In fact, my friend is not opposed to my father falling in love or remarrying, but my father got married after a few days of knowing that woman, and even the other person's name must be added to the house.
When a friend saw this, he felt that the woman was too scheming, so he advised her father to separate from her, but her father was determined to be with each other.
He didn't understand. My father was so old and should have been used to living alone. Why did he suddenly change so much?
In fact, not only the father of a friend, but many middle-aged men also have emotional needs.
html After the age of 350, men have three "purposes" to remarry, and the last one is too selfish.
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First: I feel empty inside, I want to find a companion
There is a saying in " Wizard of Oz ": "I made up my mind to end my lonely life with marriage, so that I can not be lonely."
Living alone, even if I enjoy being alone, I will feel lonely.
Especially when you go out alone, looking at strangers of the same age as you on the road, there will always be people around you, and the two of them are talking and laughing while walking side by side.
At this time, men will inevitably feel lonely in their hearts and long for a woman around them who is similar to them to accompany them, live together, and sometimes they can go out for a trip and chat together.
Not only that, he also hopes that when he is tired, someone around him can help him pinch his shoulders and tell his heart to the other party.
So, when a man is middle-aged, he suddenly wants to find a woman. The reason is very simple, he wants to have a companion by his side. Even if the other party is not excellent and the conditions are not as good as himself, he is very satisfied.
This kind of relationship may not be love, nor is it as vigorous as the feelings of young people, but it is this kind of long-lasting companionship that satisfys men the most.
Think about it carefully. After the meal, two people sat in the yard with a stool, watching the sun gradually set, shaking their palm-leaf fan. Perhaps this kind of life is the norm for those with partners, but for those middle-aged people who don’t have partners, it is the most precious time.
This is also the reason why many middle-aged people choose to marry second marriage. They may not have such a deep emotional foundation for their partners, but it is enough to be able to accompany each other at critical moments and live a life of food, rice, oil and salt together.
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Second: Desire for love and actively seek love
Many people think that love is something that young people should pursue. You can pursue it when you are in your twenties or thirties, but after you are in your fifties, it will be bad to pursue love again.
It is precisely because of this that many children oppose their parents' pursuit of love.
But in fact, this idea is wrong. No matter what age they are, they will have emotional needs, long for love, and have the right to pursue it actively.
Even if some men are already middle-aged, they will be moved when they meet the right woman. Although they have too many experiences and have seen too many people, they are more mature and stable than young people.
However, it is precisely because of past experience that they discover the charm of women, cherish the goodness of having a partner, and be more grateful for the other party's efforts.
Moreover, they are over fifty years old and have their own careers and savings, and they can provide their lover with a wealthy life without any effort.
will not fight like young people, or because money cannot give women a future, it is too late to regret it. Aunt Li from
community met her current husband when she was forty years old. The other party was ten years older than her, but the two saw each other's eyes right. Coupled with the other party's initiative, Aunt Li eventually fell and the two got married smoothly.
After marriage, the husband fulfilled his pre-marriage promise and treated Aunt Li twice as well. Now they live a happy life, and their children are happy for them when they see their parents getting better and better.
So, even middle-aged men, as long as they truly fall in love with a woman, will definitely take action, and even the worldly eyes cannot stop them. What they want is just to live with the person they love the rest of their lives.
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Third: It’s lazy and needs to be taken care of
There is also a kind of man who insists on getting married and marrying a wife in middle age, but his purpose of getting married is not for loneliness and love, but for someone to serve him.
I once saw such a news that there was a man who was a native of Beijing. Later, he hired a nanny with a salary of 9,000 yuan a month. The nanny was neat and diligent, and she was also relatively young.
After a long time, the man had an idea and took the initiative to marry the nanny. After getting married, he would give the nanny a Beijing household registration, but the nanny refused.
Because she knew that once she got married, she would not only not get a salary of 9,000 yuan a month, but would also become a free nanny for men, taking care of the other person's diet and daily life every day.
On the contrary, if she continues to be a nanny, she will still have a salary of 9,000 a month, and she will do the same job. The former has nothing, while the latter can get real money.
In real life, there are too many such men. They never thought that finding a partner is to bear the ups and downs of life together, but to enjoy the other person’s efforts.
Women get nothing except serving each other. Neither you will get the other person’s love nor the fairness you should have.
If a woman really follows such a selfish man, she will have to suffer all her grievances in the rest of her life. No matter how much you give for this family and serve him for a long time, he will not be able to give you the happiness and love you want.
When a marriage only carries selfishness and interests, a woman is destined to suffer all the hardships in this marriage. There were too many lessons in the past, but there were still many women who jumped into the pit.
In order to protect yourself, you must also pursue love. No matter what age, women must learn to distinguish between men's true feelings and falsehoods in order to find the right man.
