01. Read more and open up your own pattern. One cannot be satisfied with the existing knowledge. Today's society is an era of knowledge explosion. If you don't study for a month, it is like coming from an alien planet.
If you want to open your own pattern, the lowest cost method is to read.
has a poetic and literary spirit. Poetry and books can allow you to collide with more souls, not only to gain knowledge, but also to improve the spiritual realm of people. Over time, it will bring you spirituality, connotation, and aura, and develop an elegant and unworldly temperament.
Zeng Guofan once said to his son Zeng Jize : "People's temperament is difficult to change because of their nature. Only reading can change their temperament. Those who have learned from ancient times also said that reading can change their bones."
Only when you are friends with books can you be calm and live in the present.
02. Be responsible for yourself and plant a seed of happiness. There is inevitably pain on the road of life. It is difficult for me to be hurtful if I keep waiting for someone to heal.
Mr. Toad in "Mr. Toad Go to See a Psychologist" has a wealthy background, but his father is old-fashioned and harsh, and his mother is cowardly and incompetent. From entering school to choosing a major in college, and then to graduation to inheriting the family industry, every step of Toad's life is decided by others.
In order to gain recognition from his father and family, he worked hard to please the people around him, but what he received was his father's grandfather's accusation and his mother's alienation and indifference. Living in an environment without love, he is obviously inferior and sensitive, but pretends to be confident and strong against his will; he is painful and confused, but pretends to be happy and indifferent. After depression, he once wanted to commit suicide.
Under the guidance of the psychologist Heron, the toad finally realized that his life must be responsible for it. He is the master of life and cannot expect others to redeem himself. Finally, I completed the redemption of my self-responsibility and started a new life.
Life sea, instead of trying hard to get the attention of others, it is better to pay attention to your emotions and feelings from now on, learn to talk to yourself, do what you like, accept your imperfections, and welcome the ups and downs of life with a strong heart.
Someone said: "If you are sad, try to look up at the sky. When you look at it, you will forget. It is so big that it can definitely tolerate all your grievances."
On the road of life, instead of waiting for healing, it is better to learn to heal yourself. After going through thousands of sails, you realize that the key to opening the door to inner happiness is in your hands.
03. Know how to spoil yourself and illuminate the front with love. The relationship between a person and himself determines his relationship with the outside world. Therefore, the good or bad relationship with oneself will have a close connection with the outside world.
Only when you know how to spoil yourself will you stop when you are tired, comfort yourself when you are sad, give yourself a hug and a gift, and reduce criticism and accusations of yourself, and take yourself out of fear, anxiety, self-blame, and sadness to face life better.
Only when you know how to spoil yourself will your heart be soft and it is easier to convey love. Believe in yourself and others, and continue to show beauty to yourself and others through your behavior and attitude.
04. Shake hands with the past and give yourself real growth. There is never a shortage of injured people in this world. Everyone has one kind of pain.
Facing the pain, some people are immersed in it and cannot extricate themselves. Su Mingyu in the TV series " is good" has never enjoyed the care of her mother since she was a child. At home, her mother would generously take out money for whatever her brothers buy, and she even tried her best to buy a review material, which was hysterical. Even when she was in college, her mother arranged for her to go to a free normal school.
After studying, her parents' hurt made her not contact her family for more than ten years. When she contacted her again, her mother had passed away. After more than ten years of her life, she saw her father suffering from Alzheimer's disease , and Su Mingyu finally decided to shake hands with the past, not only regaining happiness, but also regaining the beauty of life.
Su Mingyu's story tells us: If you want to heal the pain of the past and overcome the sufferings of life, you can only rely on yourself in the end.
"If you are responsible for yourself, you will know that you have the strength to change the environment and yourself."
is indeed the case. In the face of past pain, facing it can only break through the shackles of the soul and no longer avoid it, conceal it, or deny it. To truly grow, you must have the courage to shake hands with yourself in the past and live better in the present. In fact, the so-called life that is true is to sincerely respond to the current needs.
05.Written at the end
Life is long, We will always be hurt and always be confused. But no matter when, please don’t forget that the only one who can truly heal yourself is yourself. Make your own decisions in your own life, read more, have a pattern, and try to take care of , sow a seed of happiness and try to settle. you will find that the detours that thought would have different scenery; past experiences will always open another window for you.
I hope everyone can be the master of their own life, throw away sadness and loneliness, get rid of helplessness and indifference, and shake hands with their past.
What life can save is always the people you are willing to come out.
