On October 2011, a "unique" wedding was being held in a village in Botou City, Hebei Province.
Weddings in other families usually involve parents entrusting the bride to the groom.
At this wedding, the bride actually got married with her father.
is too novel and even appeared in local newspapers and magazines.
The bride at this wedding was named Chen Hong and the groom was named Meng Feixiang.
The one who got married with Chen Hong was his adoptive father Chen Jialin. Chen Hong did this entirely to repay his father's kindness.
Meng Feixiang also expressed his understanding and support for his wife's thoughts.
Therefore, the two people successfully entered the palace of marriage.
The guests who came to attend the wedding all showed envy to the couple.
But almost every guest will have several questions in his mind:
Why did Chen Hong insist on bringing his "adoptive father" with him when he got married?
What stories have happened between Chen Hong and her adoptive father over the years?
Can Chen Hong live her ideal life after she gets married with her father?
below, let’s talk about it one by one.
By chance, the "baby girl" was rescued
One day in 1990, Chen Jialin, who lives in Chenbei Village, Jiaohe Town, Botou City, Hebei Province, was preparing to go out to buy supplies.
Since it is not easy to get into the city, Old Chen specially drove a small donkey cart this time.
But on the way back, Old Chen suddenly heard a strange sound from the grass nearby.
In order to find out the situation, Lao Chen simply stopped the car and walked towards the grass alone.
After Lao Chen approached, he was shocked in an instant. Because there was a crying baby in the grass in front of him.
Lao Chen himself has no children, but he also knows that no normal parent will bear to abandon his children in such a place.
Therefore, Lao Chen felt that this child was probably abandoned by his parents.
I may not be the first to discover her, but if I don’t care about her, she may not be able to survive.
Thinking of this, Lao Chen picked up the child without any hesitation.
When he returned home, he was also calm when facing the child that Lao Chen suddenly brought back.
Mother even joked to Lao Chen that this is God's will.
Maybe God knew that their Chen family had no children, so he specially sent them a child.
Because this child is a girl, Lao Chen's mother decided to name her "Chen Hong".
When Chen Jialin and his son gave the child this name, the idea of both Chen Jialin and his son was very simple.
is considered to be a symbol of "feminization" and, on the other hand, it also means prosperity.
Because Chen Jialin lost his father when he was young, his mother always brought him up.
So, Chen Jialin very well understands what kind of childhood a child who lacks fatherly love will spend.
In order to prevent "Xiao Chen Hong" from experiencing the same pain as herself, Chen Jialin attaches great importance to her daughter's company.
When Chen Jialin was 16 years old, she suffered from arthritis because of swimming in the river.
In that era, medical conditions were limited, and in the end, Chen Jialin's condition continued to worsen, causing him to always look "limp" in when walking.
This also makes Chen Jialin one of the few "older bachelors" in the entire Chenbei village.
Since adopting Xiao Chen Hong, Chen Jialin has also thought about finding someone to get married and giving her children a complete home.
But after talking about several women in a row, the other party refused him for various reasons when he heard that Chen Jialin was still with a child.
Fortunately, Chen Jialin's heart has long been as calm as water, and he has long been ready to raise his children alone.
No matter how hard or difficult the future will be, he will raise Xiao Chenhong to adulthood.
However, raising a child requires cost.
back then, the Chen family can be said to be a bare-stop family. What should Chen Jialin and his mother use to support this child?
Their family has added a new child and they come to help.
Slowly, the Chen family's children have also become the objects of care for the villagers.
Sometimes when the Chen family encounters difficulties, the people in the village will help each other.
In this way, although the Chen family has a hard time, it is still acceptable.
However, Chen Jialin also understands: If children want to have a future, they must receive education, but the money they have to go to school can no longer be paid by the villagers, right?
So, Chen Jialin found his mother and discussed for a while, and decided to go out to work to support Xiao Chenhong to school.
Many people in rural areas were still very conservative in their concepts at that time, and everyone was very puzzled by Chen Jialin's approach.
People think that Chen Jialin took the girl home to raise her is accumulating virtue and doing good deeds.
This child is another girl, and sooner or later they will get married.
paid her to go to school, which looked like a "lose business".
Faced with these rumors, Chen Jialin withstood the pressure from all parties.
He told everyone very firmly:
"Since I chose to bring the child back, I will treat her like I would treat her biological daughter. I must raise her well and send her to marry in a grand manner in the future!"
Someone repeatedly told Chen Jialin that the girl will marry in the future, not from her own family.
