Many times, we always feel unhappy and painful. In fact, the root cause is that we are unwilling to let ourselves go !
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Stop complaining, complaining will torture yourself and disturb others.
There is such a person in his marriage. When encountering a little bit of difficulties, he repeatedly complains and blames others, which leads to the two people always quarrels, the relationship breaks down, and the quarrels that the other party wants to escape.
Once she gets to the point of wanting to divorce, she feels that the other party looks down on her, and she becomes inferior and sensitive, and then likes to complain more. After repeated repetition, she will eventually torture herself!
Psychologist Yu Deji said:
There are challenges in life at all times, and challenges themselves will not bring pain. The internal friction caused by self-struggle is the root of pain
There is no smooth sailing in life at all. What is needed is a positive solution. Complaints are like slowly tasting Chinese medicine, which will only become more and more bitter. Only by facing, solving, and letting go can we see the moon!
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is too sensitive, just to make things difficult for yourself
Colleague Xiao Liu, because he just broke up and was having a break, everyone was talking about the world, and he was alone looking at his phone absent-mindedly!
Later, when he saw his colleagues laughing, he was wondering, were his colleagues laughing at him for being abandoned by his girlfriend?
But he is not sure if others are laughing at him?
So he was so angry that he got off work and went out to drink alone. As a result, he dropped his phone that night!
went back and fell asleep. Because he had no cell phone and no alarm, he slept until 12 noon. So he simply didn't go to work for a whole day!
has no cell phone, and he didn't ask for leave. He went to the factory the next day and was fired. It was a dilapidated house that was raining all night!
can only say that he blames himself for being too sensitive. In fact, his love break has nothing to do with others, it’s just that his heart is at work!
Many times, we don’t need to care about other people’s attitudes or other people’s comments. Caring too much will only add to our worries!
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Excessive revenge, only I can be angry with
My dad is a rough man, my mom is a little careful and sentimental.
Dad always doesn’t remember his mother’s birthday. Once, my mom bought two kilograms of meat by himself. My dad said, why buy such succulent ?
So, my mother took revenge: You don’t care about me, I will buy it myself, and you will tell me!
Once, my mother fell and her hand broke. My father cooked for two days. He felt that my mother could move her other hand, so he still did his own work!
However, my mother felt that she was sick and her husband didn't love her, so she was always worried about this matter!
Another time, my mother took her grandson on the side of the road, and a car suddenly rushed over and was in a hurry. My mother grabbed her grandson, but she was still scratched by the car!
When my dad found out, he was very anxious and scolded my mom!
As a result, my mother cried angry. Is it more important for grandson than wife?
Even though my mother loves her grandson very much, she still can't pass the hurdle in her heart and keeps holding a grudge!
Maybe my dad has forgotten these things, but my mom has been resentful for the rest of his life!
Every time I talk to us, I feel tears and moved. When I first talked about it, we sympathized with it!
However, she said it more and we became numb, but she fell deeper and deeper and more and more painful!
Many times, a word of unintentional to others may hurt us. If we make a big fuss and keep a grudge, really, the only one who can be angry is ourselves, and often others are not hurt!
So! Don’t worry about things. Remember to withdraw in time in pain. Letting go of others is to save yourself !
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I have too much worries, I am tired of myself
There are also people like this in life:
chase my girlfriend, worrying that there is no result! When learning technology, I was worried that I would not be able to find a job then!
When the job is not going well, I want to quit, for fear that the leader will be angry and that I will not be able to find the ideal job!
Eat midnight snacks and are afraid of getting fat, and don’t eat them and are afraid of being hungry!
is wearing a little worse, I am afraid that others will laugh at you!
Deliver takeout, afraid of meeting an acquaintance!
set up a street stall, afraid of meeting your ex-girlfriend!
In short, no matter what you can do, you always look at it too far, and as a result, nothing can be achieved!
I want me to say that in life, the best mentality is:
Don’t make the whole world apart, do your best;
When the dust is settled, accept it calmly.
People live for a lifetime, and they live in mood.
Don’t care about other people’s attitudes and other people’s vision.
Don’t magnify other people’s mistakes infinitely.
Difficulties are temporary. Only by strides,
Life can usher in the dawn, and the willows and flowers are bright!
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