There is a saying that goes very well:
"If you don't have the ability to clean up the mess, don't indulge your emotions."
In life, there are many times in which the direction of your life may not be IQ and talent, but emotions.
People who cannot control their emotions have already made wrong choices under emotions; people who have the ability to control their emotions have also made the most correct choices for themselves.
In the adult world, you live your life whatever your emotions are.
01.Don’t bet on your life’s happiness for a moment’s emotions
Napoleon once said: “A person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can win a city.”
People always say that a man’s emotions affect his career and a woman’s emotions affect her marriage. If you think you are not as good as you imagined, you should know why you are not doing well enough.
There is a psychology teacher who tells the life experience of a male classmate. Her male classmate met a girl when she was young and quickly established a romantic relationship. However, not long after, the male classmate proposed to break up, because it was inappropriate.
After hearing the word "breakup", the girl turned around and ran into the kitchen of her home, picked up the pesticide and drank it.
male classmate saw this situation and ran to the hospital with his back. Finally, through emergency rescue, he was rescued. After the girl's health improved, the male classmate no longer dared to break up with her until the two got married and had their own children.
I thought life would continue to live peacefully, but the male classmate was unwilling to accept it. From his heart, he was forced to choose to get married. Therefore, not long after giving birth, he left his wife without warning. As for where he ran, no one knew, because more than 20 years ago, the communication was not developed, and no one could think of where he could go.
After a man ran away from home, the woman kept raising the child alone. It was not until the child was about to go to college that the man came back, and his child finally knew what his father was like.
As a female perspective, after seeing this story, I actually felt more sympathetic to this woman. In that era of my father, it was not easy for a woman to raise a child, and the sadness in it was unimaginable to us bystanders.
But, after thinking about it, this ending was exchanged for her paranoid emotions back then. If she had chosen to break up peacefully, without obsession or extreme behavior, the result would have been happier than today.
Maybe sometimes, only when there is regretful feelings, it is more precious.
Adults can learn to comfort themselves when facing sadness; when facing blows, they can adjust their emotions in time to cheer up, because only in this way can we not be disturbed by temporary emotions and make wrong choices and make ourselves regret their lives, because only in this way can we live more like ourselves.
The heart is calm and calm and self-reflective. This is the ability of every adult to regulate emotions.
02. Only with good emotions can you have a good life
Big S After remarried, he said with a smile in an interview: Gu Junye has a really good temper.
Anyone who has watched this video will say that Big S is happier and beautiful than before. Compared with the various unstable emotions of Wang Xiaofei before, Gu Junye can provide Big S with enough emotional value, so Big S's state becomes so cured, so that the whole person is shining. Therefore, emotional stability is the primary factor in a happy life.
In a variety show, Zhang Xinyi was asked, what kind of fit do you and Yuan Hong are you? Let you think that this person is the one who can spend the rest of your life with me?
Zhang Xinyi answered uncertainly: I am still not sure that I can spend my life with him. A person’s life is so long, and he lives on. He can’t predict whether he can spend his whole life with the person in front of him. He can only say that every day I live well now, and he may be able to walk for the rest of his life, but if he doesn’t live well now, how can he talk about his whole life?
psychologist Ellis once told this story:
There is a young man who broke up in love. The more he thought about it, he became sadder, so he went to ask for help from a psychologist. The psychologist asked him, if one day, when you were resting on a bench in the park, you put a book of your favorite book next to you, but suddenly someone came and broke your book, what should you do at this time?
young man said without hesitation: I will scold him, why can't I take a look first when I sit down?
psychologist then asked, what if the person who sits in the bad book is a blind person? The young man suddenly felt soft-hearted and said, then I will choose to forgive him.
psychiatrist also said, look, the reason why your feelings are so big is not because of the event itself, but your view of things. If you change your mindset about breaking up and don’t cherish you, the person who will leave early, otherwise you will suffer more harm in the future. If you think about it from another perspective, you will not be so sad.
In this life, emotions determine choices. Only with good emotions can you have good behaviors. If you have good behaviors, many problems can be solved. If the problem is solved, life will naturally be smoother and smoother.
May we all be able to properly calm our emotions and our eyes are warm.
