When people get old, they will feel panic;
worry that their bodies will suddenly become unhealthy, or some accident occurs, and they are afraid that no one will take care of them around them;
But as parents, what is even more anxious is whether the happiness of their children in their lives is guaranteed if they suddenly leave.
When I was young, even if I held my children in my hands, I was afraid that they would melt. When the children grew up, parents would not bear it and had to let go.
The first thing most parents think of is to leave a lot of money for their children to prepare for the long-term future and be able to respond to various crises and storms in a down-to-earth manner;
However, money is one aspect, and parents can give their children precious things, not just money;
Live in a complex society, have more life wisdom, and parents who need deep experience to teach their children;
So, when you get old, no matter whether you have money or not, you must leave three things for your children, which is the true vision.
Leave your own experience and lessons from failure, so that your children can avoid detours
" Hanshu " says:
The past is overturned, and the future is learned.
means that the vehicle in front shall overturn and the vehicle behind shall learn from it so as not to repeat the same mistakes.
Many parents love their children from the bottom of their hearts, but the methods are very problematic;
In order to prevent their children from being frustrated and hurt, they always try their best to avoid their children from being tested and competition from various practices;
However, this way of parents is tantamount to drinking poison to quench thirst;
Because determining whether a person can gain a foothold in society, live independently and happy is often his understanding of human nature and deep understanding of the world;
simply encloses his children in a safe environment and does not tell them the darkness and complexity of the outside world, then when children encounter difficulties, their tolerance will be vulnerable, and they will easily lack the ability to stand out and make decisions when encountering things, and rely too much on others.
Before the age of 30, children may be able to live a smooth life under the wings of their parents;
However, life is always full of difficulties. If they want them to be the one and fight bravely when facing hardships, parents need to take the initiative to tell their children all the failed experiences and lessons in their lives;
These experience mottos will become the most important nutrients and nourishment for children to absorb, helping them regain confidence, find the direction of life, and avoid many detours when their lives fall into a trough and confusion.
Leave advice on marriage and teach wisdom to children
As people grow older, they will look at problems more and more thoroughly. At each stage of life, their understanding of life is different;
As a person who has experienced decades in marriage life, your feelings and experiences will be much stronger than your children;
Children are inevitably full of energy when they are young. When encountering the couple's bumps and quarrels in marriage, they will often be sad and sad under impulse, and have the thought of divorce;
As parents, you need to stand an objective standpoint and not biased. Advise your children without mercy and look at their marriage life rationally;
Don’t act voluntarily because of a little trivial matter;
Marriage requires running-in and wisdom, and a lifetime is long, and there may be many possible marriages that can hit the rocks;
When children forget their partner’s efforts and sense of responsibility for the family because of momentary anger, you should advise them to think more about their lover’s goodness, rather than being angry because of something irrelevant to principles and bottom line;
Only when you tell your children the wisdom and cruel reality of managing marriage and give them advice, will your children be more calm in marriage.
Leave your love and acceptance for your children, helping them welcome the future with confidence
Modern people are under great pressure, especially many people who suffer from depression because of the torture of life, and consider giving up their lives;
Psychologists have said that a person who considers giving up his life is because no one in the world can bring them true care and acceptance, and just blames and complains about them blindly;
So, it can be said that everyone's heart most desires is to get acceptance and true love from their parents;
Because of this love, it is enough to help them survive difficulties, and is their motivation and spiritual support for positive and coping with suffering.
Children will look at their parents' faces since childhood. They will be happy because of their parents' joy and lose confidence because of their harsh treatment;
emotional connection with their parents is their secret need;
Please give their children acceptance and care from the bottom of their hearts, so that they can welcome the future easily and confidently;
Although people are old, they have not lost their value. The road you have walked, the bumps you have encountered, the achievements you have won are precious wealth for your children;
Please do not hesitate, whether to spread the cruelty of society and your own experiences to your children one by one;
Compared with money, please leave them the above three things, which is the real priceless treasure.
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