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text: Shili
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"I had a big fight with my parents two days ago, because my mother's birthday happened to run into my friend's birthday. Because of the long time no see with this friend, I chose to go out to celebrate my friend's birthday. It was also this. My father scolded me. For this reason, I had a big fight with my father and thought that he was just making trouble. He could celebrate his birthday every day, but my friends had been free to get together for a long time. Why didn't they understand me?" Two days ago, a reader friend sent a private message.
I have a lot of feelings when I saw this private message.
Regarding the birthday choice between his friend and his mother, how should this friend choose?
In fact, this question is not difficult, but this friend did not understand the key.
If he could think that his parents were far more important than his friends, this question would not become a problem.
It can be seen that it is easy to do it difficult. Many people understand this truth, but few can really do it.
We have become accustomed to giving the best side to our friends and the worst side to our family.
only because nothing can happen, family members will not leave us, so we always take everything for granted.
Wang Xiaobo wrote a very realistic sentence:
"When people are young, they feel that there are people everywhere, and other people's affairs are yours. Only after middle age did I feel that there is nothing in the world except family." deeply agrees with this. Has reached a certain age, experienced the worldly ways, and saw more and more people parted ways. As fewer and fewer people stayed by their side, most people would understand at that time. For men, except for their family, they are all passers-by. Everyone says: "Rely on parents at home, and rely on friends when going out." But can friends really be reliable? The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit. Friends are mostly exchanges of interests. If there is no interest connection between them, most of the friendship relationships will be fragile. They can accompany you to be prosperous and prosperous, but it is difficult for you to accompany you to the same boat through thick and thin. Not to mention friends, even some relatives with blood ties are the same. No one is concerned about the poor in the downtown area, and rich in the deep mountains have distant relatives. They come to profit and go with the profit. The profit passes through it, and a leaf does not touch it. Most of them can only add icing on the cake, but they can't help you in time. Even if they don't put any damage, it's already a good relationship. The only person who truly accompanys you through the storm is your family. For men, except for their family, they are all passers-by in life. Don’t throw away watermelon and pick up sesame . parents are here, not traveling far away. all say: "Men are determined to be in all directions, and should study hard and serve their families and countries." This behavior, although it is a righteous act, is not suitable for most people. Because for most ordinary people, it is no easy task to take care of their families. My parents are here, if you don’t travel far, you will have a good time to travel. Parents are the last wall of life. . There is still a way for life. When parents go, there is only a way for life to return. For men, no matter how big the ambition is, they have to go home often, even if they help their parents wash the dishes. Don’t take too much burden when it comes to going home. Parents don’t want you to go home because they don’t want to expect anything. They just want to meet you, talk to you, and understand your current situation. That’s all. Parents are the only people in this world who will spoil you unconditionally. For you, they can even sacrifice themselves. There is a best-selling book in Japan called " 55 Things You Should Do Before Your Parents Leaving ". There is a formula on the cover of the book: "If your parents are 60 years old now, their remaining life span is 20 years, and you do not live with your parents, then the number of days you meet your parents every year is about 6 days, and the time you spend every day is about 11 hours! So: 20 years × 6 days × 11 hours = 1320 hours, that is to say, there are only 55 days left in the days you spend with your parents..." These 55 days may be the last contact between you and your parents. When we were young, we didn’t care about our parents because we had friends outside to have fun. When we were middle-aged, we didn’t care about our parents because we also wanted our wives, children and families to worry about. In my later years, we began to care about our parents, but by this time we had no parents. You see, people are so strange. They often don’t know how to cherish when they get it, but only after they lose it will they understand regret.
No matter how busy you work, don’t neglect the person next to you.
There is a saying: "A wife is the biggest Feng Shui in a family."
deeply agrees with this.
Whether a family is good or not, you can often get a glimpse of the second one by looking at the hostess in the house.
The greatest success of a man is the success of his marriage;
The greatest happiness of a man is the happiness of his family;
The key to a man’s success and happiness lies in his wife at home.
Wife is here, the family is not separated, there are people to take care of the elderly and their children to take care of them.
The wife is not here, and the family is gone. Not to mention the elderly, even the children, they cannot get the care they deserve.
If a man treats his wife kindly and knows how to care for and love his wife, then all this will come sooner or later.
If a man always neglects his wife, then life will only be misfortune and pain.
The second half of the marriage is about the wife.
WHO A survey shows that women generally live longer than men.
Therefore, most men have to rely on their wives to take care of themselves in their later years.
If a man does not treat his wife well, he will be destined to be happy in his later years.
Seeing this, some men may say, "Because they are too busy with work, they ignore their wife."
But in fact, men ignore their wife not because they are really too busy with work, but because they are not caring about their wife, so they forget the wife who silently gives.
For men, your wife is the person you are closest to in this world and the person you have been with you for the longest life.
If you lose your beloved wife, then you will be destined to regret it in the second half of your life.
Never neglect your lover!
Even if you don’t know how much she has paid silently behind her back, it is at least more than you think.
Really good husband-wife relationship must be a merger of career and love, both of which are often indispensable.
No matter how busy or tired you are, don’t lose love for your children.
For men, no matter how tired they are in their daily work, they must be responsible for being a good father when they go home, and they must not lack fatherly love for their children.
For children's childhood, children with fatherly love and children who lack fatherly love are completely different.
The gap between them is enough to affect their lives.
Psychological counselor Li Mengchao once said: Father is not only in the physiological sense, but also in the psychological sense. It includes five functions: offering, protection, discipline, preaching, and victory.
For a man, if he wants to fulfill his father's responsibilities, these five are indispensable.
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