A few days ago, a friend told me that her ex seemed to have a new girlfriend!
She said that in the past two years after the breakup, she would always couldn't help looking through her ex's Weibo, and would repeatedly analyze his Weibo updates like doing reading comprehension. So some time ago, she realized from a post on his Weibo that he already had a new girlfriend!
NO.1
People say: "The girls in love are all Sherlock Holmes."
In fact, no matter whether a boy or a girl is in a relationship or not, as long as they are the person we care about, we will pay great attention to each other's words and deeds, and our emotions will be affected by the other party.
Just like a friend will feel sad because of a sentence from her ex: "This person is like a rainbow, and you will know that he will meet him."
The most sad thing about breaking up is not when we first broke up, but after the breakup, you know that the other party is no longer a person in your world, but his shadow is everywhere in your life. You want to let go, but your consciousness refuses to let you go.
You also know that in the days ahead, you will not have any intersection, but when you learn that the other party has started a new relationship, you will still be sad.
The feeling is like, you have always known that there is a coffee shop in Nancheng. One day you have walked for a long time and wanted to confirm it again, but then you saw that the door of the coffee shop was not only covered with heavy chains, but also the four big words "facade sublease" were also pasted on the glass.
You look in through the doors and windows, but you can't see clearly. The only thing you can be sure of is that you can never drink the coffee from this store again!
Although you can understand and accept it, you will still feel frustrated and cannot calm down for a long time. You seem to be unable to breathe in your chest.
NO.2
Perhaps, everyone can't escape the ex-boy effect!
Even if we understand that our ex is already a past tense and is the person who stayed in the old days, we will still pay attention and pay attention uncontrollably.
We will indirectly inquire about his news with people around us, and will peek at his social platform when we are emotionally concerned, and then think about what he said and posted pictures over and over again.
Even if it is just a sentence "I'm going to start a new life!", we can all understand several layers of meaning.
In fact, the reason why we pay attention to and pay attention to our ex's social platform is just to find the information we want from it.
Personally, I just want to find traces from which my ex loved or still loved me.
However, I will pay special attention to the current position of my ex. I will subconsciously compare myself with her, and will also find everything I don’t have from her, and will even think about why it is her.
sounds ridiculous. It is obviously a thing of the past, but I am still disturbing myself.
NO.3
We often say that time is the best medicine to cure love breakup.
Indeed, as time goes by, the wound of a broken heart will gradually heal.
But we ignore one premise, that is, what time can heal is only those who are willing to withdraw from the old time, and for those who are unwilling to let go, the role of time is only used to recall and nostalgia.
is like a popular comment on the Internet: "How come some people talk about memories longer than love?"
Yes! When we were young, we did not understand "love does not know where it arises, but goes deeper."
But now, we deeply understand "love but not being able to be the norm in the world."
Therefore, most of the popular comments in NetEase Cloud are occupied by the regrets of being uneasy.
There is also the sentence "I don't know the meaning of the song at first, but I'm already the person in the song after hearing it again." I don't know how many people's voices are expressed.
Time has been gone, some people have started a new life, while others are still addicted to the past.
While saying that he had let go, he couldn't help but recall it, so he was secretly hurt by repeated pulling.
I wonder how many people torture themselves back and forth because they refuse to reconcile with memories? I don’t know how many people are physically and mentally exhausted because of obsession with the past?
Slowly, we will understand that all the mediocre people who disturb themselves after a broken heart are sad and depressed, and memories punish those who are unwilling to let go.