But Chen Jialin retorted that his daughter is more filial than his son, and he will treat Xiao Chen Hong well no matter what, and will never allow others to make any remarks.
Just like that, Xiao Chen Hong grew up slowly under the protection of her father.
Because of her father's persistence and encouragement, she received a complete compulsory education.
However, Chen Jialin and her son were tight-lipped about her life experience and the nearby villagers.
Because everyone knows that these things may be bad if the child knows them.
However, in the world does not have an airtight wall . During an accidental family activity, Chen Hong still discovered something wrong.
"Turning Point" in life
When Chen Hong was ten years old, she could already help her home with clothes and simple housework.
At this time, Chen Jialin's mother was over 70 years old and could not engage in housework for a long time.
Therefore, during the days when Chen Jialin went out to work and earn money, Chen Hong was almost always cooking at home.
Once, Chen Hong accidentally found a copy of " adoption certificate " while sorting out the debris at home.
This aroused Chen Hong's curiosity, but when she opened her adoption certificate and looked through it page by page, it seemed that her heart had experienced an earthquake.
For Chen Hong, she never thought that she was not her father's biological child.
For so many years, her father, grandma and neighbors' attitude towards her has not made her feel anything unusual.
When Chen Hong thinks about every bit of it in real life, she becomes more and more confused.
If you talk about the child you picked up by your father, he could have sent her to the local children's welfare home.
Why do you have to spend so much effort to raise yourself and spend such a great price to go to school in the city?
When my father came home in the evening, he thought, and Chen Hong explained his experience during the day to him.
Who knew that Chen Jialin was not surprised at all after hearing what her daughter said.
He just bowed and lowered his waist , silently lit a cigarette, and then revealed his thoughts to his daughter.
For so many years, Chen Jialin has indeed suffered a lot in order to raise the young Chen Hong.
Sometimes, even Chen Jialin herself feels that she is about to be unable to hold on.
However, as soon as you think of Chen Hong's warm and sweet smile, Chen Jialin feels that everything she does is worth it.
plus my mother kept reminding Chen Jialin that since he brought Xiao Chen Hong back, he couldn't ignore her.
Although the Chen family has limited financial conditions, it is already fate that they can meet this child.
Therefore, Chen Jialin has no reason not to treat this little guy well.
After listening to his father's words, Chen Hong suddenly felt that his world had collapsed in an instant.
She ran out of the house crying and ran to the fields outside.
At this time, Chen Hong was in the stage of rapid psychological development and was very sensitive to things that were related to him.
She never thought that such a thing would happen to her.
For a moment, it was really hard for her to accept the reality of "father is adoptive father" .
Seeing his daughter rushing out, Chen Jialin followed him in a hurry.
The rural dirt roads in the dark night are bumpy, and Chen Jialin's legs are inconvenient. The poor road conditions further aggravated his pain.
Finally, Chen Jialin found Xiao Chen Hong who was squatting and crying in a field.
Chen Jialin told her daughter that when she grows up, she can choose to find her biological parents.
But she is still young and cannot live independently, so she still needs the care of herself and her mother.
After crying for a while, Chen Hong's body still twitched and trembled.
The father and daughter returned home one by one, sat on the chair and looked at each other without saying a word...
But Chen Jialin pulled her mother aside and told her everything.
In Chen Jialin's opinion, children should know the truth of this matter sooner or later.
Since this is the case, it may not be a bad thing to know the truth in advance.
After a while, Xiao Chen Hong came to the front of the two of them with fear.
She first bowed to Chen Jialin, and then to Chen Jialin's mother.
Then, Xiao Chen Hong cried desperately and threw herself into Chen Jialin's arms.
So many years have passed, and Chen Hong has long regarded Chen Jialin as her biological father.
Chen Hong told Chen Jialin that she had thought about her "life experience" carefully.
In the final analysis, this matter is still the mistake of her biological parents. Chen Jialin is not only not a bad person, but her life-saving benefactor.
If Chen Jialin didn't care about her when she was passing by the grass, but let her stay there.
Perhaps, Chen Hong doesn’t even have the right to stand here today and cry.
So, no matter what, Chen Hong has to thank Chen Jialin and his mother.
Finally, Chen Hong wiped her tears and apologized to her father and grandma again.
After experiencing this incident, Chen Hong's feelings for Chen Jialin became deeper.
Moreover, from this time, Chen Hong began to think about "How to repay Chen Jialin" from all aspects .
When Chen Hong was twelve years old, her grandmother, who had been raising her for many years, suddenly died of illness.
