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Some things cannot be understood or understood by the age of a certain age. It is just that people can hear people say it or rely on their own imagination, and they are biased in the end. Only by experiencing it personally can you understand one or two of them.
Everyone says to raise children to prevent old age. The children here refer to are not just sons, but children. Just because you have both children, will your life in your later years be guaranteed? not necessarily.
Some people can live well without sons or daughters, but whether they live well or not is not just determined by their sons and daughters, but more of their own luck.
If the education is not good and there is no harmonious family relationship, even if there are many children, you may have no support in your old age and no one is willing to respect you; if the education is good, even if there is only one child, you will have many guarantees in your later years and may even become the object of envy of many people.
So the key to the problem is not whether there are children or how many children there are, but how you manage and maintain family and parent-child relationships. This is the key to the problem.
But many elderly people who are entering their old age still say that having a son is different from having a daughter.
Only when you are old will you know what the difference between a son and a daughter is.
1: After the daughter gets married, she will be tied to the affairs of her in-laws. She may not be able to do everything in everything.
Uncle Chen is already 72 years old and is now a lonely old man. After his wife left, he insists on living alone, not because he enjoys loneliness and loneliness, but because he feels that this is the most comfortable and suitable.
After all, it is too torment for him to live with his children.
This does not mean that children are not good to him, but that he himself is under a lot of psychological pressure. He feels that he can't help them, but will only cause them trouble. Although they don’t say anything, they always feel oppressive and uncomfortable when they look at people’s faces.
In the past, Mr. Chen lived with his daughter and son-in-law for more than ten days, and found that the middle-aged daughter was not less burdened than himself. She has parents-in-law to take care of, and she has to be busy making money at work. After get off work, she has to buy vegetables, cook, do housework, etc., and she has never been idle at all.
I am old and I keep my medicine in my mouth. This is a considerable expense. My daughter's in-laws are not in good health. I have to go to the hospital for treatment and get medicine every now and then. The couple have old and young, and their lives are extremely difficult.
Uncle Chen couldn't bear to cause trouble for her, so he left less than half a month after living together. He said:
"It is unrealistic to expect her daughter to support her elderly care. She has her own family and her in-laws to take care of her. She may not be able to do her best in everything she does with her biological parents."
Since the daughter is unreliable, what about the son? Can you do your best in everything? Not necessarily.
2: The son has his own family, which will also change the focus of life. No matter how filial he is, he will sometimes be unable to do so.
Uncle Chen's son is also middle-aged. The burden is no smaller than his daughter, and even more stressful than his daughter's life. As the pillar of the family, he dare not even be unemployed.
Once upon a time, Uncle Chen thought that living with his son would be well taken care of by living with him when he was old, but he did not expect that no matter how filial his son was, he would have the heart but not enough strength.
Because of work, he often stayed at home. He either worked overtime in the company until midnight and simply lived in the employee dormitory, or he often went on business trips in other places and did not come back for ten days and half a month.
grandchildren go to college and rarely come back. The daughter-in-law opens a cosmetics store and is also busy with work and doesn't care about herself at all.
Plus, the daughter-in-law is the only daughter, and she will take her parents over to take care of her from time to time. Uncle Chen is forced to live with her in-laws and is very uncomfortable. He felt that he had become a burden and would only cause trouble for others, so after thinking about it, he decided to go back to his hometown to live alone.
3: When a person is old, don’t expect anyone. Leave some pension money for yourself. If you can rely on yourself, rely on yourself. After your daughter gets married, she will have her own children to raise and her in-laws to take care of. It is unrealistic to expect her to rely on her; and after her son gets married, she will also have her own children and her own family. No matter whether he is filial or not, he may not be dedicated to everything.
If you have to say, what is the difference between a daughter and a son, it can only be: the daughter becomes a little alienated like a relative, and often she doesn’t dare to bother her because she has to take into account the idea of her son-in-law;
Although the son is relatively close, he doesn’t live together for many years, so he is embarrassed to bother him. After all, he still has a daughter-in-law, who would be willing to become a burden in the eyes of others?
In general, it is actually the same for having a son and having a daughter. The only difference is that the daughter is married and lives in someone else's house. The son has not married, but he has his own small family outside.
They all have broken away from their parents' control and have their own new family.
At this time, their focus of life has changed, and it is unrealistic to expect them to retire. If you want to have more protection in your later years, you should be healthy, save as much money as possible, and rely on yourself.
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