Once you work hard to develop a gender relationship, from no one to countless loves, interesting things are about to happen.
When you start, you will be excited about success: You acted! You are dating! You get it! You finally lived the kind of life you had longed for. You keep meeting one woman after another, but some things start to bother you, that is... you don't have any feelings for these women.
They don't seem to be very special. You just date on a routine and then you're good at it. You don't even like it very much. Maybe you will meet again later, but you don’t think much of it.
This feeling is not very good: you are dating, but you don’t feel anything to anyone.
What is the problem
This does not mean that you are "not suitable for relationships between men and women", nor is it "women are too shallow". These are things that men often doubt when experiencing this kind of pain. However, none of these are the main reasons.
There are countless women in this world. If you think of the process of choosing a woman as a filter:
●If your filter (your process) is passed by anyone, most of what you get is not what you want.
●Other case is that if the filtering conditions themselves are set, then what you get will be the wrong types.
●Also, if you don’t know much about the filtering conditions yourself, you will not know the woman who is passing.
In other words:
●If you are not picking at all, which makes you unhappy, then you may need more filtering.
●If you always get the type you don't like, then you may need to adjust the way to find the type of woman you like.
●If you haven’t really understood the woman you’re dating, then you need to build a real sense of connection.
These are all problems with your process, not problems with you or relationships between men and women or women.
If you need more filtering
If you have practiced for a long time, you have become a person with a strong connection with the opposite sex and the right to choose. You have your own taste and choose your life according to your own wishes. Then, you must be more picky when choosing a woman.
Not anyone can enter your life, you need to filter. For example:
●Choose women who really attract you in appearance (rather than those who are average but easy to pursue)
●Choose women who attract you spiritually (understand her values, ideals, experiences)
●Choose women who make you feel strongly (such as those women who can make you excited)
If you have other needs, add them and find those women that match them.
At the same time, you need to start rejecting women you don't like so much. Yes, even if you know she likes you, even if you can get it easily, you have to refuse. You only accept those who meet the requirements.
When you find that more and more people are rejecting, everything will get better. Those who are indifferent cannot waste your time, you have a richer mentality and stronger attraction.
If you need to adjust the method
Suppose you like quiet and introverted women, but for some reason you always attract unrestrained and extroverted women. Although they are also very interesting, they are not your favorite after all.
If you always don't get the type you like like this, you may need to adjust your approach. A few suggestions:
●Start to the places you like where women often go.
●Chad as much as possible with the kind of women you like and get to know them.
● Pay attention to the men around them and try to imitate their clothes and behavior.
This will last for a while and see if this kind of woman's reaction to you will change. That is, you spend some time accepting some other behavior patterns to see if the situation can be improved. It’s not about you imitating others completely, but about seeing what new things are suitable for you, combining them with your original personality, and becoming a better self.
If you need more sense of contact
You can easily get the opposite sex, but always feel empty. The reason is often: you don’t have a sense of connection with women. This is a question of interaction.
You may not realize that the women you get have their own lives, ideas, dreams, pursuits, hopes, fears, insecurities, etc. If you don’t ask, of course you don’t know these.
The woman you met briefly last week. If you really had a deep conversation with her, you might find that she likes poetry and can memorize a bunch of poetry; she has been studying hard to prepare for the exam and obtaining the degree you envied; she even has experiences similar to you.
You will have a good connection!
But you have not understood these, and when you recall everything about it, you will naturally feel abnormally empty.
Last
If you experience the pain I mentioned in this article, don’t be too anxious. I can conclude that it was one of the three reasons I summarized. You just need to find out where your problem lies and implement the solution I shared. You will gain a peaceful mindset to embrace the date again and enjoy a wonderful life with the woman you really like.
But if, you don’t have women but don’t feel anything about women? Then stop pretending, it’s just that you can’t eat grapes, but you just say grapes are sour .
Stealing the bus, all the people who love to flirt have already gotten on the bus. Welcome to follow and free your hands.
