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Couples must be one mind to be stable in marriage. If one party has an external intention, then the marriage will sooner or later, and even if there is no divorce, it will never be happy. Husband and wife are a community of interests, and husband and wife's property is common property, and no one can take the initiative to deal with it casually.
For ordinary small families, buying a house is a huge expense, and the couple must discuss it. After buying a house, the couple's names should be written on the property certificate, because this is the joint property of the couple and is protected by law.
As a mother-in-law, try to avoid getting involved in the affairs of your son and daughter-in-law. In families where mother-in-law likes to get involved in the marriage of their sons and daughters-in-law, there will be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at the worst, and in the worst, the young couple will divorce. Therefore, the mother-in-law must be open-minded. When she is old, she must retreat to the second line of the family. Let the son and daughter-in-law solve the problem on the front line.
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Son and daughter-in-law buy a house, and the mother-in-law asks her son to hide it from her daughter-in-law, and only writes the name of her mother-in-law on the property certificate. After learning about this, my daughter-in-law was so angry that she had a big argument with her mother-in-law and husband, and finally insisted on divorce.
This happened to Cai Xiaoling. Although the house was written with her mother-in-law's name, when she divorced, Cai Xiaoling still got the property she deserved. Let's listen to what she has experienced.
Self-reporter: Cai Xiaoling
Age: 35 years old
Occupation: White-collar workers in foreign companies
City: Fuxin
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When my husband and I got married, because we had no money on hand and our in-laws didn't buy us a wedding house, we lived with our in-laws. My father-in-law was in poor health, always sick and unable to work, so his in-laws had no money at hand.
After getting married, my father-in-law's condition suddenly worsened and he was almost hospitalized. A year later, my father-in-law died of illness, and my husband and mother-in-law were very sad. In order to treat my father-in-law, the family still owed debts, but in the end they were all out of their own money.
At that time, I was just pregnant and only been over a month. Maybe she was tired while handling her father-in-law's funeral, but she ended up having a miscarriage. Both her husband and mother-in-law said that misfortune would not happen alone. I was not particularly sad, thinking that the financial conditions are not good now, and I am still young, so it would be fine to have children in two years.
Two years later, my family paid off all the debts owed, my husband and I also increased a lot, and our financial conditions were getting better and better. I was planning to have a child, but it was strange that I couldn't get pregnant. Before, because I didn’t want a child, I sometimes took birth control pills.
I went to the hospital for a visit. The doctor said I was fine. It might be because of the infertility caused by too much work and too much pressure, and it might be the man's problem. I told the doctor about me taking birth control pills. The doctor said that it might be affected by this, but it will recover slowly and I will definitely get pregnant.
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After I got home, I asked my husband to check up. My husband said that I was pregnant before, which means that his health was fine, so he refused to go and see. I don't think what he said is unreasonable. Since he doesn't want to go to the hospital, then forget it, I won't force him.
, but I didn't get pregnant later, and I don't know what the problem was. I am very busy with work and I don’t care about this for the time being, so I keep dragging on the issue of having a baby. My mother-in-law was extremely anxious and chanted in our ears every few days, which made people feel upset, so I often had conflicts with her.
In a blink of an eye, my husband and I have been married for 6 years. Because we always have conflicts with our mother-in-law, and we have some money on hand, I discussed with my husband that we should buy a house and then move out to order. Maybe after the order, I would be able to get pregnant smoothly without my mother-in-law's thoughts.
My husband was a little hesitant and said that his father had passed away and his mother became a person. If we move out and live alone, we will feel sad. I said, after we have children, we will live with her and let her help us take care of the children.
Because I wanted a child, my husband agreed. He also believed that in a relaxed environment, I would be more likely to get pregnant.Because my mother-in-law was worried that we would move out and order, she would feel sad, so she didn't tell her about buying a house.
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At this moment, the son and daughter-in-law of the mother-in-law and sister divorced, and the mother-in-law's sister came to our house crying. The mother-in-law kept comforting her, saying that the house she and the old man had worked hard to buy were halfway divided by their daughter-in-law.
Because the house was bought by the son and daughter-in-law after marriage, the money was paid by the old couple, and the money was bought in full. The property certificate states the name of the son and daughter-in-law. It is impossible to prove that the money was paid by the old couple during the divorce. The daughter-in-law insisted that it was bought by the couple's money, and in the end it was half of it.
