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Sometimes, the more skilled people are, the more they can get water from the bamboo basket and get nothing.
Zhang Mei (pseudonym) met a mother-in-law who plotted against herself everywhere.
2Zhang Mei has a superior background. She is not only beautiful, but also has an enviable job. However, she is close to perfection in all her conditions, but she chose a person with no highlights as her husband.
Zhang Mei and Chen Yue (pseudonym) got to know each other by a coincidence. From then on, the two gradually became good friends who could talk about everything.
And as the two became closer and closer, they naturally became lovers. However, their relationship was not favored by others. Many of Zhang Mei's friends advised her to think carefully and with her conditions, she could find a better candidate.
But Zhang Mei, who is in love, doesn't listen to advice at all, because at this time, Chen Yue is the most perfect in Zhang Mei's eyes. So Zhang Mei and Chen Yue got the certificate and got married with her husband and wife despite other people's dissuasion.
Zhang Mei can be said to have married Chen Yue. Chen Yue’s family conditions are average. The houses they got married were paid by Zhang Mei, and Zhang Mei even told her parents at all costs that she did not want the bride price of Chen Yue’s family.
But the more this happens, the more Chen Yue's parents are. Seeing that Zhang Mei married Chen Yue so resolutely, she felt that no matter how she treats Zhang Mei, she would definitely not leave Chen Yue.
Chen Yue's mother not only did not take Zhang Mei seriously, but also often tried every means to ask for money from Zhang Mei, and even plundered Zhang Mei's belongings. In short, she was calculating on Zhang Mei all the time.
Although Zhang Mei was very reluctant in her heart, she had no choice but to avoid conflicts between her and Chen Yue, Zhang Mei had to bear it and reluctantly satisfy her mother-in-law's selfish desires.
However, Zhang Mei repeatedly tolerated her, but it became the reason why her mother-in-law became more aggressive. She asked Zhang Mei for hundreds to thousands at the beginning, and now she even asked her for tens of thousands or tens of thousands.
Although Zhang Mei is rich, she can't help but make trouble with her mother-in-law. After a few times, Zhang Mei finally couldn't bear it anymore. Zhang Mei did not face the conflict with her mother-in-law, and told her indirectly that she had no money.
But the mother-in-law was still unwilling to give in and even asked Zhang Mei to go back to her parents' home to borrow some money. The mother-in-law's idea completely angered Zhang Mei. She felt that her mother-in-law could plunder herself, but she could never involve her family.
So she refuted her mother-in-law positively for the first time and said that she would not give her money to her from now on. The mother-in-law, who had lost her source of income, didn't know what to do for a while. She planned to plan her daughter-in-law's money so that she could enjoy her old age.
But my mother-in-law did not stop her calculations about Zhang Mei, and her calculations became increasingly fierce. Zhang Mei and Chen Yue gave birth to a daughter, and the mother-in-law moved into Zhang Mei's home on the grounds of taking care of her granddaughter.
A few days later, the mother-in-law began to complain to Zhang Mei, saying that Chen Yue's father was alone at home and no one was taking care of her. She couldn't rest assured, but she couldn't bear to leave her granddaughter. If Chen Yue's father was brought over to live with her, she was afraid that Zhang Mei would find it inconvenient.
After talking about her worries, Zhang Mei’s mother-in-law began to guide Zhang Mei again. She said that Zhang Mei could sell her current house, and then everyone would add some money to a larger four-bedroom apartment, so that the whole family could live together without interruption.
And the mother-in-law also said that after changing the house, Zhang Mei was actually the biggest beneficiary. This small house turned into a big house, and Zhang Mei made a profit.
But Zhang Mei was very sober and was not fooled by her mother-in-law at all. Moreover, her mother-in-law's actions at home these days are obvious to all. Her mother-in-law's mind is not about taking care of the children, but is thinking about how to calculate Zhang Mei's real estate.
Now my mother-in-law has finally revealed her original intention. Zhang Mei looked at her greedy face and said to her without hesitation: "Who is the one who benefits from selling my house before marriage to a four-bedroom apartment? I am not stupid, I will settle the accounts."
Seeing that Zhang Mei did not have a trap, she still wanted to continue to fool her, but she did not expect Zhang Mei to directly issue an order to expel the guest. She also warned her mother-in-law with a tough attitude that if she didn't want her son to divorce, she should not be so clever again.
Zhang Mei, who has always been gentle, had a head-on conflict with her mother-in-law for the first time, and when she saw that she was not profitable, she had to go home in a mess.
3The more people who love to plot against others, the less they can get what they want. Only by pursuing them down-to-earth can they get what they dream of.
Through Zhang Mei's story, we should understand the following two principles:
1. Although the daughter-in-law is also a family, she is not her mother-in-law's ATM.
Some mothers-in-law are very smart. They flexibly change their various identities of their daughter-in-law just to make profits and not be taken advantage of by their daughter-in-law.
In the eyes of mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is always an outsider. No matter how hard they try to integrate into this family, they are never unable to join.
What makes people feel even more heartbreaking is that when the daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law heartily, she is like a guardian of her family, and she is guarding against herself everywhere.
When the mother-in-law is in trouble and needs money, the daughter-in-law becomes what she calls a family. This kind of mentality of mother-in-law is a very selfish mentality and a disgusting behavior.
Although the daughter-in-law is a foreigner, after marrying into the in-laws' family, she will naturally become a family with her in-laws. Therefore, the mother-in-law should not deliberately beware of her daughter-in-law, for fear that the daughter-in-law will take away her property.
And those selfish mothers-in-law should not regard their daughter-in-law as their own cash machine. They have no obligation to satisfy their mother-in-law's endless desire for money.
If a mother-in-law cannot treat her daughter-in-law as her biological daughter, don’t regard her daughter-in-law’s money as her own money. The daughter-in-law has no obligation to support her in-laws, not to mention that those who target her in-laws everywhere have more reason to abandon them.
As a person, you should look forward, not money. If you only value money in everything, then the people around you will no longer be willing to give us true feelings.
2. The more you calculate others, the more you make yourself have nothing.
Some people think they are very smart and can play with others in their own hands, and it is even more common to calculate others to make profits from them.
But these people are the stupidest people. They are smart but are mistaken for being clever. They always do things that everyone knows clearly but do not want to tell them.
In today's society full of difficulties and obstacles, no one is so stupid that he will always let others plot against him. Maybe occasionally one time he took it lightly and was plotted against by others, but it is absolutely impossible for him to fail twice in the same place.
So no one will be plotted all the time, and those who are good at calculating cannot succeed every time. Perhaps some relatives and friends are unwilling to expose the truth due to their affection and choose to suffer losses. However, if they do not know how to be a scheming person and repeatedly plot against the same student, they will sooner or later lose everything they have.
Everyone's patience is limited. Once others no longer endure this kind of calculating behavior, they will immediately stay away from the person who plots on others. When everyone stays away from this person, the person will have no choice.
In the end, this person will not only be empty-handed, but will also lose his relatives and friends. Therefore, calculating others will not only not make you rich, but will instead make you have nothing.
text/Wiwen
