Marriage is a two-person dance for two people, and not all dance steps are in concert.
Marriage is a science, and not everyone can understand the truth.
Marriage moves forward while you fight and I quarrel, and not every couple can find a balance.
A happy marriage is not only because of love, but also because of knowing how to manage a marriage.
These advice from emotional experts are worthy of everyone’s reputation.
1. Don’t “sculpture” and polish the other party
sculptors use their own skills to sculpt objects into their minds.
A common mistake in marriage is that one party seems to be a work of art in his own hands. He replaces the knife in the sculptor's hand with sarcastic language, trying to polish the other party into what he wants.
The result will find that the appearance you have made with great effort is not appreciated at all. After countless quarrels, you are already exhausted physically and mentally.
A man is troubled by this because he feels that his wife has too many requirements and has made him lose his "self". For example, he likes to wear punk work clothes and Martin boots, but his wife insists that he mature in suits and ties.
In fact, an adult has been formed by his parents, and it is difficult to change him.
Isn’t marriage just about falling in love with someone’s original appearance?
We are just enjoying each other's strengths and tolerating each other's weaknesses. The way the other party makes us dislike may not be wrong, so leave a certain amount of space for each other and slowly change.
Psychologist Dr. Angelu once said: If you can't stand something, change it. If you can't change it, change your own attitude.
2. Marriage is not to liberate the "nature"
We know that home is a comfortable harbor and a place to relax
Some people think that after marriage, we can finally liberate the "nature" and in front of our lover, what is like and what is still pretending.
So, we completely released ourselves. As soon as we entered the door, we threw our shoes at the door, and we could wear them as much as we wanted at home. It doesn’t matter if we wear briefs and . What’s the matter with urine on the toilet?
When you meet your lover because you can't stand these things and quarrel with yourself, you have an indifferent attitude.
But have you ever thought that your relationship is getting rid of little by little. If you still want this marriage, you shouldn’t be afraid of each other and know how to give in?
is good at running in, tolerating each other's shortcomings, and striving to form a consistent and shared living state. This is the life that should be.
A good husband-wife relationship, self-reflection and self-discipline are essential. If you make mistakes, correct them. Yes, communicate well.
When you no longer release your "nature" too much and realize your mistakes, you will slowly discover that your lover's straightforwardness is also cute and strong is acceptable.
3. What others treat me is all the I told others.
Get married, and a husband gave his wife a thousand roses, which cost several thousand yuan. While my wife was moved, the rest was complaining: I was married, so I saved as long as I should live. Our money was not caused by the strong wind. A few thousand yuan was the monthly living expenses for our family! I don't know how to live.
flattered her on the heels, and her husband felt aggrieved! But if the husband spends money, will the wife have no responsibility?
If the wife is not a person who values external rituals and likes romantic flowers and romantic gifts, how could the husband give it?
It is obvious that "what others treat me, I told them to others." The wife is vain and loves to show off, and it has long been engraved in the man's consciousness.
If the wife likes something more practical, the husband will definitely not give out flashy gifts next time.
4. Husband and wife need to "please" each other
"please" is not an elegant word, it means that one must submit and obey.
People who can manage husband-wife relationships will "please" each other, and will always make themselves feel a little wronged and make the other person happier. Only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife be harmonious and life can continue.
If you just want to give in to yourself and don’t think about giving in to the other party, then you are a purely self-centered person and your marriage will definitely not be able to go on.
A husband told his wife, a friend who has not seen him for two years comes to play from another place, so go with me. The woman said, go yourself and get together with my friends. I want to go home to see my parents.
The husband was obviously unhappy and sent 20 messages to his wife that his friend’s wife was also here, so you can come back and accompany him.
The wife did not accompany her husband in the end. After the party, the husband started arguing with his wife when he got home. The man even filed for divorce. The wife felt wronged, and I didn't stop you from going.
If a wife can feel wronged and give her husband this face, her husband will not quarrel with her, and will love her more than a divorce.
4. Say the warmest words in the most difficult times
People are in adversity, the most vulnerable time, and the most need for warmth.
" My First Half of Life " He Han said when Zijun was in trouble, "With me here, you will not have any trouble", which moved countless women.
When the husband underestimates, if the wife says, "If you have the ability, I will share the financial resources for you, and if you don't have the ability, I will take care of your daily life. You are my backer, and I am your support." This sentence, a man will cherish a woman for the rest of his life.
The most feared thing about relationships is to ask for it from the other party. The wife often complains about her husband: "You don't love me anymore" and "You don't listen to me anymore", but she doesn't notice that her words and deeds often make her husband in a low position feel inferior.
This woman did a perfect job. During her husband's career trough, she said, "Don't be afraid, I'm here, I'll share the joys and sorrows with you." Two years later, they have overcome difficulties together, and now they are extremely happy and loving.
There is a saying that goes: marriage does not drag down each other, but encourages each other in life. When you encounter something, you can discuss it with others, comfort and encourage each other when you are tired. When you get home from get off work, you can have someone to have dinner together, and when you are wronged outside, you can have a warm message when you return home.
Conclusion :
Marriage is not a simple matter of food, oil and salt, managing marriage is a science.
On the surface of marriage, the affairs of two people are essentially one person. In marriage, you must constantly improve your state after experiencing countless grievances and sadness, and then stand up and love.
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