When my mother-in-law's sister said these words, I just listened and didn't express any comments. Anyway, every family has a difficult sutra, so don’t say who is good or bad. Everyone has different positions and different feelings, so their practices will be different.
I check real estate information online every day and go around to see the house with my husband, which took a lot of time and energy. Later, I finally chose a house and immediately paid the down payment. We were still short of some money on hand, so I said I should not borrow some money!
My husband couldn't say that he didn't have enough money and asked me not to worry about the house anymore. I am very busy with work, and my husband is actively taking on the matter. Anyway, the house has been chosen, so I really don’t care about other things.
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After more than a month, the house was settled. Because it was well-decorated, you can move in immediately. I was very happy, so I went to tell my mother-in-law, because we were going to move out next, so we must tell my mother-in-law.
But when I told my mother-in-law that we had bought a house, my mother-in-law's expression was very calm. I felt that she must have known it. It was probably my husband who secretly told her. Later, I started packing up my things and contacted the moving company.
But two days before moving, I suddenly thought of the real estate certificate. Logically speaking, I must sign or something for applying for a real estate certificate, and maybe facial recognition is required! My husband didn’t ask me to apply for a real estate certificate, so how did he do it?
I went to ask my husband, and my husband tried to let me ignore it. I felt something was wrong, so I asked to see the property certificate. When I asked my husband for the property certificate before, he said he was in the car; sometimes he said he was busy; sometimes he said he would go back and give it to me...
Now I feel that he seems to be deliberately dragging it, so I insisted on looking at the property certificate. My husband wanted to drag it again, and I quarreled with him. I asked him what was wrong, why did he hide this and was unwilling to take out the real estate certificate? I also have half of the property rights of this house, and I have the right to read the property certificate.
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In the end, my husband had no choice but to take out the property certificate. It turned out that the real estate certificate was written with the name of my mother-in-law alone. At that moment, I was completely stunned. What does this mean? Why do you need to write your mother-in-law’s name?
It turns out that because I haven't gotten pregnant for a long time, my mother-in-law thinks that my husband and I have an unstable marriage and may divorce one day. Because of my mother-in-law and my sister's family, my mother-in-law thought that if my husband and I divorced, they would have half of their property.
So when my husband told her that we were going to buy a house, she came up with an idea to let her husband hide it from me and write her own name on the property certificate. The mother-in-law said that she only had one son. Regardless of whether her son divorced or not, her property belonged to her son. My husband thought she made sense, so he secretly took her mother-in-law to get a real estate certificate.
I was so angry that I didn’t know what to say. I was wholeheartedly treating them, but they were guarding me like this and were still cheating me. I filed for divorce. My husband didn't want to divorce, but I decided to divorce him. During the divorce, I hired a lawyer. Because I had the transfer records of money, I finally got back my worthy property.
A year after divorce, I remarried. After half a year of remarriage, I became pregnant. Later, I gave birth to a big fat boy. My husband and in-laws were very nice to me. I heard that my ex-husband has never remarried, and I don’t know the specific reason. My ex-mother-in-law was very distressed and was in poor health. She often went to the hospital.
Conclusion:
smart opposes cleverness and mistakes. Cai Xiaoling's ex-mother-in-law felt that she was very smart and came up with a good idea for her son. But unexpectedly, because of this idea, my son and daughter-in-law really got divorced. After the divorce, the son did not remarry, and the mother-in-law was deeply hit and fell ill.
People should not be too greedy. If you have children, you can only work hard. God has the final say in the result. Because the son and daughter-in-law have no children, the mother-in-law thinks they may get divorced, so she is careful of the daughter-in-law. When the daughter-in-law found out, she felt sad, so Cai Xiaoling insisted on divorce.
After marriage, the couple buys a house. As long as the money belongs to the couple, the wife will naturally enjoy half of the property rights, which is protected by law. When the couple bought a house, the name of their mother-in-law was written on the property certificate, which was an infringement of the property rights of their daughter-in-law.
Everyone must protect their legitimate rights and interests. In marriage, if the legitimate rights and interests of his wife are not protected, it is normal for his wife to file for divorce. Husbands and wife should think about each other and must not have the idea of calculating each other, otherwise they will divorce sooner or later.
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