Introduction
After people are old, I believe that all of us elderly people hope that we can live a happy and fulfilling life in our future, because many elderly people have been working hard and busy for work, family and life for the first half of their lives. When they are old, they naturally want to enjoy their old age for the rest of their lives. This is reasonable.
There are many conditions for the elderly to enjoy their old age, but the most important condition is that in their old age, the elderly must have enough pension money. To be honest, "money" is indeed a good thing. It can not only meet the elderly's needs for material life, but also meet the elderly's needs in other aspects.
Because of this, many of them will feel that if the elderly have a lot of savings in their later years, then the elderly will not live too happy and comfortable in their later years, but they will never live too miserable. But is this really the case? That's not necessarily the case. After all, nothing in the world is absolute and relative.
67-year-old brother Zhai cried and said, "Not only do I have a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, but I also have a deposit of 450,000 yuan. Others say that my financial conditions are very good, and I admit this. But now, my old age is very miserable, and this is all because I took the wrong three steps when I was young." What is going on? Let's look down together.
67-year-old brother Zhai's self-report
My name is Zhai Xiangdong, I am 67 years old this year. I am from Shanxi. It has been 7 years since I retired. I have a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan and a deposit of 450,000 yuan. The most important thing is that my wife is still alive, and my only son also has his own happy family. In the eyes of others, if I have such good conditions, then my old life should be very happy.
But the actual situation is that my later years are very miserable. I cry more every day, and I know very well that when I reach this point, no one complains, but only blames me for taking the wrong three steps when I was young. Now it’s too late to say anything. For details, let me tell you one by one!
When I was young, I worked in a certain unit. During this period, I had a girlfriend. Both of us admired each other, and her parents also looked down on me. Her parents meant that we hoped that we would form a happy family in the future. Originally, I was full of all kinds of beautiful fantasies about our future lives.
But at this moment, my parents insisted on letting me marry another woman and start a family, and this woman is my current wife. My parents mean that this woman’s parents have always had a good relationship with them, so they hope that I can marry this woman, so that it can be considered a marriage.
This is a typical arranged marriage. This may not happen now. But at that time, this situation was very common, but I didn’t love this woman at all, and this woman had neither a job nor any school. It can be said that I was not a good match at all, so I naturally disagreed.
But my parents refused to let me marry this woman. In order not to make my parents feel sad and angry, later, there was no way, so I could only marry my current partner.
Two years after getting married, my wife gave birth to a smart and well-behaved son for me. The arrival of my son made me feel much better all of a sudden, but even so, my relationship with my wife is still as lukewarm as before. Maybe my wife has already felt that I don’t like her at all.
So in the following time, my wife gave in to me in everything. She never had a head-on conflict with me. Even though it was clearly my fault, she was not at all wrong, but afterwards, she would choose to apologize to me.
Not only that, my wife is also very good to me in daily life. To this day, I still clearly remember that one year I accidentally broke my leg. During this period, my wife was responsible for all the problems of eating, drinking, defecation, urination, and sleep. After my health was healed, my wife lost almost ten pounds.
And my wife is usually responsible for all housework, and she is also responsible for taking care of my parents. It can be said that in our family, she is like a nanny, who handles everything at home, but she has never complained. I dare not imagine what our family would be like without her.
Maybe it was because my wife was so kind to me, so I was very arrogant at that time. After get off work or on Saturdays and weekends, others either helped my wife get children at home or did housework at home, but I didn’t do that, but instead asked some friends to go out to drink.
Every time I get drunk, I go home. After I get home, my wife is kind and asks me to drink less in the future. She says that drinking too much is not good for my health, but I did not listen to my wife's kind words. Instead, I either scolded her or attacked her.
Sometimes I feel stressed and in a bad mood. After I get drunk, I not only treat my wife as my punching bag, but sometimes I also point fingers at my son. My son is so scared that he burst into tears on the spot, but I don’t care about this and just go to sleep with myself.
During this period, I also did some more excessive things. By chance, I learned about my ex-girlfriend’s contact information. Logically speaking, we both already have our own families, so we should contact less in the future to avoid any trouble, but I contacted my ex-girlfriend again.
