"People think that going abroad can lead a good life, but in fact, it's not. People are actually waiting every day in a foreign land, waiting to go home."
A woman's temples and a few strands of hair fall naturally, and her eyes are filled with a bit of perseverance and calmness. With exquisite eyebrows and eyeliner, there is no dust at all.
The facial lines are full, and the fullness and moisturizing feeling add a little vitality to her, but the corners of her smiling mouth are a bit lonely.
Her name is Gao Shan, she is 49 years old this year, and she has lived in Russia for 30 years. She really wants to return to China.
01 Original family
Gao Shan was born in 1973 in an ordinary working family in Yanbian . She also has three older brothers. Her parents worked as workers in a factory. Her two meager salary barely supported the family of six to survive.
Gao Shan's mother controls the overall situation of the family. On the one hand, she is smart and capable, and tries every means to make money and handle big and small things. On the other hand, she has a strong personality and always blames her family for everything.
Under the influence of feudal ideas and the pressure of financial difficulties in life, my mother wanted Gao Shan to get married early, and she was disgusted with her in her words.
And my father, like other fathers of that era, had traditional thoughts, honesty and honesty, and felt a sense of timid twisting and powerlessness in the family.
He loves his wife and his daughter.
Faced with the irreconcilable contradiction between the two, he can only see it in his eyes and hurt in his heart. In such an environment, Gao Shan is increasingly trying to become self-reliant and gain the right to speak as soon as possible.
18 years old, a skirt made Gao Shan’s life trajectory change drastically.
She wanted to buy a new skirt, but she got her mother scolded her head and said, "If you want to buy it, just earn it yourself--"
Things has come to this point. Gao Shan, who dared to think and do it, decided to drop out of school and work despite her father's obstruction.
02 I was busy trying to taste the warmth and coldness, and I learned Russian in the tide of the times and wanted to make money. In the end, I suffered a loss of no education. Gao Shan tried the waiter and the textile factory worker one after another. She endured all the hardships when she was selling her physical labor and realized the importance of learning culture.
Coincidentally, the wave of reform and opening up of is surging with the emergence of cross-border trade, and translation talents are very popular. She signed up for Japanese with great enthusiasm.
However, soon after, her teacher became a Russian teacher. is like this. Gao Shan works during the day to earn tuition, learns Russian at night, with hope in mind, and desires to achieve a leap in life.
Fate always favors those who are prepared. A border trading company recruited a translator from the Russian office, and the teacher recommended Gao Shan, a diligent and hardworking girl without hesitation.
03 A foreign country is a faraway guest, and he almost died without any support
The rumbling sound of the train gradually drowned her father's face. Gao Shan shouted confidently: "Wait for me, I will earn 50,000 and come back!"
The imagination of a bright future made her unable to control herself early. When she stepped onto this strange land, the scenery of Russia made her dizzy.
Due to his unskilled language, Gao Shan could only do miscellaneous work, and was persuaded to leave by the company a year later. Unwilling to give in, she understood that only by learning Russian well can the key to opening a new world.
So she found a Russian teacher from Far East University. The teacher kept food and accommodation and taught her Russian, on the condition that she had to pay 1,500 yuan a month to help her take care of her two daughters. Gao Shan occasionally goes to the market to help her fellow villagers do translations, barely making a living.
html There are unexpected situations in 0 days.In July 1993, Gao Shan, who had just found a job, was kidnapped by two strange men, and all the money she saved in the past four years was looted.
Russia should not stay for a long time; she had no money and no face when she returned to China. She thought about it over and over again and temporarily returned to her domestic office and hid.
Retraction is not the solution. Half a month later, Gao Shan embarked on a journey to Russia again. The gears of fate slowly rotated, and as she went, she gained a unique love.
04 When you meet a good person, you will be prosperous in your career, and it is difficult to choose your hometown of love
In 1997, Gao Shan met a Russian boy named Yaroslav in an auto repair shop. He said very little, but he gave people an indescribable sense of peace and peace of mind.
The two trust each other as they become increasingly familiar with each other and become reliable friends.
When Gao Shan mentioned that he was kidnapped by the robbers and had no savings, it immediately aroused Yaroslav's desire to protect him. He proposed to do business together, and Gao Shan also thought it was a good idea.
They started import and export trade: they transported Russian raw materials to China, and then transported furniture and building materials from Harbin to Russia for sale.
Taking advantage of Gao Shan's bilingual advantages, the business quickly prospered and the two fell in love. In just three years, Gao Shan made 200,000 yuan.
At this moment, Gao Shan cannot take care of both love and hometown. In 2000, she bid farewell to Yaroslav and returned to her dream hometown.
She returned home in glory, made a fortune, waved her hand and exchanged a new building of 110,000 yuan for her parents. Her mother's face was full of pride, and her father only felt sorry for the suffering she suffered over the years.
While the scenery is unlimited, there is always a wet place in her heart that is raining.
After returning to China, she and Yaroslav met several times. But each has something to stick to, and there are some words that need no more words.
Grandmaster was secretly matched. Soon, Gao Shan discovered that she was pregnant. Yaroslav heard the news and shouted happily: "We'll get married soon."
The rushing love always depends on the sacrifice of one party. This time, for the sake of her children, she embarked on a foreign journey again.
In December 2000, they held a wedding in the small town of Yaroslav's hometown. In March of the following year, the lively and lovely eldest daughter was born.
The mother-in-law loves this Chinese daughter-in-law very much. She moved into a big villa and quickly integrated into Yaroslav's family.
They both continue to work hard for their happiness.
In 2007, Gao Shan bought another house in Dalian. With the support of her husband, she planned to return to China to live after the child grows up.
05 The hand of fate is cruel and ruthless, and the fallen leaves return to their roots and are indescribable
In 2008, the birth of the youngest daughter was accompanied by the outbreak of the economic crisis, Gao Shan and Yaroslav were on the verge of bankruptcy overnight.
In order to maintain a life, Yaroslav had to work several jobs, and his body was slowly dragged down by the pressure. In 2012, he was diagnosed with cancer and doctors said he had missed the best treatment period.
Shortly, after her husband passed away, Gao Shan distributed his property according to his will, sold the villa and car to pay off the debts owed by the treatment, and took her daughter back to her former small bungalow.
And now, Gao Shan’s biggest wish is to return to China to spend his old age, but it cannot be realized for many reasons. After wandering for half a lifetime, homesickness is the root of the wanderer.
