Looking at the present, many young people would rather be single than get married, not for anything else, but simply feel that the whole family is not hungry and that they can live carefree and enjoy life. Marriage will only reduce the quality of life, especially after having children, there are places where money is spent everywhere. Parents can endure hardships, but they can't make their children wrong, so they further compress the quality of life. Since this is the case, it is better not to get married.
. People always have the day when they are old. When they can’t walk, living alone will only make people feel helpless. Not to mention retirement, even life becomes a problem. At this time, it is particularly important to have a partner who knows the cold and the hot. If you are bored, someone will talk to you, and if you are hungry, someone will accompany you to relieve your boredom. This is true. Many single elderly people will consider remarrying.
59-year-old Aunt Gu took great pains to find her husband. She said bluntly, "You can have no car or house, and you can not give a bride price. As long as you agree to three conditions, I am willing to pay 5,000 yuan a month."
Self-reporter: Aunt Gu
I am 59 years old this year. When I was a child, my family was not in good condition and I wish I could spend a penny in half. In addition, the children were all girls, and I was often looked down upon by my neighbors, and "involved" that the four of us sisters were made fun of by children of the same age.
After forcing my junior high school, my elder sister and I went out to work. The big city under the neon lights made me yearn for it, but also felt that it was far away from me. Driven by the awareness of the rich and the poor, the great years were handed over to the factory assembly line. When they were not busy, they would stay alone in the dormitory to read books and newspapers.
In a blink of an eye, I reached the age of marriage. When my elder sister finished her home, my parents arranged a marriage for me. After the marriage was in a hurry, I gave birth to a child in a daze. From a big girl to a little wife, to a mother of the child, the change of identity caught me off guard, and my marriage life made me grow up a lot in my mind.
From an apprentice to a partnership in business, to opening a store by myself, many years have passed in a flash. Now I run two beauty salons and a hair salon. Even if I do nothing all day, my monthly income is enough for me to live my life.
My daughter is also very successful. After finishing college, she stayed outside to learn skills. After that, she came out with a few friends to work alone. She also made a small world and settled a home in the local area. She also paid me a living expenses on time every month.
It is said that I can’t spend all the money I earn, and there is no reason to ask for the children’s money, but my daughter insists on refusing, thinking that “the parents are not traveling far away”. Now she can’t be with me, and she is already in debt. So in her words, “It’s your business for you to have money, and I’m giving you it’s another matter.”
I don’t have to worry about food and drink, and my children don’t have to worry about it. But unfortunately, the unhappy marriage has hurt me.
My eyes don’t rub the sand in my eyes. Although we are just that in terms of relationship, we have been here for the sake of the face of the children and the elderly for so many years. At least in the eyes of outsiders, we are a loving couple, but I cannot accept and tolerate his unfaithfulness to marriage.
Ex-husband works in public institution , and has much more social engagements than me, a small vendor. In the past, she would go home no matter how late she was, but later she often makes excuses not to go home. My ex-husband has been weak since childhood, so he has always had the habit of running. Morning running is a must. If there is no social engagement at night, he will have another night running.
That morning, he changed his clothes and went out for a morning jog, but his phone landed on the coffee table in the living room. We originally respected each other and didn't usually look at each other's phones, but the phone kept ringing on the coffee table that day.
glanced at me and saw a few messages from a woman named "No. 13" to her ex-husband: Haven't arrived yet? It's a bit cold today. You wear more clothes. Don't go home for dinner after that. Let's go to Nanxiang to have porridge.
Later I learned that this "No. 13" was a colleague of my ex-husband. They have been together for almost two years, and it was the morning jogging and night jogging that allowed them to take advantage of the loopholes. The more I think about it, the more angry I feel, the more I want to vomit, and I lie on the bed and spin. While I was thinking about it, my ex-husband came back, as if he had come back a little earlier than usual. I pretended to have just gotten up, and when I saw him hurriedly pick up his phone as soon as he came back, the mood that had just calmed down caused another stir.
After several investigations, in the face of conclusive evidence, my ex-husband had nothing to say and kept begging me not to tell the elderly and children, but I couldn't see that I had no regrets about me. I wanted to live my life peacefully, but I didn't expect that he would do this before, so I insisted on divorce, and eight years have passed in a blink of an eye.
