Author: Bidu Chelsea
Source: Bidu Good Book
In an interview, someone asked Buffett What is the most important investment in life?
He replied: Who are you marrying?
Choose to marry to which person will affect your lifelong happiness.
marrying someone who only knows how to talk about love seems to be harmonious, but it is actually very painful;
marrying someone who only knows how to give money, although he has no worries about food and clothing, he is lonely and helpless.
As Lin Yutang said: "All marriages, no matter how they are arranged, are gambling and adventures in the vast sea. Marriage is like a carved boat, it depends on how you appreciate it and how you drive it."
Good marriages must be raised in wealth, and you must not lack money or love.
01 It is easy to say love, but it is difficult to support a family.
Psychological expert Li Zhongying once wrote in his book: "A happy marriage is not given by God. Love alone cannot make a marriage successful."
When you are in love, you can only talk about love and not about money. However, in marriage, you cannot do without food, rice, oil and salt, and living a life is inevitable.
Life is cruel, and no matter how many sweet words you have, you can't stand the reality of three meals a day.
Marriages that cannot be implemented in small matters such as dressing, eating, and counting money are all fragile products.
Such a couple once came to "Golden Mediation". On the
program, her husband Xiao Li repeatedly expressed his love for his wife Xiao Ma, but Xiao Ma was always unmoved and insisted on divorce. The host of
is very puzzled, but with Xiaoma's account, everyone also understood her helplessness and bitterness.
It turns out that Xiaoma has never made money to support her family since she got married for 5 years.
He frequently changes jobs, and no job can last for 2 months. He is either too tired or hurt himself.
In his own words, he can't stand all the work.
So he simply didn't go to work, played cards all day long, surfed the Internet, and used his wife's savings to trade stocks.
At the same time, Xiaoma has been working hard to make money to support her family, and even became tired and sick. She hopes that her husband can go out to work and share the burden of the family.
Although his wife tried hard to persuade him, Xiao Li felt that the money his wife earned was enough for expenses and he did not need to worry about family trivial matters.
Xiaoma was exhausted and extremely disappointed with the marriage. No matter how affectionate the husband said, he would never look back.
When I was young, I always felt that talking about money was hurting my feelings; as I grew older, I realized that a marriage that didn’t talk about money was hurting my heart.
Two people in marriage can work together to drive the boat of marriage to the harbor of love.
If one party selfishly throws the burden of supporting the family to the other party, after a long time, people are tired and heartbroken, the marriage is coming to an end.
I heard a very interesting saying: "Money is the underwear of marriage, which outsiders can't see, but you have to wear."
says love is easy, just talk; it's difficult to support a family and requires material burden.
If you can’t support your family, marriage will be like running naked, and sooner or later it will be a joke.
No matter how much I love you, it is not as good as money; no matter how big the slogan you shout, it is not as good as supporting your family.
02 It is easy to give money, but it is difficult for Gu family to
Are there such people around you too?
I thought I had worked hard to make money, so when I got home, I turned a blind eye to housework and didn’t do anything?
thinks that you have paid enough money, so you don’t care about trivial matters at home and don’t care about anything?
doesn’t know that it’s easy to give money, but it’s difficult to take care of the family.
Those marriages that only know how to measure responsibility with money are not widowed, but are useless.
One person takes care of the baby, one person goes to the hospital, one person supports a home...
I once watched a Korean tearjerking short film.
drama, the mother played by Zhang Nora crying in the daily life of raising a baby alone.
The empty house is only mother. Even when going to the toilet, the child cries outside the door, so he has no choice but to let the child in.
Finally, the child fell asleep. Just as he wanted to have a bite of food, the child woke up and had to hold the baby in one hand and stuff the rice randomly with the other.
She hugged the child alone for a long time. Her wrist was sore and she had to apply plaster. Even though the pain was unbearable, she immediately reached out to hug her when she heard the child crying.
In the middle of the night, the child was sick, but the father was still socializing outside. The mother was anxious and at a loss. She kept calling her father, but she couldn't get through and had to carry the child to the hospital alone.
exhausted, she hoped that her father would come back quickly, but received a text message: I won’t come back tonight.
At this moment, she couldn't help but collapse and burst into tears...
Is this a portrayal of many mothers in real life? There is no worries about lack of money, but there is no sadness about lack of money.
No one's family is peaceful and life is full of trivialities.
The family’s food, drinking, defecation, urination, raising children, and caring for the elderly..., all of them are inseparable from time and energy.
No matter how high the salary is, it cannot be exchanged for others' heartfeltness towards your family; no matter how much money you spend, it cannot be able to buy the harmony and happiness of the family.
In fact, a happy marriage not only requires the effort of money, but also requires the careful participation of both parties.
can be busy, but you can’t lose care; you can socialize outside, but you can’t be absent at home.
only gives money, does not participate in the common responsibility of marriage, and is a hand-off manager in everything, which will always make the other person's heart cold.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "The most tormenting thing in marriage is not conflict, but boredom."
I am tired of one person's charge, and I am tired of the marriage between two people.
03 Rich marriage: half is money, half is love
On Zhihu , someone asked: What is the best state of marriage?
One of the highly praised answers is: No shortage of money, no shortage of love.
Think about it carefully, it’s all like this.
Only when you are not short of money can you live without worries; only when you are not short of love can you live without worries.
When it comes to model couples in the entertainment industry, many people will think of zhilin Zhang and Anita Yuen .
Zhilin Zhang is a famous madman who loves his wife.
A part of the program was "If there were only the last 24 hours, what would you say to your wife?"
He said to Anita Yuen without thinking:
"I don't dare to die. I'm afraid that if you leave now, you and your son will not have enough money to spend. But if you say that you and your son have enough money to spend, even if I leave now, I won't worry."
's heartfelt words moved both Anita Yuen and the audience.
Because his parents divorced since childhood, Zhang Zhilin cherishes his family very much. In addition to making money from work, he spends most of his time with his family.
He also revealed the details of the couple's getting along on the show. At home, he is responsible for handling the electrical appliances, while Anita Yuen is responsible for the children's school affairs.
They never let one party deal with family trivial matters alone, but instead divide the labor of men and women, and each person tries to do his own duties.
As he said himself: "Give the other party a stable mentality and sufficient sense of security is the most romantic thing in marriage."
I think this is probably the most beautiful look in marriage. It not only strives to make money to protect the family, but also stays with the family with all their joys and sorrows.
People often say: "Love is so beautiful, but marriage is not easy."
In marriage, the difficulty is the firewood, rice, oil and salt, the bitter is the mess, and the busy is the mess. Among these difficulties,
cannot be separated from the efforts of money and the company of love. This is the responsibility of supporting the family and the responsibility of the family.
Life may not be satisfactory, but marriage needs to be raised in wealth.
Raising marriage is half money and half love.
It’s okay, make money well; if you have time, spend more time with your lover.
Two people, three meals and four seasons, together in the same boat through storms, warm each other and nourish each other.
A marriage that nourishes each other is enough to work together for a lifetime and resist thousands of people.
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Marriage expert Chen Yiyun Professor said: "In a person's life, no success can make up for the failure of marriage and family, and no success can replace the success of marriage and family."
Learn to manage marriage as a lifelong career. Raising marriage is raising wealth is raising life.
can speak sweet words in a long flow of water and can support three meals a day;
can walk with the wind and rain, and has the efforts to support the family and the actions to take care of the family.
I wish you a pair of people in your life, choose a city to live your life, and be happy in your life.
Author: Bidu Chelsea, a freelance writer, willing to use a pen to save others and save themselves.
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