written in the previous article: The main task of our launch of the column "Yuanhe Emotions" is to study the relationship between the two genders and gradually extend it to the "way of dealing with the world", that is, the relationship between the two genders and the way of dealing with the world. We dare not be experts when trying to work hard, but we believe that as long as the direction is correct, we will definitely gain a lot of knowledge, enhance the fun of families, the fun between husband and wife, the stability of the smallest cell in the society, the way of dealing with people in the world, and try to make plans for harmonious social relationships - this is our goal. This column has never given up on such efforts since working in self-media. I also believe that all netizens can get help from the "Yuanhe Emotions" column. We are proud and happy that this column can help you solve some practical problems in marriage, family, husband-wife relationships, family and friendship, and that you are proud and happy that you have made new progress in the above aspects. Let’s continue to discuss today’s topic - What are the four disasters in life, and what are the “four tricks” to prevent the “four disasters” in life.
We often say that there are four disasters in life, they are disasters of possessing a treasure, disasters of mouth, disasters of blocking the way, and disasters of relationships. Let’s analyze the causes and consequences of these four ones one by one.
The disaster of possessing a jade, means that when you have a piece of jade on your body, you should be careful that it may cause trouble. How do you start with this? Is it because you have "money" that you are wrong? No, it is because you have money, treasures in your arms, and valuable things. If you let others know, you will get into trouble. You are not wrong with this disaster, but someone else is thinking about you and thinking about your baby, which will cause you to be in danger.
A disaster comes from the mouth, refers to your mouth that often talks. I don’t know when it means that you say the wrong thing or offend others, and thus cause trouble. In other words, people's mouth is for speaking, which is good; but mistakes are sometimes wrong. Sometimes they will talk nonsense and inadvertently offend anyone, which will cause trouble.
The disaster that blocks the way. refers to people who are in the journey of life must think about the benefits, walk forward, and go further. They must step by step to realize their ideals and goals, achieve their wishes, and implement and organize their implementation of their propositions. In this series of processes, sometimes it is inevitable to eliminate obstacles, and even sacrifice the interests of others in order to achieve your own future and gain benefits, which will cause others to be unhappy, give you a stumbling block, stretch your right foot and your left foot to block your pace, discredit your direction, and prevent you from achieving your goals.
The disaster of relationship, refers to the fact that you have a very close relationship with a friend in normal times, but once your friend "does a crime" or offends a powerful person, you will be implicated and become a victim without realizing it. This disaster can also be called "flying disaster". It is an unexpected disaster. The reason for this disaster is not how big a mistake you have, but because the mistake is that you have a relationship with others too good, too iron, and too loyal, and you will not "tie" or "handle" you, your "iron buddy" competitors or enemies will be uneasy, even more so. "The city gate has a fire, and the fish pond is everywhere." "When people sit at home, disaster comes from heaven", this is what it means. What impact and consequences will these four disasters bring to us? I think there are mainly the following aspects:
first, which has an impact on life safety. We often say that human life belongs to us only once. We must love ourselves as if we cherish our eyes. We must put life first under any circumstances, firmly establish the belief that "there is life and everything can be achieved", and try our best to reduce the harm caused by the four disasters to human life sketched.
Second, it has an impact on normal production and life. People must first survive and learn to live. To live, they must carry out normal physical and mental labor, work, and think about problems. In addition to these, they must constantly seek progress in their efforts, keep and pass on things that conform to the laws of social development in , and provide reference for future generations, rather than just living for the sake of living. The emergence of these four major disasters in life will often have a certain impact on people's normal production and life.
Third, let people get along with others bring about a crisis of trust, create barriers, and even become enemies. People are relatively isolated individuals. "One hundred people are like every person" refers to the personality problem of people, or there is no two identical people in the world. Therefore, given the different ways of thinking, philosophy of life, and standards of personality, each individual has a gap or huge difference in production and life. As a result, various contradictions, disputes and ties continue to occur, so that after the old contradictions and disputes are resolved, new contradictions and disputes will arise, which will cycle and repeat in this way, forming a whole of contradictions in human society, marriage and family, thus causing the interaction between people to bring about a crisis of trust and a barrier. A small number of them have become enemies and never interact with each other when they are old and die.
In view of these reality, we must prevent this. The main purpose of is to further enhance understanding between people and make greater efforts for the harmonious development, symbiosis and progress of society. So, what corresponding measures should we take to prevent the four major disasters in life to the greatest extent? Here I propose it for everyone to explore.
First, control your mouth and do a good job of confidentiality. I think that the most critical link in reducing the occurrence of four disasters is to control your mouth and keep confidential. No matter which disaster occurs, it is mostly caused by "the disaster comes from the mouth" and people hate it. For example, I have a friend whose ancestors left him some valuable treasures. He trusted me more, so he told me the first one. I told him to control his mouth. It is not surprising to tell me, but I will be sure, but don’t tell others, as it will cause trouble.
In a few months, he seemed to be afraid that he would not know that he had "good goods" and could not stop talking. One day, when a man went to his house alone, he told the man and took it out for this "good friend" to watch. In less than a few months, his good friend thought about the baby and "come" to his home.
That night, when he was not home, the "good friend" climbed over the wall and went to his house to steal the treasure. The next day, he came back from outside and found that he was stolen and called the police. It was not until the thief took the treasure to an antique shop to sell the stolen goods that he was discovered by the public security personnel and realized that the thief was his "good friend". However, after the antique was used for identification by the public security, it was directly identified as a national cultural relic and handed over to the local cultural relic bureau. His family did not even get a piece of yarn.