After the divorce, my daughter advised me not to get stuck in the ruthless way, the old ones will not come, the new ones will not come, and I look and conditions are not bad, so why worry about not finding a close friend? It is really "no mother is better than a daughter". I think of it as a whole. In my opinion, if you meet the right one, get married again, and if you don't have a reliable one, stay single.
After eight years, I have talked about many partners one after another, but they are not as good as I like. I am getting older this year. Although I am not inferior to young people in terms of appearance and dressing, I always feel empty and I especially want to find someone to accompany me. So with the support of my relatives and friends, I focus more on blind dates.
According to the fact that my conditions in all aspects are not bad, but after a few rounds, I still gain nothing. I don’t care about the other party’s financial conditions, I don’t require a house or a car, and I don’t choose how many brides I give, nor do I care if I don’t give them. As long as I meet the three conditions, I am willing to pay him five thousand a month.
First of all, I must be ranked first, you must understand life.
I am sincere in finding a wife who will entrust her old age. After all, I have experienced a failed marriage and I still have a hurdle in my heart. So I hope my partner will not be stupid. I can support you, but you must show your marriage attitude and always give me a sense of security.
I do not reject normal social activities, but I cannot be irresponsible. I should keep a proper mind when I come into contact with women other than me, and I should not even think about it while eating in the bowl and watching the things in the pot. If you meet a woman alone, you must report to me in advance, explain the time, place and reason, and obtain my consent, otherwise I will be confused and it will be difficult for neither of them to have a good time.
In addition, you need to pay attention to the details. In some commemorative days, you need to show sincerity. Although the ex-husband is unfaithful to his feelings, when we were still husband and wife, we often received small surprises, so we should take me to heart and have enough mood.
Secondly, I don’t participate in housework, you can’t be too playful.
I grew up living a hard life and can handle housework, but since I got a career, I rarely do things like washing, cooking, cooking, etc. It’s not that I look down on family labor, but that I really have no mind.
used to hire a nanny, but now I am older, so I am not as good as I was when I was young. I am a little picky about nanny. It is not a solution to exchange it over and over again. So I hope that my future partner can take on housework and not do it in vain. I will give you 6,000 yuan of living expenses every month, but I will give you more than enough.
Of course, I didn’t treat you as a free nanny, so don’t treat me as a sucker. I always think about being perfunctory, but I’m not that easy to fool.
I don’t mind drinking and playing cards, but I can’t play endlessly. Who wants their own men to hang out in mahjong halls and taverns all day long, and they smell like cigarettes and alcohol on them, so self-discipline is also a condition I value.
Third, parents are dead, have no children or daughters.
Filial piety to parents is both a virtue and an unshirkable responsibility as a child. My father broke his leg when I was young and injured his internal organs. This made it more and more difficult for the poor family to lose the ability to work.
My father passed away in the third year after my marriage, and my mother was also sick in bed and left not long after. Although I was filial, I was very tired and knew how difficult it was to take care of the elderly who could not take care of themselves.
If my future wife’s parents are alive, as a wife, I cannot sit idly by and watch, but I am no longer young and don’t want to live so tiring.
As a parent, no matter how old the child is, I will always think about it. If the other party always wants to subsidize his children, or even put more effort into the grandchildren, I will definitely be unbalanced. Although my family has no inheritance of the throne, it is still a bit of a small birth. I don’t want unpleasant things to happen because of interests. This is the truth and it is also a long-term perspective.
So I hope to find a man whose parents are deceased, children, and carefree. Without worries, the two of them can enjoy their old age together.
count these blind dates of mine. There are not many men who can fully meet the three conditions. Even if some meet the requirements, after several contacts, they find that the two of them are not on the same channel in many aspects, so they still haven't found someone who can accompany me in my old age for so long.
But then again, out of caution and avoiding unnecessary trouble, I will not relax my requirements no matter how difficult it is. After all, to live the way I want, there are not so many bad things, and I still have to stick to the principles. Do you think my requirements are too much? Can you find your favorite partner?
