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Women always give habitually in their relationship. From the moment they are moved, they are willing to let go of themselves and regard that man as the most important part of their life. They even delay their work and give up their future because of love.
It is certainly a beautiful thing to give to your lover, but for a man, the more you give, the more he feels your love is cheap.
What men think is just like Maugham wrote in " Veil ":
Trust love is important, but being loved is not important. You won't even be grateful to the people who love you, and if you don't love them, they will only bore you.
Your efforts, your sacrifices, and your concessions are often unable to be exchanged for the sincere treatment of a man. He will only feel that everything is voluntary and has nothing to do with him.
A man’s psychology is so strange. The better you treat him, the worse he will not cherish it, and the worse his attitude towards you.
And the more you are indifferent to him, the more you have your own thoughts and personality, the more he cares about you and is afraid of losing you.
Three women who are very experienced in relationships will tell you: when you are with a man, you might as well be more indifferent and heartless, as he will cherish you more.
Chen Shiyun, 25 years old, cosmetics sales: If you are too well-behaved with men, he will care less and less about you. If you are a little polite and cold to him, he will be unable to live without you.
I have never been the kind of woman who obeys men. If he shys his face and is very cold to me, I will be even more indifferent to him.
To be honest, I have never shortage of people to chase after me, and there are many men who like me, and there are also many spare tires on WeChat.
When I was in love, I couldn’t be very good to men because I think men are not jealous, and the more I can’t get, the more I want to conquer.
If you rely on him and have to do so, he will become more and more arrogant and arrogant, thinking that he is amazing.
Before, there was a man who took the initiative to pursue me, and I saw that he was a little handsome and agreed.
At the beginning, he obeyed me and took good care of my emotions. I slowly let go of my guard against him.
I became dependent on him and wanted to see him every day, so I began to become very proactive.
However, he began to change gradually, and he did not take the initiative to reply to the message, and even did not reply for a long time.
At that time, I was really sad. I couldn't sleep all night and felt that my world was about to collapse.
thought for a long time before I decided to end this relationship. After everything was over, I felt that the whole world was open.
Since then, I have never taken the initiative again. If a man dares to ignore me, I will just go straight to the next one.
Wu Mengchen, 26 years old, front desk: I think if I get along with a man and be too considerate of him, he will lose his sense of conquest and freshness. You should still have a personality and don’t be unable to walk when you see a man.
talked about my sister's affairs. She met his boyfriend while drinking, and then launched a passionate offensive against him.
My sister needs to be good-looking and handsome, but he is just a little gentle and has no other advantages.
My sister chased him for about half a year, and the man behind him agreed, but after being together, he kept loving his ex-girlfriend and was particularly indifferent to my sister.
But at that time the sisters were addicted to love, and she endured all these things, but she didn't expect that the man became more and more excessive.
He contacted his ex-girlfriend with his sister on his back, and he was reluctant to leave his words between the lines. The sisters only ended the pain after they knew it.
After breaking up, the sister deleted the man's contact information and made up her mind to start over.
The man turned his head and flirted with my sister again. He gave him another chance. My friend ignored him, and he did it even more overdoing, just as if the person who was wrong at the beginning was not him.
So, men only know to cherish it when they lose it. No matter how good you treat him, they should ignore it. It is better to be a little ruthless and make you look very characterful.
When I interact with every man, I will leave a backup plan and be reserved. Once I realize that he has occupied a strong position, I will immediately correct it.
Luo Yuting , 25 years old, teacher: Perhaps only those who have been hurt understand how important it is to master superiority in their relationship. You must not rely too much on men. If you obey your orders too much, you will be hurt.
Now, when I think of my first love, I am very sad and sad. He has destroyed my view of love.
At that time, we were in college and we were in a long-distance relationship, so we could only express our feelings through the Internet.
I am particularly attached to him, and I share with him what happened every day, and then ask him what he is doing.
It seems that besides studying, my boyfriend is the only one left in my life. I look forward to him returning in seconds.
But the fact is that he responded to messages slower and slower, and he could delay it if he could. Afterwards, he just said "I'm busy".
Once upon a time, if I called, he would answer the call soon, for fear that I would be unhappy.
But at that time, he let the phone ring there directly, as if he hadn't seen it and missed it.
In this case, I feel very insecure, the more I want to contact him, the happier I will be when he responds to the message.
However, the situation will only get worse and worse. He will deal with it whatever he does and hurt me. He will hurt my heart thoroughly.
I couldn't stand it and asked to break up. I was really shocked that men would treat the person they once loved like this.
As for me now, I will never be so dependent on men anymore, otherwise I will only be disappointed.
Time and Emotional Class:
Please remember one sentence: the person you travel through mountains and rivers will not remember you at all, he will only remember the person you travel through mountains and rivers to meet.
In a relationship, the more proactive you are and the more unreserved you give, the less men will not take you to heart.
Men and women have different thinking. The better they treat you, the more you cannot live without him.
And the better you treat him, the more arrogant he is, thinking you have no value and your love is very cheap.
What you can't get is always in agitation, and those who are favored are fearless.
This is the direct way for men to respond to women’s active efforts and sacrifices.
So women, in a relationship, may as well be more heartless towards men, and they will come to please you.
