I have heard of a bitter story.
Aunt Zhang took a long-distance bus from the countryside for more than two hours and went to the city to visit her son. Aunt Zhang came here with a large bag of things, including dates, chestnuts and walnuts.
Aunt Zhang received a call from her son and learned that her daughter-in-law was pregnant. She was very happy and bought specialties from the country market. She went to the city to visit her son and her pregnant daughter-in-law.
Aunt Zhang came to her son's house with joy. Her son's house lives on the sixth floor. She couldn't take the elevator. She carried a large bag of things and walked up the stairs to the sixth floor. Aunt Zhang was so tired that she was panting.
She knocked on the door, it was the door opened by her daughter-in-law. When Aunt Zhang saw her daughter-in-law and saw that her daughter-in-law was erect, she wanted to step forward to help her.
Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law pushed Aunt Zhang away.
Daughter-in-law told Aunt Zhang: "You came unfortunately. I'm going to go back to my parents' house soon. My mother is sick. I'm going to stay at my parents' house for a few days. You don't have to go into the house. I'll give you two hundred yuan. You go out to eat something by yourself. After you finish eating, you go back to the countryside."
Daughter-in-law took out two hundred yuan and gave it to Aunt Zhang.
Aunt Zhang wanted to see his son and asked his daughter-in-law, "Where is Zhigang? I haven't seen him for more than half a year, I want to say a few words to Zhigang."
My daughter-in-law said, "Zhigang is on a business trip, I don't know when I will come back."
Aunt Zhang put a big bag of things and asked her daughter-in-law to accept them. The daughter-in-law asked Aunt Zhang to put the things in. Aunt Zhang bent and put the things in the door, and her feet were still standing outside the door.
Aunt Zhang just stood up and her daughter-in-law said, "You go, I'm going back to my parents' home too."
Aunt Zhang looked at her daughter-in-law and wanted to stop. She turned around, held the handrail of the stairs, and came from the sixth floor to the first floor. She looked back and saw the corridor winding, just like her heart at this moment, full of sorrow.
Aunt Zhang knew that her daughter-in-law was still holding a grudge against her.
When the son and daughter-in-law wanted to buy a house, they asked her for money. Aunt Zhang also wanted to support them, but she also helped her son go to college and married her son. She had spent all the savings of the old couple. Aunt Zhang couldn't help and she felt uncomfortable.
Because of this, the daughter-in-law ignored Aunt Zhang and called her mother.
Once, my son called Aunt Zhang and my son gave Aunt Zhang time to live in the city for a few days. The daughter-in-law said, "Your parents didn't pay a penny to buy this building, they couldn't live there."
Aunt Zhang could hear it clearly.
Aunt Zhang thought her daughter-in-law was just talking casually, but she didn't expect that her daughter-in-law would really do this and turned her off.
Leaving my daughter-in-law's house, Aunt Zhang came to the long-distance bus station and bought a ticket to return home.
Ming•Ji Zhenlun "The Story of Sangui" says: There are no parents in the world, and my mother has no grudge to remember. Everyone understands the meaning of this sentence
. It means that parents are not at fault in front of their children. Even if some practices make their children not very satisfied, as children, they should not hold a grudge against their parents.
The kindness of parents in raising them can offset their unintentional mistakes.
In Xinqiao Community, Beijing, there is a good daughter-in-law who is filial to her parents-in-law. Her deeds are talked about and have influenced many people.
This filial and good daughter-in-law is called Guo Jianghong.
In 1994, Guo Jianghong married Guan Hongjun, who was not from a wealthy family.
In 2008, Guo Jianghong's father-in-law suddenly suffered from cerebral infarction . Although after timely rescue, his father-in-law's life was saved, but he left behind sequelae, half of his body was paralyzed and unable to take care of himself.
Guo Jianghong did not dislike or complain. She treated her father-in-law as her biological father and served her with all her heart.
Guo Jianghong's father-in-law couldn't accept that he had become a half-waste person for a while, and his emotions were very depressed at one time.
Guo Jianghong looked at her father-in-law and didn't want to eat, and she was very anxious.
Guo Jianghong patiently enlightens her father-in-law, and at the same time, she also helps her father-in-law with practical actions. As long as Guo Jianghong has time, she will help her father-in-law exercise and walk with her husband.
From the house, to the outside of the house, and on the road closer to home, Guo Jianghong and Guan Hongjun were left with figures of helping the old man walk.
With the patient efforts of Guo Jianghong and his wife, their father-in-law finally could walk independently with crutches.
Guo Jianghong's father-in-law praised his daughter-in-law Guo Jianghong and said: "My daughter-in-law has done things that even children cannot do. My daughter-in-law has done it. Such a good daughter-in-law is hard to find in the world."
