It is a feeling that everyone envies, but things don’t go as they wish, not everyone will have such good fortune.
Some divorces are caused by various things because they cannot continue to live, while others are caused by birth, old age, sickness and death.
For some single elderly people, the rest of their lives is still long, and they still want to find someone who knows the warmth and coldness to accompany them. Because of this, many elderly people have plans to remarry.
65-year-old Mr. Wang finally chose 63-year-old Aunt Li to be his wife after several failed blind dates. The day before getting the certificate, Aunt Li suddenly made three requests for Mr. Wang to agree.
After listening to Aunt Li’s request, Uncle Wang said happily: “It’s worthy of being the one I chose. No problem, let’s live like this!”
What did Aunt Li say, making Uncle Wang so happy? Let’s take a look together!
Self-reporter: Wang Liang
My name is Wang Liang, I am 65 years old this year. Before retirement, I was a surgeon. My wife was the head nurse in the same hospital. We have a son and the family has good financial conditions.
Due to busy work, our couple rarely have time to go out since we got married. I originally planned to take my wife to travel around after retirement, but I didn't expect that when I was two years away, my wife died in a car accident, which would have been a big blow to me.
In the first few years after my wife passed away, someone wanted to introduce me to my wife, but I refused. I thought I could hold on to this loneliness, but I overestimated myself after all.
My son has his own family and will come back to see me once a week at most. In the past two years, I have felt more and more lonely.
So, I couldn't stand the loneliness and decided to sign up for a blind date club, wanting to find a partner for myself to spend the rest of my life with.
My wife is a beautiful and gentle woman. At the beginning, I used her as the standard and the requirement to choose a spouse was that she was under 60 years old, she was beautiful in appearance and had a gentle personality.
Soon, the club arranged a blind date for me. The woman who went on a blind date with me is Sun Ying, who is 58 years old this year. She looks very young, has dimples when she smiles, and looks very quiet.
I like her appearance very much, and she said she was very satisfied with me, so we decided to try getting along.
Although Sun Ying looks quiet and introverted, she is actually a very proactive woman. Since we said we wanted to try dating, she often came to my house to see me. Every time she came, she would buy a lot of ingredients and cook for me to eat.
once. After lunch, in order to thank her for cooking for me, I took her shopping and wanted to buy her two clothes to express my gratitude. But when she arrived at the mall, she dragged me to the gold shop to look at jewelry.
Finally, she chose an gold bracelet , and after putting it on, she asked me happily: "Husband, is it beautiful?"
Her husband really scared me. One is that she has never called me that way; the other is that we have only known each other for a month, and I am not sure how I feel about her.
Before I could speak, the lady at the counter praised, "Sister, your temperament is so compatible with this bracelet. Your husband is so lucky to have a wife as beautiful as you!"
Sun Ying looked at me shyly: "Husband, would you please buy this for me?"
To be honest, I feel very uncomfortable, I think she did it on purpose. It’s not that I can’t bear to bear the money, but I’m angry that she is calculating me.
Under the diligent gaze of Sun Ying and the counter lady, I took out my mobile phone and paid the money. After buying the bracelet, Sun Ying happily carried my arm and said she wanted to buy clothes.
At this moment, I decided to break up with her. Some people may think I am stingy and stingy, but I know that I am not reluctant to spend money, I just don’t like to spend money so inexplicably.
"Sun Ying, I don't think we are suitable. Thank you for taking care of me for the past month. This bracelet is my thank you. We should not contact you again in the future." After
, I left the mall without waiting for her reaction and immediately left the mall without any nostalgia.
After I got home, I reflected on myself.Find a partner for yourself, you really shouldn’t pay too much attention to appearance and age. To be fair, how can someone who is beautiful and young like me?
If you want to live comfortably in your later years, you must first be consistent in your values. If you are too scheming, you will be destined to be unable to go together.
So the next day I went to the blind date club to change the information. I no longer required to look beautiful, and I could be as old as I am.
Three days later, the club notified me that there was a suitable candidate. But this time, I directly refused after seeing the photo. Although I said I didn't pick on my appearance, I couldn't be too ugly, and I had to like it anyway.
A week later, I finally received the notice and the matchmaker said that this time it will definitely succeed!
This time my blind date is named Li Yulan, 63 years old, and a retired teacher.
She has a round face and looks very blessed. But after getting to know her, I realized that her first half of her life was not easy.