Now, he is suing the public security and requesting the public security organs to return it based on "the family heirloom left by his ancestors". However, when the court asked him to provide evidence and provide evidence to prove that it was his family heirloom, he could not provide any evidence to prove that it was passed down by his ancestors. Later, the court ruled to manage it according to the national cultural relics management method, and the treasure is still in the Cultural Administration Bureau. He also tried to ask for it many times, but the Cultural Administration Bureau said it was taken from the public security department, and there was no legal basis for giving it to his family. He went there several times, and it was empty and it was inverted.
This example can illustrate a problem, that is, if you have good things in your house or in your hands, you should not show off to outsiders, and do not deliberately show it off, otherwise you will get angry and even pose a great threat to your life safety.
Secondly, you must learn to appropriately restrain your sharpness and keep your voice silent. The road of life is long and lasts for decades; it can be said to be short and short, it can only last more than 30,000 days, and you have to live normally. If it is not normal, there are people who go anywhere on the road, and there are people who don’t see anyone walking. In this world, no matter where you live, first is to consider survival, then face real life, and the final standard is to live a good life. In order to achieve the so-called short-term, medium-term and long-term goals of life, we must work hard to do all kinds of hard work.
Haven't you seen that many people don't use their brains, rely on their limbs to struggle and strive hard, and in the end they can't even take care of their basic life; secondly, some people rely on using their crooked brains to deal with others, ride on their shoulders to achieve their goals, and even rely on slandering others, to slap others, and to kill them to protect themselves; and the third kind of situation is that they are both hands-on and brain-killing, and to have a careful plan. No matter what they do, they are stable but not chaotic, and they don't easily tell others their opinions before they are made.
The person who lives with these three ways of survival is the third type, who uses both hands and brains and plans carefully. Even if you are in the most difficult period and have nothing, as you continue to accumulate, summarize and enrich your experience, the feathers will one day become more full and clear the obstacles for the realization of your ideals, ambitions and grand blueprints. For example, in the past, those old rich men who confiscated nothing and left him only, but in the end they still developed into rich men, and even their sons and grandchildren were rich men. Why? because they know how to use hands and brains together, not just the rest.
There are many people who live in the third way of survival in real life. Their main advantages are that the three studies are Learn to restrain their sharpness, learn to hide themselves, and learn to protect themselves. This will make oneself achieve achievements and progress without realizing it, which will make one look impressive; instead of "the shit is not out, and the grass is paved with a dam," like most people who have not succeeded, making one easily see through the "open plot" of "blocking others' words".
, do not easily take the team, and do not easily take the wrong team. takes the team, which has a lot to do with everyone's vision. But often, no matter how good the vision is, no matter how sharp the pair of wise eyes are, they all see the wrong person. As the saying goes, "the heroic spirit is for a moment." Because of this, in daily life or work, you should not make friends or line up randomly, and you should not choose your partner at will.
It is also very knowledgeable to take the queue and queue. Once you are in the wrong line at work, disasters that you cannot predict may happen at any time. Therefore, I often say to young people: "Who is more important to ideal or choice, and answer with certainty: choose." Choice is the question of whether to stand or not, how to stand, which team to stand, or which team to stand. If you are not careful, you will definitely enter a dead end, and even reach a dangerous situation of not stealing for thousands of times.
Therefore, in our life and work from beginning to end, we must make careful choices, and we must not blindly and impulsively make wrong choices; when you make wrong choices, suffer great losses, and get deceived, you will feel that those daily "fencemen" brothers are really wise. But have you ever thought about what makes them wise? Their wisdom is that "do not do anything without planning, and do not follow those who are not considering well."
, say more good things about others and comment less on others' right and wrong. When people get along with each other, the heart and the heart are still there. If you are in a bad mood, what is the effect of getting along with each other? This is true for friends. Even parents and brothers and sisters who cannot get along with each other are the same. If they can get along with each other, they will get along with each other more, and if they can get along with each other, they will get along with each other less. Except for fulfilling their obligations, there are no exceptions. If you don’t talk too much, you can even feel cold and thorny when you speak. Why do you have to force yourself to get along? Of course, this is not much in real life, but it is also quite a lot. I personally believe that the purpose of getting along with others is to make others happy and feel comfortable, rather than to add trouble to others.
Therefore, when we get along with others, we should say less bad things about others and less bad things that are not conducive to unity. It is not absolutely necessary to say less words to attack others. Be more tolerant and blame others’ mistakes; explain more and argue less; understand more and complain less. If can achieve this "three more and three less", then generally they will get along with anyone, and is not "fight for you, fight for one, fight to the death, and live to the death" .
Especially for the third aspect of people, he is not by your side, so you insist on discussing the strengths and weaknesses of others and discussing the right and wrong of others; some even agree with each other: don’t say to someone. How do you say this? "There is no airtight wall in the world." When you say bad things about others, you may have "ears in the wall". Who can guarantee that the people you talk about cannot hear it? Even if no one hears it next door, who can guarantee that you will always be in love and not tell others what you comment about today? Therefore, we came to the conclusion: "All right and wrong must be right and wrong!" Once people get into trouble, there will be problems that you can't solve or solve - this is a disaster that you say.
edited by the postscript: In the face of the disaster of life, I personally deal with these four aspects of life . I think as long as you do one of them, your life will be much more exciting than others, your ideals will always be much more fulfilled than others, and your relationship with others will definitely be much more harmonious than others, and you will stand out from bad things and be much easier than others.
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