emotional topic interpretation, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional worry-relieving person, but you must know how to let yourself go!
text | Feng Ting Yebo
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In fact, who really can't live without whom or let go of whom? But it is because my heart has not yet hurt to a certain extent, so I just have fantasies.
Or, who is in a relationship who is forced to persist in an uncomfortable relationship because he has put in too much unwillingness to do so, just because he is replaced by balance.
Generally speaking, when a person reaches middle age, the relationship between him and the person next to him cannot be too far away or too close. Too far away, it is easy to be intermittent, and too close is easy to be mutually exclusive.
In the past, it was really hard to understand why some people become indifferent as they love and become indifferent as they walk. Later I learned that any relationship between
is a hardship if you get too close. The imbalance between hot and cold either burns the other person's heat or is frozen by the other person's ice.
Reasonable healthy distance, suitable for any relationship.
Have you found it?
Even if you get along with the person next to you, the two of them are playing transparent people as much as possible in order to have a better business relationship, but in fact, they are still somewhat guarded.
In other words, even if there is a distance between the people around the pillow, you still have to maintain it. This distance is very subtle. Don’t let the other person feel forced or oppressed, or don’t let yourself feel the feeling of being pushed away. This is called healthy getting along.
When dealing with people by your pillow, wise people understand the importance of "keeping a distance".
Especially when people reach middle age, if they do not maintain a reasonable distance between them, they will invite too many "naturally" into the relationship because they are too familiar with each other.
Finally, all kinds of imbalances, unwillingness, loss, etc. followed. Relationships become tasteless and a pity to abandon.
When a person reaches middle age, he faces everything with a good attitude and faces the people in front of him with gratitude and responsibility. This is the attitude of life that middle-aged people should have.
In other words: When people reach middle age, they learn to keep a reasonable distance from the person next to them, which is the highest level of soberness.
People reach middle age: Don’t get too close to the person next to the pillow, which is good:
First: The contradictions have been superimposed to a certain extent, and no one is afraid of "losing"
Some people, from youth to middle age with the person next to the pillow, not only did not get any gratitude, but instead replaced the old love and self-confidence and disgust.
When people reach middle age, most of the conflicts arise from "too familiar" - you should do whatever you want.
When people reach middle age, the biggest problem of superposition is to stand from their own perspective and forcibly conceptualize the person next to them - what you are like, what you are like.
If both of you can truly empathize with , you will know what kind of benefit to others and yourself by being "unlucky".
When people reach middle age, they need to face various problems in life and work. Naturally, they cannot be so hard that they can't be like when they were young.
When the relationship is integrated into reality, if you don’t know how to grasp the relationship between the people around you, the two will go from the deep love of youth to the disgusting.
When people reach middle age, no one is really afraid of losing anyone. Only in the face of reality, who is more trying to maintain a relationship for their own life.
When people reach middle age, the relationship between the two has long been replaced by habits because of their dullness.As for the problem when it is superimposed to a certain extent, everything can be abandoned, including the person who once vowed for a vow.
For some people, it is more important to be more purified than to face the various constraints and entanglements of people in front of them.
Second: The middle-aged people who have passed by their own are the most "wise"
When people reach middle age, they should know:
In the past, everything you forced to bind the person next to you was not really accepted.
People who don’t smoke are secretly smoking behind your back. People who don’t date friends you don’t like are secretly interacting behind their backs. People who don’t let drink alcohol drink secretly behind their backs...
All, you don’t like some habits of the person next to the pillow. You have been discovering them at a certain moment, and those habits have been continuing...
In short, when you are middle-aged, you will find in many details of your life. In fact, your person next to the pillow is always "lying". However, these lies have no substantial impact on your marriage and relationship.
So, what do you still have to restrict the other party?
Many times, some people are not willing to admit:
The various "for your own good" constraints on the people around you are actually because they don't like people around you to do that. The specific index of distress is ultimately higher than the "unfavorable" of the various habits of the people around you.
When people reach middle age, they go through their own forms, which is the wisest form of emotional relationship management. If you care too much, you will be subject to rebellion.
Middle-aged people are most tired of others' preaching and disgusting others' forced control over themselves. Even if you are the person next to you, your method is wrong and you will be bored.
Everyone thinks that their communication methods and how they get along with their partner are fine. In fact, they are "self-righteous" who does not understand self-reflection.
Facing the person next to you, if you can’t really get along with the other person in language and methods that the other person is easily accepted by him, don’t blame the other person for not buying you in all kinds of ways.
Third: Calculate your own efforts less and care less about the other party’s efforts
1 When people reach middle age, they are most afraid of calculating too much and calculating too much about the people around them in marriage and love relationships.
relationship always makes sense only when rushing in two directions. But the true feeling of going in both directions is not a complete balance of efforts and demands.
Too much care will only cause too much burden on yourself.
When people reach middle age, they are willing to keep their understanding, but few people have always stood in a position of empathy and felt grateful to those in front of them.
The more you care about, the more you will be, the sadder, wronged, and unbalanced you will be.
Most of the time, people's biggest troubles and pains come from magnifying the original size of things.
There is a saying that when the heart is big, the things will be small.
When facing the person next to you, the less you care about it, the more likely you are to be grateful and valued. Care about too many complaints and complaints will only make you fall into self-compassion and unable to extricate yourself.
Everyone is an ordinary person. Since that's the case, don't use the too high-level scale in your heart to measure which one is right or wrong.
The wisest one is to be confused. If you understand everything too much, it will make you more painful.
Two people are together, sharing and sharing are still there, that's enough. Too much care is nothing more than just burdening yourself.
At the end of the day, I would like to advise all middle-aged people:
Don’t be too harsh on the people around you, and don’t get too close to the people around you. Intimacy is never the most correct way to get along with the person next to you.
Instead of believing in the ideal marriage and love relationship outlined by poisonous chicken soup, it is better to look beyond the imagination and look at the person by your side and yourself from a down-to-earth realistic perspective.
People's hearts are unpredictable, and human nature is evil. People who live too well are the most tiring.
The rest of your life, unless you don’t want this marriage relationship anymore. Otherwise, don't get too close to the person next to you. I hope you can maintain a reasonable distance between you and the person next to you, so as to avoid planting seeds full of holes and harvesting them yourself.
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it is love or friendship, only by meeting the right person at the right time can you achieve the right result!
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