60-year-old Aunt Zhao was very upset some time ago because her retirement life was very different from what she thought. She loves traveling, in order to take care of her 79-year-old mother-in-law, she has not had the chance to go out for five consecutive years.
Not only did my husband not feel any gratitude at all, but he felt that everything was what her daughter-in-law should do. Not only that, he often accuses his wife of not taking care of the elderly in detail.
Finally, in another accusation from her husband, Aunt Zhao broke out. She said angrily: "As a daughter-in-law, it is not easy for me to serve my mother-in-law for 5 years. From now on, I will ignore whoever is serving me!"
What happened between them? Let me take a look at their story together!
Self-reporter: Aunt Zhao
My surname is Zhao, I am 60 years old this year. I was a teacher before retirement. I have always loved traveling very much. In the past, I would reward myself for a trip every winter and summer vacation. After retirement, I often traveled with my friends. Until 5 years ago, my mother-in-law came to our house because she was sick, and I never went out to play again.
When I was 24 years old, my husband and I got married. My parents-in-law are self-employed and do some small business and the family is in good condition.
At home, my husband is the eldest, and he has two younger brothers. My father-in-law is a taciturn person, but he is very kind and polite to his daughter-in-law. My mother-in-law is a very gentle woman. Since I married my husband, I have never suffered any grievances from her.
When I was 30 years old, my own parents were in a car accident and both died. My mother-in-law felt sorry for me and lost my parents at a young age, so she felt sorry for me and took special care of our family.
It can be said that among the three daughters-in-law, I am the one she cares about the most. And I have always remembered my kindness to my mother-in-law, which is why I will take care of her for 5 years later.
Ten years ago, my father-in-law passed away, and my mother-in-law couldn't afford to get sick due to excessive grief. As the eldest son of the family, my husband naturally assumed the responsibility of taking care of his old mother. I had no objection to this, so we took my mother-in-law home to take care of her.
At that time, I had just retired and I happened to have time to take good care of my mother-in-law. This care lasted for 4 months.
Later, my mother-in-law felt that she was in good health and didn't want to continue to trouble us. She said that she was only in her seventies and was not old enough to need children to take care of her elderly care, so she insisted on living back to her home.
Since this is what mother-in-law means, we have nothing to object to. To be honest, I am quite happy that my mother-in-law wants to go home, because during the days I took care of my mother-in-law, I didn’t even dare to go shopping in the park. Now that she has left, I can go out for a trip again and relax.
When I was 55 years old, my husband retired. I thought, I finally had the opportunity to go out for a trip with my husband. So, I happily made a complete travel plan, booked a hotel and air ticket, and planned to have an unforgettable "honeymoon trip" with my husband.
I never expected that just the day before we were about to leave, my mother-in-law was hospitalized after being sick and we had to cancel the trip. Although I felt very disappointed, after all, my mother-in-law was sick and had no choice. I can only say that we will go when my mother-in-law gets ready.
My mother-in-law stayed in the hospital for a week. The doctor said that her heart was not very good, cerebellar atrophy , and the rest were common diseases in the elderly.
My husband was very worried about his mother-in-law's health, so he volunteered to take his mother-in-law to our house to live.
To be honest, I was a little resistant at that time. After all, my mother-in-law has three sons, but every time my mother-in-law is sick and needs someone to take care of her, my two brothers-in-law will automatically disappear, which makes me very dissatisfied.
So he complained in front of my husband: "Don't our mother raise you only, why do you always have to make this happen? My brothers and sisters never show any of them, it's too unfair."
My husband disagreed with my complaints, and said: "I am the eldest son, and I will definitely take care of our mother when she is sick. Don't bother with them, their conditions are not as good as us. I guess they are afraid that our mother will suffer grievances."
I think my husband is too naive. I think these two brothers-in-law just want to escape the responsibility of raising the elderly.
Although I was resentful, when I thought of my mother-in-law's preference for me, how could I say I wouldn't take care of me? So, in the end, my mother-in-law was taken home by us.
But what I didn't expect was that my mother-in-law's temperament changed drastically. Maybe because she was older, she began to be a little confused. Most of the time, she was like a normal person, but occasionally she became confused, which would really make her popular half-death.
Once, when I washed her bed sheets, she suddenly started to shout, "You thief, did you steal the money I hid under the mattress? "
My mother-in-law's words made me confused. When I packed her bedding, I didn't see any money. I guess she was probably confused again, so she could only follow her and said, "Mom, how much money did you lose? "
" I lost 2,000 yuan! "
Look, she said it well, so I could only cooperate with her and ask for helping her find it.
but my mother-in-law insisted that I stole her money and called my husband over to comment.
"Look at the good wife you married and stole my money. It's really hard to guard against the thief! I want to call the police and let the police arrest her! "
I am really angry with her. I still have so much work to do, but she insisted on pulling me to talk nonsense here. My husband was helpless and started coaxing her and telling her that no one at home stole her money.
"Okay, okay, what I took, is it that I can't take? I'll return the money to you now! "
In order to prevent her from shouting, I had to pay her 2,000 yuan out of my own pocket. After getting the money, she was willing to give up, and then said to me fiercely: "If you dare to have another time, I will definitely call the police to arrest you! "
Things like this happen from time to time. My mother-in-law, when she is not sick, will hold my hand and chat about family matters like before, but when she gets sick, she becomes a very bad temper. When I don't like her in my work, she is unreasonable. She not only scolds me, but even beats me.
