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As long as girls are 25 years old, there will always be many people around them urging you to urge you. If you don’t find a man with good conditions to marry, life will come to a desperate situation.
Marriage seems to solve all the problems in life, but times have changed. Women of their parents' generation can still treat men as long-term meal tickets.
Nowadays, girls who have to change their destiny by marriage will be disappointed after half a year after marriage.
If before getting married, you didn’t blindly find someone to rely on because you met the right person, or you didn’t have the ability to create a better life for yourself, reality will give you a hard slap.
Even women who get married because of love have to go through broken moments in marriage.
More than a year later, they finally realized that marriage is not as simple as they imagined.
Three middle-aged women have personally experienced the real family life. Their experiences give all women a serious warning: after ten years of marriage, they can see the indifferent truth of marriage clearly, and no one can become your harbor.
Ms. Chen: After marriage, all love and romance will be wiped out. Life is only a mess
My husband and I are college classmates. The love on campus is so beautiful and hot, and there is no need to consider the pressure of reality.
At that time, love was the whole of my life. After graduation, the other party still had nothing, but I just married him willingly.
My husband promised that he would be nice to me for the rest of his life and would make me feel happy.
I have no doubts and have high expectations for marriage. However, less than a year after getting married, many things were beyond my imagination.
There are few sweet days, and the feelings of grievance and anger continue to increase.
Getting along with a strong mother-in-law exhausted most of my energy.
Every time I quarrel with her, my husband never takes the initiative to help me solve the situation. In his heart, even if my mother-in-law's decision is wrong, she must obey it to save trouble.
All the love and romance at the beginning were exhausted by real life, and life was only a mess.
I come back from get off work every day. No matter how tired I am, I have to cook, take care of my children, do housework, etc. first.
No one can say the grievances in his heart, and no one can understand them. He always feels very lonely.
It was only when I was middle-aged that I saw the indifferent truth of marriage clearly. Don’t expect my husband to treat you as much as he was in love, otherwise you will be disappointed.
Ms. Zhuang: A full-time mother will never be recognized. Women must not lose themselves for love.
I didn’t know that my husband was such a boyish man. After I gave birth to a daughter the second year after my marriage, his attitude towards me changed completely.
My parents-in-law were unwilling to help me take care of my children. At first, I could only hand over my daughter to my parents, but later my sister-in-law also had a child, and they could no longer help me.
I have no other way, so I can only quit my job. I have been married for almost ten years, and I have worked hard for my family every day, almost all year round.
Later, I also gave birth to a second child, which was a boy. I originally thought my mother-in-law and husband would be very happy and would be a little better to me.
But they never recognized me, just because I am only a full-time mom and have no income.
My mother-in-law treats me like a nanny at home. What I fear most is that during the holidays, more than a dozen guests come to my house, and I have to work in the kitchen all day.
They all eat very satisfied, and no one cares whether I am tired or hungry.
Now I understand that no matter how much you have ever loved each other, don’t lose yourself after marriage.
Don’t give up your career easily. If you give and compromise blindly, what you get will not be love, but disgust.
Ms. Zhou: Marriage cannot change destiny. After marriage, I have insomnia and anxiety. I have no freedom
My husband and I met on blind dates. He has good conditions and is very handsome. My family is very special. My mother remarried when I was 10 years old and later gave birth to a younger brother for me.
Both parents love him very much, and I exist to satisfy them.
Before getting married to my husband, I had a boyfriend who was very nice to me. He really loved me and even his parents had never treated me so well.
However, when I wanted to marry him, I was strongly opposed.
My parents won’t listen to my voice. In their opinion, I must find a rich man, otherwise what should my younger brother do.
So, when I was reluctant, they forced me to go on a blind date and then met my current husband.
He can meet all the needs of my parents and gave my family a 300,000 yuan gift when he got married.
I was sent away like a product. My parents were very happy at that time and were a little nicer to me.
However, after getting married, I feel very anxious every day and often suffer from insomnia.
My husband’s mind was not on me at all. After trying socializing until midnight, we had almost no room and opportunity to be alone.
In marriage, I don’t have the right to make decisions. Everything has to be followed by his arrangements, and I can’t care about his affairs.
I love you humbly, but even so, my husband still betrays my marriage many times, leaving me without even dignity.
I have filed for divorce and was beaten several times because of this. After returning to my parents' home helplessly, my parents asked me to bear it.
My husband knew that I had no way out and became even more indifferent to me.
If time can be repeated, I will definitely not marry him. I will work hard to strive for my own happiness.
Conclusion:
Like a sentence Gorky said: "Marriage is the spiritual union of two people. The purpose is to overcome all difficulties and hardships in the world together."
But marriage in real life cannot give you such support. The above three middle-aged ladies had no warmth in their marriages, and they lived a grievance and helpless life.
Therefore, girls must make careful choices before planning to get married, and do not have too high expectations for marriage, otherwise they will easily be discouraged.