Li Yulan has two failed marriages. Her first husband was introduced by a relative and she had a daughter after marriage. Her ex-husband is lazy and has a bad temper. During the years she spent together, Li Yulan alone earned money to support her family. Therefore, after her daughter graduated from elementary school, she could no longer bear to file for divorce with her husband.
After the divorce, Li Yulan was worried that her remarriage would have an impact on the child, so she chose to live with her child alone.
Until the child went to college, she married her ex-husband under the introduction of a friend. Her ex-husband is a businessman and is a good man herself, but her mother-in-law is a weird one.
After marriage, my mother-in-law and father-in-law insisted on moving to their house for retirement, with the purpose of keeping in check with Li Yulan. Because the mother-in-law always worried that the daughter-in-law was greedy for their family's money, she married her son.
And her ex-husband is a famous filial son. Even though she knows that her wife is bullied by her mother, she never comes forward to protect her, which makes Li Yulan heartbroken.
Finally, because Li Yulan couldn't stand the difficulties of her mother-in-law, she had to divorce her ex-husband.
Although Li Yulan had two failed marriages, after hearing the specific reason, I felt that the fault was not her, so I didn't mind and decided to date her.
During the dating, I found that Magnolia was a very kind-hearted person, and she also sponsored two poor students to study.
She has a good temper, and she is the type that doesn’t smile or speak. People are virtuous and simple. Every time we go out to eat, she only asks me to order two dishes but not many. She said that it would be a waste to order too much if I order too much.
Not only that, we still have many common hobbies. For example, we all like to climb mountains and grow flowers, and we often have endless topics to talk about.
After three months of meeting, I felt that I really like being with her, so I proposed to her.
I said, "Magnolia, you have many advantages that I like. I think we have the same values. I am very happy during this period of time together. If you have the same feeling as me, let's get married!"
After hearing my confession, Magnolia pondered for a moment and said, "To be honest, after experiencing two failed marriages, I actually didn't plan to get married. Originally, I wanted to find a partner to live with myself, but after meeting you, I felt that I really like you. But if you want to get a marriage certificate, you must promise me three things."
When I heard this, my heart skipped a beat. I had heard a friend say before that on the night he remarried and got his marriage certificate, his newlywed wife asked him to make a will, give money, etc. In the end, my friend was so angry that he went to get the divorce just after getting the certificate.
At this time, Yulan actually asked me to agree to her three requests. Could it be that I misread the person, she is also such a realistic woman?
I was very nervous inside, but I pretended to be calm on my face and nodded to her and continued.
"First, we share the living expenses, and each of us will take out 2,000 yuan as living expenses every month. If there are special circumstances, we will discuss it. We both have pensions, and this little money is nothing to us. If you only let you pay, then in the future, I don't want to be soft-mouthed and soft-hearted. I don't want to even have the confidence to speak at home.
Second, housework should be done together.
living expenses are shared, so I don’t owe you anything, right? Some men who remarry just want to find a free nanny, and I remarry for life, not to serve others, so I hope my partner can be sympathetic to me and share the trivialities of the family with me.
Third, don’t help your children take care of them.
We can support our children financially, but I don’t want to help them take care of their children. We have worked hard all our lives and should enjoy a happy life in our later years, and the elderly should also have their own lives. Can you accept the above three points of
? If you can do it, I can promise you to get the certificate. "
Magnolia's words shocked me. I didn't expect that the request she made was so fresh and refined. When I thought that I just suspected that she wanted a house and money, my face turned red.
"Magnolia, your request is not too much. On the contrary, I agree very much. We pay for living expenses together and have a say at home, which is great. I can do housework, and I never think it is something women should take on independently. As for not raising children, I agree 100% that children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and we can provide them with financial support to the best of our ability. "
" So, did you agree? "
" Of course, do I have any reason to disagree? "
I am very happy that in my later years, I could find a woman who is consistent with my own values to spend the rest of my life. The second day after the conversation, we went to get the marriage certificate.
After getting married, we took out 2,000 yuan at the beginning of each month and kept it in the cabinet, and whoever wanted to buy something would get it from there.
also do housework together, and I often talk and laugh. I suddenly felt that doing housework was not a particularly troublesome thing, but it was very fun.
Now we have lived together for two years and have always been very harmonious. You see, if you remarry in your later years, as long as you find the right person, you can also be happy!