The death of the old man gave Chen Hong and Chen Jialin a huge blow.
Chen Hong remembered that when she was young, she would every time. "My father went out to make money, and her grandmother sent herself to school" .
But now that grandma is gone, how should she and her father face the next life?
After a long time of thinking, Chen Hong decided to squeeze out a part of her study time to help her father do something within her ability.
For example, Chen Jialin went out to collect waste, and after he transported the goods home and weighed them too much, Chen Hong was responsible for helping him settle the score.
When the weather gets colder, Chen Jialin's arthritis will relapse.
At this time, Chen Hong will help her father pick up and sell goods.
Such a life made Chen Hong experience the bitterness of life and the difficulty of her father.
Chen Jialin never hesitated about the matter of providing for his daughter to study.
Every time he looks at his daughter's high score report card, he feels a burst of surprise and pride.
But in the year of Chen Hong's second year of high school, Xiao Chen Hong actually secretly handled the procedures for dropping out of school with his father.
When the class teacher knew that Chen Hong was about to drop out of school, he also tried to keep him.
After all, it would be a pity if such a good student drops out of school halfway through.
But Chen Hong told the teacher that he had to go home to take care of his father and share the burden of life as soon as possible.
The head teacher still has nothing to say about such a reason.
A few days later, the school’s processing results came down, and Chen Hong officially dropped out of school.
When Chen Jialin learned that his daughter had dropped out of school, he fell into deep self-blame, and thought he was incompetent and had not taken good care of his daughter.
But Xiao Chen Hong kept comforting him that all this was his wish.
has come to this point, and no matter how much the father and daughter say, it is futile. The only thing they need to do now is to plan a new life in the future.
After dropping out of school, Chen Hong has been working in a private company in Botou City. Although the salary is limited, fortunately, there is a lot of free time to take care of my father.
Chen Hong would always go home to take care of his father who was unable to move during the company's rest and chat with him.
At this time, Chen Jialin was over 60 years old, and the biggest knot in his heart was his daughter Chen Hong's "lifelong event" .
In 2011, Xiao Chen Hong is already 21 years old.
According to the habits of rural areas, girls of this age should get married.
Chen Jialin naturally also worried a lot about her daughter's marriage.
However, after thinking about it, he never found a suitable "son-in-law".
At this time, someone gave Chen Jialin an idea: The old Chen family could release news in the surrounding areas, saying that their family wanted to hold a bride recruitment conference.
At that time, young people from all over the country will definitely flock to them when they hear this news.
and other people arrive, Chen Jialin can slowly choose a son-in-law.
Chen Jialin nodded and immediately returned home to seek his daughter Chen Hong's opinions.
Chen Hong told her father that she could get married, but she had an additional condition:
If anyone marrys her, she must allow her to marry her with her father, otherwise she would not care about the best people.
Chen Jialin was also a little shocked when he heard his daughter’s request, but her daughter always insisted on not giving up.
Finally, Chen Jialin could only agree to this seemingly funny request.
So, can the Chen family’s bride recruitment conference be held as planned?
What new stories and challenges will Chen Hong encounter after she gets married with her father?
Take your father to get married and achieve "experience"
Soon, the bride recruitment conference was held at the Chen family. The unmarried young men nearby came to the Chen family with a try-out mentality.
Although Chen Hong is not very outstanding in appearance, she has a kind heart.
Therefore, there are still many young men nearby who come to "meet" with Chen Hong .
But Chen Hong revealed his request to everyone as soon as he came up:
"I hope my partner is a filial person who can allow me to marry my father."
Everyone was shocked when they heard these words, and they all showed an incredible look on their faces.
For so many years, you have only heard of your father-in-law recruiting son-in-law, but you have never heard of the groom who lives with your father-in-law!
Seeing that everyone was a little unacceptable for a while, Chen Hong explained to everyone that this was his bottom line and could not be negotiated.
If everyone feels that this condition cannot be accepted, there is no need to waste time on the spot.
Even if you never get married or get married in your entire life, you must take good care of your father.
Some people think that Chen Hong is doing this to cheat her future husband’s money.
These words completely annoyed Chen Hong. She told everyone that she married her father just to take care of him, not to take advantage of her in-laws.
I don’t ask the man’s family to have much property, as long as the boy has a good character, it is enough.
As for the living expenses of myself and my father, I will be responsible for all my life in the future and I will not bother my husband.
Hearing this, many people were moved by Chen Hong's filial piety.
However, considering the situation in real life, many people still chose to leave the scene of the bride recruitment conference.