I know that she becomes unreasonable because she is sick. I feel both distressed and helpless towards her. In fact, I have no resentment towards my mother-in-law. What really makes me angry is my ungrateful husband.
Whenever I am tortured by my mother-in-law, I will complain a few times in front of my husband, but he never comforted me, and even thinks that I am not patient enough with my mother-in-law.
"Our mother is so old that you are confused. What do you do with her? She doesn't do this every day, just scold you for being patient. How can she feel so wronged? Can't you be a little patient with the elderly? "
I am really angry with his attitude. He kept saying that he was the eldest son and had to take on the responsibility of taking care of his mother, but after taking his mother-in-law home, what did he do for his mother-in-law?
Washing and cooking and bathing mother-in-law. I do all these work. He doesn't do anything, but he accused me of not doing well enough every day.
If chatting with my mother is like being filial, then my husband is definitely a filial son.
What I couldn’t accept the most is the way my brothers made. Now my mother-in-law has lived in our family for 5 years. In these years, it would be nice to visit them once every ten days and half a month. Sometimes I would buy some fruit, but most of them came directly empty-handed.
Once I got very angry. That day my brother-in-law came to visit my mother-in-law. He insisted that my mother-in-law had lost weight, and asked me: "Sister-in-law, why did our mother lose weight? How did you take care of me! "
I was unhappy at the time and didn't give him any good looks. I counterattacked: "What, I think I'm not serving me well, so you can take our mother to your house to serve you! "
Seeing that I had such an attitude, he didn't dare to say anything anymore.
At night, I told my husband about this. I think my brother-in-law is too much. He doesn't pay or work, and he thinks that I'm not serving well. How did he say it?
I didn’t expect that my husband not only did not speak to me, but said, “My brother also cares about our mother. And I think our mother is indeed a little thinner. Can you serve me with snacks?!”
I couldn’t help but feel heartbroken. They are brothers and sisters, and their blood is thicker than water and they don’t make false. Isn’t this a joint bullying me, an “outsider”?
I can't bear it anymore and suddenly burst out my anger towards my husband over the past few years.
"Do you still have any conscience? I have been serving your mother for 5 years. If there is no credit, I will work hard. Not only do you not be grateful to me, but you blame me everywhere. I owe you!"
My husband immediately raised his voice and shouted at me: "You are my wife, my mother is your mother, and serving her is your responsibility as your daughter-in-law!"
I smiled without anger: "It is the responsibility of taking care of my mother-in-law? Whoever mother is serving me in the future, I will ignore it!"
0 When I saw that I was about to give up, my husband was shocked and said, "What did you say? Who would you serve if you don't serve?!"
"From now on, you will be yourselves and your daily life will be served by yourself."
"How can I take care of people? I can't cook, you don't know!"
"You also know that you can't take care of people. We are husband and wife for so many years, and I have always served you. Now I serve your mother together. When have you asked me if I'm tired? When have you cared about me from the bottom of your heart? You only think this I should do it, but where do so many people come from in this world? "
After hearing my words, my husband showed guilt. He said apologetically: "Wife, I know I was wrong. Please calm down. I will help you serve our mother in the future. Can you forgive me? "
" The daughter-in-law cares for her mother-in-law is about affection. My mother-in-law used to treat me, and I think I have paid back the good things in the past few years. In the future, you can serve your mother by yourself. If you think you can't do it, there is another way. Our mother is not you One son, you and two younger brothers, they also have the obligation to support the elderly. "
" Let my brother serve you?"
" Yes! Did you three brothers agree long ago that our mother's house still has deposits in the future? Since that's the case, should we all have a share of serving the elderly? How could we ignore the mother and then share the property in the end? "
The husband looked embarrassed, and he whispered: "Wife, how could you... how could you do this? It's so ruthless!"
At this moment, my mother-in-law pushed the door and came in. When I saw my mother-in-law, I immediately lowered my head guiltily.
Mother-in-law came to me and sat down, and then said solemnly: "I think my daughter-in-law is right. I don't just support myself, and the second and third brothers have the responsibility to take care of me. Daughter-in-law, I have made you suffer a lot of grievances in the past few years. I am so sorry."
Mother-in-law's words made me red in an instant. I shook my head in shame and cried, "Mom, I'm sorry. It's not that I don't want to serve you, I'm just too angry. My husband doesn't understand me at all. My brother-in-law and others don't come to see you. I was also angry..."
"Good boy, mom knows, don't cry. But you are right, I can't put all the pressure on you. As a daughter-in-law, you are good enough. Mom is satisfied with a good daughter-in-law like you. I have decided that you three brothers will take turns to serve me in the future. The family will be four months old, and I will pay the living expenses." After saying that, my mother-in-law took out a passbook and handed it over. When she opened it, she found that there were 60,000 yuan in it. I quickly pushed it back to my mother-in-law, but she smiled and said, "You will take it to you. You served me last time I was sick. This time I lived here for five years. This time I deserve it. Don't think it's too little!"
The next day, my mother-in-law called the second and third brothers and told them about her decision. Neither son had any objection, and the second son took his mother-in-law home that day.
After my mother-in-law left, my husband once complained about me, but after that, he also woke up and understood that he had not been easy for me over the years. In order to compensate me, he bought a plane ticket himself and took me out for a trip.
How lucky I am, I have such a good mother-in-law who is so considerate.Although I feel guilty towards my mother-in-law, I still feel that this decision is not wrong.
Do you think I'm doing it too much?
