Today is National Day. Do you have any traveling?
Yesterday I received a private message: "Teacher, my husband's relationship is on the verge of breaking down, but I don't want to give up this relationship. What should I do?"
I often see a broken marriage in in the cases I consulted. The two have already reached the strange road of relationship, but they have not divorced. One party does not want to divorce but cannot find a way to save the other party.
If you are also in an emotional crisis, it is better to seize this short holiday and spend this holiday with a man.
Today, the talented man will talk to you about how to use the short holiday to solve the emotional crisis? of course, what I’m talking about today is also applicable to operations on ordinary days!
1. Relive the passion
Many times the passion of love can only exist for a short time. Once the passion passes, the couple returns to ordinary things and live a life of food, food, oil and salt.
Facing the troubles of all sizes in life, the expected life is not like this. They will be tired of such a life and will lose hope of love for the other party.
will encounter various troubles in marriage. We must face it calmly. No matter how perfect love is, it requires passion. So how should we rekindle the passion?
Passion is the stimulation brought by freshness .
For example, you can travel to different places, match different clothes every day, and eat different meals every day. In love life, we can have a romantic candlelight dinner with our partner, have a leisurely afternoon tea, and the two of them go to the hotel to open a couple's suite on a special anniversary.
It’s not that you lack passion in life, but that you need to dig them . The little interest in marriage will make the relationship between you two deeper and make you not troubled by trivial matters. Even if there is, it will be taken away by interest, turning small things in life into proof of love, and your marriage will be more complete.
Some people think that there is no need for old couples to create passion. But we create passion for a better life for the family. Although work is hard, occasional passion will make us full of hope for life.
2. Recommunicate
The man may have clearly expressed his demands, but you didn't care at that time, and you didn't think it was important. When all the disappointments were accumulated, you felt that they became more and more mature and more "sensible".
contradictions have not disappeared, they have accumulated. The freezing of three feet is not a day. The accumulated conflicts will overwhelm your relationship.
Being able to enter the palace of marriage also means that you have had beautiful memories and a deep emotional foundation. It is just that the lack of communication and communication between you has brought the relationship to this point now.
For example, you can find a free time to sit down, both parties will talk in their hearts, and chat openly, and tell them: "What are my needs, what about you? I hope you can do this, how do you plan your future." etc.
Even if you talk about conflicts, don’t be angry, try to calm your tone. Before chatting, think about the purpose of your communication. has a plan for what you express, and keep your emotions in your communication. .
When communicating with the other party, try to think from the other party's perspective and look at the problem from the other party's perspective. The other party will also feel your understanding and tolerance, and it will make it easier for you to achieve the purpose of your communication.
For example, when you see the other person take off his shoes and put them in random order when he comes back from work, and don’t put them neatly, and don’t do housework when he sees the housework, he will lie on the sofa. If you scold him loudly, “Why do you know how to lie on the sofa when you come back, and don’t know how to clean the shoes and put them in randomly when you take off your shoes and put them in randomly.” This will only backfire.
If you have a gentle and understanding attitude to him, "Dear, I know you are tired. Are you working too much today? Let me clean the hygiene. You have a good rest first, and I will put the shoes for you."
He may indeed not want to clean up because of laziness, but due to your understanding, he will not be so lazy next time. Your words will gradually change him and let him gradually change him to what you hope.
3. Rekindle confidence
Confidence will make us not helpless when facing difficulties, and will also give us more courage to face challenges. You won’t feel frustrated when you fail, and you won’t feel sad when you are lost. Everyone will face the pressure of life, and we must have confidence.
In love, only by being full of confidence and hope for this relationship can the relationship continue. Only by rekindling confidence and full of hope for the relationship can the broken marriage be restored.
Although your marriage may have experienced very difficult times, although it is not your ideal now, it is the home you work hard to run.
So for your happy life in the future, we should also regain our confidence, strive to be the best, and change our attitude towards marriage. It is no longer the kind of indifferent things that we used to be, and gradually make ourselves proactive.
For example, you can improve the family atmosphere and have a complete plan for yourself and the other party’s future. You can realize your original dream together and supervise each other to make progress together.
Deep love is far-reaching and strives for your own and other people's ideals. Although the process may be tortuous, you will have a broader future.