After all, not everyone can understand Chen Hong's behavior.
But just when most people chose to retreat, a boy named Meng Feixiang took the initiative to stand up.
He not only accepted the conditions proposed by Chen Hong, but also took the initiative to ask to take care of his father Chen Jialin with Chen Hong.
It turns out that Meng Feixiang grew up here and has long known Chen Hong’s story and family situation.
Meng Feixiang knew that Chen Jialin had difficulty moving his legs and feet. The reason why Chen Hong made such a seemingly funny request was really helpless.
So, after everyone retreated, Meng Feixiang decisively chose to take a step forward and expressed his thoughts.
Chen Hong was also moved by Meng Feixiang's behavior.
She originally thought that she would face the ending of "limiting one's old age alone" after she put forward this condition.
Unexpectedly, Meng Feixiang really mustered up the courage to confess to her, which made her feel a little at a loss for a moment.
But after a while, Chen Hong told Meng Feixiang that he wanted to spend some time together to try it.
Meng Feixiang did not hesitate at all after hearing this and immediately agreed.
During the years of getting along for several months, Chen Hong gradually felt Meng Feixiang's sincerity towards himself and his father.
Several times Chen Hong ran to the city hospital alone to take care of her father because she didn't want Meng Feixiang to worry.
But when Meng Feixiang learned about demagnetization, he rushed to the hospital immediately and took the initiative to take care of Chen Jialin with Chen Hong.
Looking at Meng Feixiang's busy figure, Chen Jialin showed a gratified smile on his face.
He finally found someone for his daughter who can be entrusted for life.
When taking care of Chen Jialin in the hospital, Meng Feixiang never complained, nor was he lazy.
Every time there is something wrong in the ward, Meng Feixiang is always the first to run to the bedside to compete for work with Chen Hong.
All this was seen by Chen Hong, and she slowly recognized Meng Feixiang in her heart.
On October 28, 2011, Chen Hong and Meng Feixiang finally entered the palace of marriage under the witness of their relatives and friends.
At the simple and simple wedding, Meng Feixiang specially put on a handsome suit for his future father-in-law and invited him to walk on the stage together.
Faced with everything that is happening, Chen Jialin felt like she was dreaming.
When he decided to adopt Chen Hong, he never expected that this day would happen.
Looking at her daughter and son-in-law, Chen Jialin couldn't control her excitement and tears shed on the spot.
After getting married, the couple took care of their father's daily life together.
Not long after, the next two children were born.
Looking at the cute "little grandson", Chen Jialin's heart was filled with indescribable joy.
Chen Jialin, who lived alone and worked hard all his life, also experienced the so-called "happiness of family".
Chen Hong and Meng Feixiang saw the smile on their father's face and felt that all their efforts were worth it.
A few years after the child was born, Meng Feixiang and Chen Hong bought a house in the city again.
In order to facilitate the care of Chen Jialin, they also specially decorated a bedroom for Lao Chen in their new house.
If Lao Chen is willing to live in the city, you can come and live there. If Lao Chen is unwilling, you can continue to stay in the old house.
The worst thing to do in the future is Chen Hong and the others will do more and work harder.
Chen Hong's family's life is still continuing. With the passage of time and the couple's continuous efforts, their lives are gradually getting better.
And a kind act that Chen Jialin did without any intentions finally won the most reliable guarantee for his later years.
Although Chen Hong and Chen Jialin are not biological father and daughter, the relationship between them is beyond the reach of many people.
The father devotes his wholeheartedly to his daughter, and when his daughter grows up, he can also give everything for his father's life.
Although their stories look extremely ordinary, they are full of shocking power!
The "filial piety culture" behind this is worthy of serious study by each of us.
"Filial Piety Culture" is a traditional virtue of our Chinese nation.
In the long river of history for thousands of years, no matter how the dynasties and stories on this land develop and change. There is a truth that is universally recognized:
Only when a person is filial to his parents and knows how to be grateful to others can he have the foundation and conditions for communication.
If a person is not filial to his parents and is too selfish, then he will be despised and despised by the whole society.
As the saying goes, " filial piety is the first of all virtues , and lust is the first of all evils" . A good family environment is the basis for career success.
A small "good deed" can reveal a person's inner world.
Only by taking good care of your "small home" can you continue to serve and contribute to the "everyone".
If we all can be more patient and caring for our parents and fewer complaints and quarrels, we will definitely find a lot of fun in our future lives.
Edited by: Zhuojiu
Editor: Lin Hua
