chose to shut up. Daqi thought that this matter was decided so he replied to his mother and arranged it according to her wishes.
Mid-Autumn Festival soon arrived. Early that morning, Xiao Qi packed up his things and took his children out. In the morning, relatives arrived one after another, but they were not seen taking the children home to cook, and no one answered the call.
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When it was lunch time, Da Qi arranged for his relatives to go out for dinner. After he got home, the mother and son began to scold Xiao Qi. The theme is that this silent woman actually disappeared, causing them to lose all their faces. She must not give her a good face when she comes back.
Time is lost in the angry words of the mother and son. When Daqi received a message at night, "Die, there are so many people waiting to be a cow for you, then I abdicate and give in to the wise."
It turns out that people who are silent and silent are easy to do big things. Xiao Qi, who usually swallows his anger, "turns up the table" to Daqi and his son. Whoever wants to cook, whoever wants to cook, doesn't even make a wife, let alone cooking.
This news seems incredible to the mother and son, but it does not attract attention. In their hearts, a woman who lives by relying on her husband to give pocket money will turn back to seek their protection after a little setback in life.
However, things didn't work as they wished. Soon, Daqi received Xiao Qi's divorce agreement , and did not make any requests for property, but only required custody of his son. And he said that if he did not agree to the resolution of the agreement, he would take legal means and the marriage was decided.
The relatives and friends around me all think that Xiao Qi is in a blessing but not in a blessing. Now that his son is still young, he has no job and has a husband who earns money to support his family. Isn’t it good to stay at home and be a rich wife?
, but is it really good? As a married woman, I think she woke up too late. Such a husband and such a mother-in-law, bystanders only saw a glamorous material life, and never put themselves in their shoes and thought about the mental pressure that their daughter-in-law suffered.
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Relying on his son's filial piety, the mother-in-law interferes in everything from before and after marriage; the son is in his heart and eyes, and the essence of marrying a wife is to be filial to the elderly mother.
Let me ask, which girl is willing to live such a life? In such a family, which parent is willing to let his daughter live a long life? Fortunately, Xiao Qi finally lived through three years of marriage and became "sober in the world".
: A girl’s marriage depends not only on the other person’s family background, but more importantly on character. Whether it is your boyfriend or the other party’s parents, you have to feel wronged at the beginning of your relationship. It is better not to get married than to get married. Otherwise, the tears shed after marriage are really the water that I entered my mind at the beginning.
Xiao Qi's misfortune lies in meeting a foolish filial man and a mother who has no sense of boundaries, so with the double blessing, she quickly became unbearable. It is rare to see such foolish filial men, but there are quite a few mother-in-law who have no sense of boundaries.
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What should I do if I encounter such a problem?
First of all, in my opinion, if the mother-in-law does things too much, she should clearly and strongly fight back when she is the first time. She should not tolerate her behavior, otherwise it will only make the other party worse.
Secondly, girls really cannot lose their jobs, whether they are having a good salary, this is the basis for having the right to speak at home after marriage. Especially in front of mother-in-law, it is difficult for women who rely on their husbands to be uphold.
Finally, try to win the support of your husband, comment less on your mother-in-law's behavior in front of your husband, only convey the process of the matter, and then weakly say a few words of tea in the tea. I believe that men who have no brain problems will understand how to choose their position over time.
