If the two of them are snowing together, they will be considered as having white hair in this life.
The greatest happiness between husband and wife is holding hands and getting old. The couple is not alone when they are young. Loneliness is nothing. When they are old, life alone is really hard to bear.
Someone asked online: "Are you willing to walk in front of your wife?" Many people below
answered, 90% of the answers were willing, and those who answered unwillingly wanted to take good care of their wife.
This is the cruelty of reality. Most people who are ahead will receive good care, and the one who is alone is likely to endure hardships.
72-year-old Mr. Geng is like this. His wife suddenly died of cerebral infarction and left him alone in his hometown. Because he was taken care of by his wife, he had almost no ability to live, and he could not even do things like washing and cooking.
In order to arrange my old age, Mr. Geng thought of several plans.
Plan 1, go to a nursing home.
Uncle Geng investigated several nursing homes around him. Some of them have average conditions and some have good environments. Of course, the price difference is also large, ranging from 2,000 to 5,000 yuan, which costs tens of thousands a year, and the cost is quite large.
Spending money is one aspect. What Mr. Geng couldn't accept is that after moving in, he was not so free. He needed to ask for leave even if he wanted it out. He didn't like being restricted and felt that such a life was too uncomfortable.
You can only bring some clothes when going to the nursing home, because you only have a cabinet and a bed, and your own space is limited. Moreover, if you live in two people in a room, if the other person has a bad personality, every day you live together will be a torment.
Thinking of this, Uncle Geng gave up the idea of going to a nursing home. He was only 72 years old and wanted to live a free life.
Plan 2, live with your son.
Uncle Geng has a son who has already started a family. He usually lives in the provincial capital and rarely returns to his hometown.
Daughter-in-law is married far away. Considering that the other party is also an only daughter, most of the son will accompany his wife to his parents' home during the holidays. Uncle Geng doesn't mind, and thinks that the couple has a good relationship.
After the wife passed away, the son and daughter-in-law came home for a while and found that the daughter-in-law loved to clean, and there was no drop of water for the washed bowls, and the floor would be dragged several times a day. The home shoes worn in the bedroom and living room were different.
It’s okay to live together in a short period of time. If we get along for a long time, Mr. Geng will inevitably be disliked by his daughter-in-law. At that time, the one who is in a difficult situation will be his son.
So, Uncle Geng also gave up the idea of going to his son's house.
Plan 3, please a nanny.
Uncle Geng asked some friends around him that the salary of nanny is mostly around 4,000, so he knew it.
After a friend's introduction, Aunt Huang came to his house, cooked a few dishes for him, and then scrubbed the kitchen. From her quick work, Mr. Geng concluded that the other party was a reliable person.
After a day, Aunt Huang asked him, "What do you think I work?"
Uncle Geng nodded and said, "Yes, the food I cook is in line with the taste, I am willing to ask you to take care of me, but there are three conditions. I wonder if you are willing?"
First, you take care of all the housework.
includes groceries and daily necessities. You just need to keep a record and I will reimburse the expenses. It turns out that these things were done by my wife. I don’t know anything. I will not worry about them if I leave them to you.
Second, talk and exercise with me.
I like to go for a walk in the park. I am bored alone. If someone is talking around me, I feel much more relaxed.
Every once in a while, I will go to the hospital for a physical examination. Then you will accompany me and help me with errands to reduce my burden.
3, you need to live here.
I am old and sometimes it happens suddenly.
This is how my wife is. From the onset of the disease to the inability to speaking, it only takes a while because she is a little late to the hospital and her life is gone.
And I am afraid of loneliness. Only with you by my side at night can I feel safe.
Aunt Huang was stunned for a moment and replied, "I can agree to your first two items, but the third one doesn't work. I'm sorry, I can't do it."
"Why? I can increase the money. The average nanny's salary is 4,000, and I'll give you 5,000. That's fine."
"It's not a problem of money." Aunt Huang explained: "The reason I came out to be a nanny is to marry my son. It's fake to say that I don't care about money, but in comparison, I care more about reputation. I am a single woman, living with you, and it's easy to be misunderstood when it is rumored. At that time, it will be troublesome to affect my son's marriage."
After saying that, Aunt Huang really left, leaving Mr. Geng stunned.
He couldn't figure it out. He wanted to find a nanny at home. Are the conditions very harsh?
To be honest, not many people can accept it.
Nanny also has her own work system. Some people don’t understand it and think that nanny just follows the employer’s arrangements and does whatever she asks to do.
In fact, most nannies work on time, and some will work at the employer's house around the clock, taking care of laundry, cooking and other housework. At night, they will return to their homes.
There are also zero-hour workers, and they will make an appointment to help you cook, or simply clean up the hygiene, and leave after you finish your work. She also needs to rush to the next employer's house.
If you want to hire a nanny at home, you need to make clear the requirements in advance. Generally speaking, only elderly people who are difficult to take care of themselves will consider this requirement. After all, the cost is relatively high.
And Mr. Geng is in good health. He is just afraid of loneliness and wants someone to talk to him at night. It is inevitable that people will misunderstand it, and it is reasonable to be rejected.
From another perspective, he is just too dependent and is taken care of by his wife too well, and he doesn't want to do anything.
In fact, it can have another way of retirement, that is, to be independent.
When my grandmother passed away, my 76-year-old grandfather didn't know how to do anything. Everyone was worried about his life, but he didn't want to go to his children's house.
Grandpa learned to cook at home. After a while, he went to see him. He not only knows how to cook, but also steam buns.
Therefore, learning life skills has nothing to do with age. As long as you have a positive heart, you can arrange your old age life.
There are 8 or 10 things that are not satisfactory in this life. If you leave a single in your later years, there is no need to be depressed, especially male compatriots, who are used to being taken care of and learn to take care of themselves and their families. In this way, when you need it, you will not be so passive. People who can do housework, whether in life or spirit, will not be so empty.
What do you think about this? Do you think it’s reliable to find a nanny to retire?
