Li Bihua said: "Don't test human nature, never do it - it is vulnerable."
People die for money and birds die for food and seek profit, which is the nature. Although there are also people who can stick to their original intentions under the temptation of interests and remain unmoved, from ancient times to the present, these people have only a small number, and most of them are still ordinary people.
people don’t punish themselves for their own sake. This is actually very reasonable. After all, when we come to this world, we must hope to live a happy life, live a good life, fulfill our wishes, and get what we want. Only by taking care of yourself first can you consider others and sacrifice your own interests to help others. I am afraid that only the saints can do it.
seeking profit is human nature. If the way you obtain benefits is formal, legal, and rely on your own ability, then it is natural that you have obtained benefits and live a better life than others. You deserve the corresponding reward if you give.
However, there are always people who want to live a good life and enjoy the treatment that only rich people can get, but they don’t want to give. Therefore, harming others and self-interest becomes their means.
There are many ways to harm others and benefit oneself. In the eyes of people who use any means to achieve their goals, they can get benefits, and they can do even the cruel things. And marriage is also likely to become a shortcut for them to achieve their goals.
As the saying goes, you should not have the intention to harm others, and you should be careful of others. Whether it is a man or a woman, you must understand one truth. Those who carefully calculate you in marriage will not have any love for you at all.
Shakespeare said in " King Lear ": "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with it, it is not true feelings."
"The house my parents bought for me for 380,000 yuan, so that my boyfriend and I failed to enter the marriage hall. My boyfriend and his parents don't think they are wrong, don't think they are calculating me, say that my parents are calculating them, and say that I don't really want to live with their son."
Although Ye Han has made up her mind to break up, blocked and deleted the contact information of her boyfriend and his family, and told her boyfriend not to appear in front of her again, she still couldn't overcome this hurdle in her heart, and didn't know who was right and who was wrong.
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The fuse that made Ye Han break up with her boyfriend was the house Ye Han’s parents bought this year.
"I came from a small county town in another province and was the only daughter at home. Although my family was not very good, my parents were just an ordinary working class and had a low income, but my parents loved me very much and paid everything for me."
7 years ago, Ye Han was admitted to university and went to a second-tier provincial capital to study. Gradually, she fell in love with this city and did not want to go back to her hometown. She wanted to stay in a big city to live. Although his parents repeatedly suggested that Ye Han go back to his hometown to take the civil service exam, have a stable job, find a suitable man to marry, and don’t marry too far, Ye Han insisted on her own ideas, and her parents had to give up their plans and came to the provincial capital.
"Some time ago, my parents asked me if I was qualified to buy a house in the provincial capital. I checked it and it was true that I had paid social security in this city for two years. My parents told me that they wanted to buy a house for me."
The parents planned to sell the house in their hometown as a down payment to buy a house in the provincial capital. Usually, they live in this house and they are responsible for repaying the mortgage. In this way, not only does Ye Han have a house under his name, which is pre-marital property and a guarantee, they can also live in the provincial capital, closer to their daughter, and take care of each other.
"I thought about it for a while and thought this was also a good idea. To be honest, I don't want to marry far away, and I'm worried about my parents' later life. I'm worried that I'm not by my side when my parents encounter an accident. However, I really don't want to live in such a small county. If my parents buy a house here, that would be great."
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do it as soon as possible. Since my daughter also agreed to this method, Ye Han's parents immediately started buying a house.They first quickly sold their house in their hometown, and then ran around with Ye Han to check the properties and check the purchase conditions. In the end, Ye Han's parents chose a two-bedroom apartment.
"The down payment is 380,000 yuan, and you have to pay more than 5,000 yuan in mortgage every month. My mother has retired and her monthly pension is about 2,000 yuan. She went to find a waiter job, and she can earn nearly 3,000 yuan a month. My father also found a job, and she can earn four or five thousand a month. You can also take out this mortgage no matter how you buy the house!" After buying the house, Ye Han looked at the well-decorated and branded house, and looking at the bedroom that was almost the same as her previous home, she felt very happy. In this way, she will always have a mother's home in this provincial capital.