Guo Jianghong has her own job, but she worked tirelessly to take care of her parents-in-law and spend all her spare time on making her parents-in-law happy in her later years.
Because of Guo Jianghong's selfless dedication, his father-in-law and mother-in-law are in good health and in good spirits. The whole family lives in harmony and is happy.
Filial piety is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and there are many meanings of filial piety. When parents need care, it is filial to have children appear in time. Being generous and kind to your parents and having a broad mind is also an indispensable and important part of filial piety.
Parents are also ordinary people. Because of experience, age or some other reasons, some things may not be done to make their children very satisfied, but as children, they cannot hold a grudge against their parents.
Sima Qian said: Parents are the foundation of human beings.
If a person forgets his roots and is disrespectful to his parents and in-laws, it will have a bad impact on life.
There is an old saying: One filial piety suppresses three disasters.
This sentence is not a superstitious statement against the will, but has deep truths contained in it.
First of all, those who respect their parents and in-laws will have a good reputation. If a person’s reputation is good, they will be respected by everyone. If you encounter difficulties, someone will help you. Big difficulties will turn into small difficulties, and small difficulties will be easily overcome.
Also, people who are filial to their parents and in-laws, are kind-hearted, have principles and bottom lines in life, are open-minded everywhere they go, and have no worries in their hearts, and can devote more energy to their work and career, and their work and career will go smoothly.
In short, filial piety to parents and in-laws is of great benefit. It not only makes the family harmonious and promotes deeper relationship between husband and wife, but also brings unexpected opportunities and wealth to filial children.
I have a classmate who is 49 years old this year.
Her mother-in-law is an old man with a weird temper, and it is related to her experience. When she was in her thirties, her husband died in an accident.
She raised the child alone, she had no job, so she could only dig out food and save money. One year, the year was not good and the dealer did not have much harvest. In order to make a living, she went back to her parents' home to ask for a loan.
Her sister-in-law said she was a pauper and told her not to come back to her parents' home in the future, and she did not lend her a grain of food.
Her own sister-in-law never saved her. From then on, she has been wary of outsiders, believing that no one can rely on her and that everything can only depend on herself.
Later, her son married a wife when he grew up. She also puts a guard against her daughter-in-law everywhere. She treats her well, and she thinks that her daughter-in-law has ulterior motives.
She also reminded her son that she should not be too kind to her wife. Her wife is also an outsider and she should hide her own money.
If ordinary people encounter such a mother-in-law, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely not be much better. But not only did my classmate not be angry with my mother-in-law, but was still as filial to her as ever.
She personally bathed her mother-in-law. She was sick and bedridden, and she was with her mother-in-law all night.
The colleagues and leaders of the unit all knew that her mother-in-law was sick and was still very serious. Everyone made an appointment to visit her mother-in-law together.
When her mother-in-law met her leader, she begged her leader and said, "My daughter-in-law is a good person. You should help her more at work."
The leader is also a good son who is filial to her parents. He promised my classmate's mother-in-law to reassure the elderly, and he would remember the elderly's instructions.
Not long after, the unit had a quota for promotion to manager, and there were two candidates, one of which was my classmate. As expected, my classmate became a manager, and another candidate was not selected, and he was still an ordinary employee.
Later everyone learned that the leader had conducted a private inspection and that another candidate was unfilial to his parents.Although a person's filial piety or not has nothing to do with work ability, it can explain a person's character.
The work abilities of two people are comparable, so the leader is of course willing to promote the one with good moral character.
Whether a person is filial to his parents and in-laws is like a mirror that can reflect a person's overall quality. A glimpse of the whole picture can be seen. A person’s attitude towards the elderly in his family can tell whether he or she is caring and whether he or she is worthy of entrusting his or her responsibilities.
TV series " Happy ", the good daughter-in-law Ruilian went on TV because of her filial parents-in-law. Facing the interview with reporters, Ruilian said: "It is my parents-in-law who worked hard to raise my husband. I am grateful to them."
After long-term research, psychologists have found that When a person has a grateful mentality, the body will release pleasant substances. This substance will make people have more energy to work and more passionate to create, have richer experiences and feelings about life, and have a higher sense of happiness.
Gratitude is a positive energy.
Thank you for your parents’ grace and your parents-in-law for your silent gifts. Over time, you will find that if you learn to be grateful to your parents and parents-in-law, your life will be more sunny than before.
There is a famous saying in " Book of Rites ": Great honor and honor relatives.
Parents and in-laws are the people we should respect and be filial to the most. Without their hard work and support from behind, we may not have the better life we have today.
Being a person who respects his parents or in-laws is the homework you and I must complete in life. Only by getting full marks is the best explanation for yourself.
