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All things in the world, only after experiencing it can you understand: Where is there any absolute thing?
In terms of the sibling relationship where family affection originated, they have never been relatives, but relatives who have advanced family affection!
If someone insists on defining the relationship between brothers and sisters as relatives, how "happy" should this person be? After all, people who can be called relatives for life with brothers and sisters are people who have reasonable values and exchange with each other.
Otherwise, in front of reality and human nature, if you look at this "family relationship" again, you will see the following heart-wrenching situations:
① People who can't stand their own good are their own self-righteous relatives - brothers and sisters;
②People who give not only is not grateful, but are responded to malicious intentions are brothers and sisters;
③You are, you can’t stand you well, you don’t live well, and you look down on your bad life are brothers and sisters;
④People who use you to the forefront, don’t need you to the back, but think they take it for granted but never give are brothers and sisters.
No one wants to deliberately deteriorate his brothers and sisters, only who is willing to feel such heart-wrenching truth from the perspective of true humanity and reality, through personal experience.
True, only those who help each other and unite with each other can be relatively harmonious to the end. Once each lives independently and has a huge gap in status, human nature will come out to make trouble for the "relative relationship".
At that time, people would go through the following three stages without exception:
st stage - attempt to repair the relationship between relatives: explain what to yourself or try to let others see their true feelings and care through their own efforts!
Stage 2 - Sadness leaves fantasy: I believe that as long as time goes by, the other party can figure out everything right and wrong, and then come with the warmth and passionate love of the past, embracing yourself without grudges and reconciliation.
Stage 3 - Complete disconnection: After several repairs, several efforts, cherishing and redeem, all of them can only make you feel stabbed, and simply completely disconnection will no longer be consumed.
Many times, if it weren’t for the actual experience that made people heart-wrenching, how many people would really be willing to break off contact with their brothers and sisters?
On the road of life, some multiple-choice questions are "must-have" decisions. After all, pain and stabbing are the most unbearable perceptions of people. If you want to say goodbye to this pain, you can only break the connection between the pain and stabbing relationships that bring you pain.
It is only because there are often too many people. It is easy to stop losses in the face of the so-called "family relationship" and future "family relationship" and difficult to stop losses in a timely manner!
And those who truly make stop loss in time or finally achieve stop loss will truly understand:
One-way business relationship is a dream that I don’t want to think about for how long I have persisted! Only I know the bitterness and pain!
The three truths of life that only after the brothers and sisters were cruelly broken off, they realized:
1: The relationship between brothers and sisters is not worth it. No matter how you insist on cherishing it, it is also a destiny of self-consuming
The relationship between people. Once you lose the sense of balance, the termination of the relationship is the only good way.
Please believe that all relationships are out of balance, which is nothing more than the following two reasons:
① The value of your existence determines that you are dispensable in this relationship;
② The person you are facing is never a grateful person.
Although brothers and sisters born to the same parents will have something in common to the greatest extent.
but is not excreted. When it is deeply disturbed by human nature and reality, due to different people's cognition, vision, and even circles, it causes "completely different" except for their respective "unlikely". The relationship between
has never been reluctant to accommodate, but can be exchanged for the continued health.
In fact, many people do not know or are unwilling to admit that the relationship between brothers and sisters is more realistic than any relationship.
When the relationship between each other has been consumed for too long, it is much more sober and wiser to break the connection with each other than blindly insisting on catering!
People who are deeply hurt and consumed by the relationship between brothers and sisters will know that once they break off contact with their brothers and sisters, they will know:
It turns out that once the relationship between brothers and sisters is no longer balanced, it will be like other relationships that are not worth managing. The breakdown will allow you to truly gain a comfortable time in your life. If you can't untie the lumps, don't solve them. Don’t think about things that can’t be thought of! Just be yourself and the rest will go with the wind. Cutting off the wrong family relationship - relative relationship will make you feel happiness and happiness more directly.
, so why can’t you bear to let go, be unwilling to give up, or be unable to let go?
is better to yourself, what's wrong?
2: Whether your life management is related to your brothers and sisters, it is not related to
Whether it is parents or some people with inherent thinking and cognition, they will think:
The relationship between brothers and sisters is the relationship between one prosper and one loss. Between each other, use the strength in one place, and use the heart in one place. Together, we will help each other, no one dares to provoke easily, and be kind to the inside.
However, these ideal states are nothing more than fantasies that are separated from human nature.
You must know that in this real current society, it does not exist if it is separated from human nature!
At any time, if you ignore the fact that "equivalent exchange" and "interest is relationship", you will be slapped in the face one day, which is particularly loud.
Some people just cannot recognize this fact. He also paranoidly believes that as long as he continues to have a relationship with brothers and sisters, his life can be strengthened in any other relationship in helping and being helped.
People who have experienced the stabbing and consumption of brothers and sisters to a certain extent have suddenly discovered after truly breaking off the connection:
It turns out that how your life is going is, it has a continuous connection with whether it has a relationship with brothers and sisters, and it has no connection.
Even between brothers and sisters, they are still independent individuals. No one can rely on anyone for the rest of their lives, and no one can rely on anyone for the rest of their lives.
is very likely. The forced maintenance of some unworthy sibling relationships is a direct factor that makes one's life go downhill. After the connection is broken, life begins to be smooth sailing.
3: Overestimating yourself is the fundamental reason for being stabbed and consumed by brothers and sisters
People are alive. The biggest ignorance is overestimating their position and overestimating their indispensable "charm" in various relationships.
This is an ugly human nature, no one is truly indispensable to anyone.
value is, and the relationship is. The common interests and goals are, and the relationship is.
No one except parents can exist in your life without caring about gains and losses and give to you. No one will be your all-out effort that you never care about rewards.
When the efforts and returns are not proportional, the relationship between people will be a tasteless relationship.
When facing various relationships, the so-called "a pity for abandoning" is nothing more than people who are old and affecting themselves in their own way.
Don’t think that the relationship object you care about very much will also care about you just like yourself. Don’t think that your empathy for the person you are in contact with can bring about empathy for your .
In fact, you have always been you, and he has always been him. You can tie together for interests and values, or you can turn around because you are not allowed.
Who is there anyone who can’t do it? However, people who care about it think it is a worthwhile relationship, and it is a relationship that is valued and valued.
However, people who care about you, no matter what "purpose", will give you the most suitable temperature when you don't have to deliberately. Those who don’t care about you, no matter how much you pay or how much you care about, will not become a long-term guest in your life.
Family affection cannot escape the fate that is influenced by reality.
siblings, ultimately unable to escape the ending of relatives.
Don’t overestimate yourself and do something that is touching yourself!
For the rest of my life, I hope that all your sincere efforts will be treated gently. At the same time, I also hope that you and I can devote more time and energy to self-management in the years when you can tell who you are.
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it is love or friendship, only by meeting the right person at the right time can you achieve the right result!
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Topic Discussion: What do you think is the biggest source of contradiction between brothers and sisters? Leave the comments below to the comments you are not comfortable with!