"When it's the weekend, I bring my children here to have a meal. My children and I have a place to sleep. If I'm tired and don't want to cook, I can also bring my husband and children here to have a meal. How comfortable!"
Ye Han did not tell her boyfriend about buying a house, just because she felt it was unnecessary. This is their family's business and has nothing to do with her boyfriend. Not to mention that he is just his boyfriend, he has not yet reached the most critical step. Even his husband has not let him pay a penny, and there is nothing to say.
didn't expect that when his boyfriend found out, he first proposed to visit Ye Han's parents and leave a good impression on his future father-in-law and mother-in-law. When he really went to that new house and talked to Ye Han's parents, he also brought the topic to this point, and he expressed his dissatisfaction, believing that the Ye Han family should not operate like this.
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Ye Han felt strange. Her parents wanted to be closer to their daughter and were willing to leave their hometown and buy a house in the city where their daughter settled in the future. What's wrong with it?
"Isn't this good? My parents live close to each other, so I can take care of them. Also, in this way, we don't have to worry about quarrel over who will go back to during the Chinese New Year and the holidays! My parents are local and can see them at any time. If you want to go back to your hometown, I will definitely not object. Isn't it good to accompany you to see your parents?"
However, the boyfriend was still dissatisfied and said that Ye Han was guarding against himself, distrust of himself, and preparing for divorce, so he wanted to make a pre-marital property. He believed that the existence of this house would harm his interests.
"He said, my parents are in their fifties, and this house requires a 20-year mortgage. My parents cannot work until they are in their seventies and have a stable income to repay the mortgage. In the end, they still have to rely on us."
"He also said that his parents are in poor health, especially his mother has been ill in bed, and is afraid that she will not be able to take care of our children. At that time, it will inevitably depend on my mother. If my mother takes care of her children, she will not be able to work. She depends on my father's salary alone. It is impossible to afford a mortgage. "
At the end of the arguing, the boyfriend roared, which made Ye Han wake up completely: "Why can your parents live so close to you? My parents want to stay in their hometown? You want to respect your parents, I don't want to! They live so close to you, others think I am a son-in-law!"
Ye Han tried many times and finally understood her boyfriend's true thoughts. It turned out that he wanted to buy a big house and wanted to take his parents over to support her. Of course, his father-in-law and mother-in-law also had to be there, otherwise who would be responsible for taking care of the baby?
"No wonder he opposed my parents buying a house. He thought that if we spend money on this house, it would be impossible to give him more money to support him in buying a big house. With his ability, how could he afford to buy a big house? Then I asked him, how big is the house to buy to live in? He said that we lived in the four-bedroom apartment, the master bedroom, and his parents lived in the second bedroom, and the remaining two were children's. Then, I drove him away and told him that my parents would buy a four-bedroom apartment with money, but let his parents live in. My parents had no share. He thought it was so beautiful."
ye Han felt that he had been plotted and insisted on breaking up. My boyfriend refused to give up and went to Ye Han's house to find Ye Han many times, but was beaten out by Ye Han's father.However, he now posts to Moments every day, destroying Ye Han's reputation in Moments and accusing Ye Han's family of plotting against him.
"Is it really that I am thinking too much, or is it that he has failed to plot against me and has revealed his true face?"
Shakespeare once said: "An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a chicken fights for a lifetime and cannot live in peace. On the contrary, if you choose a spouse who is satisfied with you, you will be harmonious for a hundred years and have endless happiness."
In fact, Ye Han doesn't have to worry about who is right and who is wrong, nor does she have to care about her boyfriend's real face. Anyway, she just needs to understand one thing, that is, they have already had a good time and that person is already his ex.
You can see the other person’s true face before marriage. Isn’t it much better than just discovering after marriage, clamoring for divorce, but being tripped by the child to live in hell?
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