Usually, as long as I have time, I will talk to my ex-girlfriend on the phone, but this is all secretly carried by my wife. I was afraid that she would make trouble with me in the future, but there is no secret wall in the world. When my wife knew that I was in contact with her ex-girlfriend again, she said she would divorce me in everything. Later, with the persuasion of both parents and friends of both parties, my wife did not divorce me. But since then, I obviously felt that my wife had a prejudice against me.
Also, if my son makes a mistake or does something that I don’t like, I don’t choose to touch my son and make sense. Instead, I always do not distinguish between them. Either scold my son or punish him in disguise. Therefore, my son has been particularly afraid of me since he was a child. Sometimes when his son sees me, he is so scared that he doesn’t dare to breathe.
What I usually do makes my parents very angry. For this reason, they often advised me to calm down, not to drink often, not to be too fierce to my son, and also to work hard to get along with my wife. I agreed well, but afterwards, I still do my own things.
But what I never expected was that this kind of thing I did at that time ended up hurting myself.
7 years ago, I officially retired from my company at the age of 60. Originally, I was still full of confidence in my later years, because in my opinion, I can now receive a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, and a 120-square-meter independent housing. Most importantly, I still have a wife and son, so my later years will naturally be less than apart.
In fact, in the few years I just retired, my old age was relatively happy and very free. I did whatever I wanted every day, and no one could care about me. My mood and mental state were also very good every day, and I enjoyed my current life very much.
But four years ago, my legs always felt a dull pain, and sometimes my legs hurt so much that I couldn't stand up. So I quickly went to the hospital for a check-up. The doctor told me that because I drank too much when I was young, my body now has lesions. I can only take medicine to control my condition, but it won't take long to go to my wheelchair when I travel. Even in the near future, I will be completely paralyzed in bed and can't go anywhere.
As expected, just one year later, I really got into a wheelchair, but I was thinking at the time that even if I was in a wheelchair, it would be nothing, because I still had my wife and son, and they could come to take care of me in the future. I had nothing to worry about, but I was wrong.
Since I got into a wheelchair, my wife didn't want to take care of me at all. Instead, she either went out to find someone to sing and dance, or played cards with others every day. When she came back at night, she fell asleep and was unwilling to say something to me. My wife's behavior made me very angry at that time. I asked her, "If it doesn't help me, we will have a couple." I'm facing difficulties now, so you can't stand by and watch, right?"
But what did my wife say? If you know that we are husband and wife, you would not have kept me in my back and contacted your ex-girlfriend secretly. Now I think of me, it's too late. You shouldn't look for me now, but your ex-girlfriend.
My wife's words suddenly made me speechless. It is true that my actions back then were too much, but I didn't expect that after so long, my wife was still worried about this matter. Perhaps my behavior really hurt my wife's heart.
Later, I wanted my son to take care of himself, because I knew that my son’s daily work was very leisurely and he had a lot of free time, but my son refused for various reasons and said he was unwilling to take care of me.
Later, I really had no choice but to spend money to hire a nanny to take care of myself. However, I changed several nannies in succession, but they dealt with the issue of taking care of me without exception. None of them took good care of me, and sometimes I couldn't even eat because they knew that no one was going to make the decision for me. Even if they didn't take good care of me, I wouldn't have any way to do it.
Originally, I thought that I would have a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, a deposit of 450,000 yuan, and I also have a wife and son. Then my later years will definitely be very good, but it is because I took the wrong three steps when I was young that my life is very miserable.
The first step I took was that I did not pay attention to my body, which led to me getting into a wheelchair early now. If I were very healthy now, I would not have to suffer this sin. No matter how much money I had, I would not be able to buy my healthy body.
The second step to go wrong is that I shouldn’t do something to do to my wife, which will completely hurt her heart. If I could care about my wife, respect her, and have a good relationship with her husband and wife, now that I am in trouble, my wife will definitely not sit idly by.
The third step to go wrong is that when I was young, I should pay attention to methods and methods, rather than either beating or scolding him or treating him rudely. At the same time, I should also know how to treat my son well. If there is a son for me, I believe that the nanny will not dare to take good care of me so unscrupulously.
I hope everyone will not learn from me, but should take me as a warning. If the elderly want to enjoy their old age, in addition to having enough pension money in their hands when they get old, our elderly must pay attention to their bodies, be kind to their children, and be kind to their partners when they are young. If they don’t let them go, the elderly’s wish to enjoy their old age will most likely fail.
