Writers have different opinions on marriage.
Qian Zhongshu said:
"Marriage is a besieged city, people in the city want to come out, and people outside the city want to go in."
Samuel said:
"The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail."
Leonidova said:
Leonidova said:
"The basis of marriage is love, attachment, and respect."
Bai Yang said:
"For the sake of the continuity of love and the happiness of marriage, the wife wants to please her husband, and the husband also wants to please her wife. As for how to please, it is a high-level art."
Someone insisted:
Love and marriage are two different things, because when it comes to marriage, the love between husband and wife will gradually disappear.
Some people insist on:
Marriage without love is doomed to fail; even if the relationship with the other person is on a downward trend, they will work hard to maintain love and find love again.
In intimate relationships, those who can manage a "husband-wife relationship" well are not simple.
"Home harmony and everything will prosper". If you want to have a better career and life, first of all, your family relationship must be stable, harmonious and happy.
So, how can couples improve their relationship in the process of getting along?
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Establishing "benevolent communication"
is very important. Without communication, the relationship will only get worse and worse.
On the contrary, couples who can still ensure that they communicate with each other every day after marriage often have no bad relationships.
What is benign communication?
First: Sincerity, expression, understanding.
Couples need to be honest with each other.
Since it is a husband and wife, it is a family. If you can’t even do the most basic sincerity, then what family should you talk about?
You have many secrets and emotions hidden from the other party, and the other party also has many things hidden from you.
is obviously a family, but he is always guarding against each other. Is such a marriage meaningful?
In addition to this, you must also learn to express it.
Express your emotions and express your happiness or dissatisfaction.
"You are so awesome. What you just did has made me know a new you."
"Your words just made trouble for me and hurt my self-esteem. I hope you don't say similar things again in the future."
You don't express it, all emotions are hidden in your heart. How could the other party guess your thoughts?
says whatever you want, and couples need to have something to say directly.
2: Find topics and make promises.
Couples are going to go on for the rest of their lives.
In this world, you will find that except for the relationship between husband and wife, the rest of the people are unreliable.
Children will leave you and go to a bigger stage to develop;
Parents will leave you first, and then you and your partner are left.
When you are old, your children have their own families and children, so who else can be with you for a lifetime?
manages a good relationship with husband and wife, and also prepares for your own old age.
communication requires two people to find some interesting topics.
For example:
Share some trivialities every day, share things encountered in work and life, chat about gossip, etc.
Even if you say some nonsense, it is better than not saying a word.
Many times, nonsense is often a way to support marriage.
Of course, you must also learn to give some promises to the other party.
Commitment is related to the future and is your common small goal.
Only by having a commitment and a goal can you make your heart more united.
3: Reject accusations and don't stop compliments.
Never ignore the "power of praise".
No matter what kind of relationship is, praise is important.
For example:
When you get along with your lover, he will blame you, belittle you, sarcastize you, and blow your self-confidence.
No matter if you do well or not, he will seize your shortcomings and criticize them. It seems that in his eyes, there is no advantage.
Another situation:
The lover will not be stingy with the praise of you at all. If you do well, he will praise you immediately and shoot rainbow farts on you.
Even if you do not do well and mess up something, he will encourage you and comfort you. Which of the two situations is
, which one is more popular with you?
Psychologically believes that the most real desire in people’s hearts is to get praise.
If the relationship between husband and wife is getting better and better, you must learn to praise.
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For each other's lives, more sense of participation
First of all, invest more time and energy into the family.
Many people have been married, one party takes care of the children and the other party works.
Those who take care of children full-time think:
"I gave up my work, gave up my circle of friends, and took care of my children at home every day. You don't understand my hard work at all."
People who work think:
"I work outside every day, and it's also very hard to make money to support my family. Is it the only one you who works hard?"
So, the two of them are getting further and further in their respective trajectories.
Actually, it seems reasonable, but not at all.
Whether they are full-time housewives or full-time husbands, they are under great mental and psychological pressure.
They need more sense of family participation from their partners.
Similarly, only when couples participate in the family can their relationship warm up and their marriage be more stable.
Next, cultivate common interests and hobbies.
The purpose of doing this is to participate in the other person's life.
If you are in a state of being together,
is busy in their respective fields, unwilling to let the other party understand you, do not share your work and hobbies with each other, and do not allow the other party to participate in your life. Marriages like
are lonely and boring.
can only participate together and mobilize each other's passion. It is best to bring your children together to cultivate some interests and hobbies together.
For example: draw together, run together, climb together, fish together, etc.
These hobbies can not only warm up the relationship, but also cultivate the tacit understanding between you.
Today’s topic:
How do you maintain your relationship with your partner?
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