Love is also a science that needs to be learned.
The first time a girl feels that she likes a opposite sex, this is first and foremost something worth celebrating.
Because this means the awakening of human nature, just like in " Peony Pavilion ", Du Liniang sighed when she saw the spring scenery in the garden, "Good time and beautiful scenery will not be wasted", and she also realized that her youth should not be wasted, that is to say, she understood the value of her life and began to realize that she should love herself well. This consciousness of loving herself is projected to the outside, and it is manifested as loving others.
However, many girls have not learned how to love themselves (love others) when they like the opposite sex. So how should girls love themselves (love others)? This is a course that needs to be taken.
First, should girls show their feelings? Of course I should have it. My relationship is beautiful and there is nothing shameful about it. Of course, you can show goodwill to the other party or confess your love to the other party. However, before confessing, you must be mentally prepared to be rejected. This principle is very simple. If the other party likes you, you generally don’t need to confess your love. If the other party does not respond, it is best not to pester it. He cannot see your goodness, and your goodness will have no meaning to him; if he cannot see your goodness, he will not deserve your goodness. Any relationship that makes you sad and exhausted is by no means a beautiful relationship, and a relationship that cannot be beautiful is by no means a valuable relationship. A relationship without a valuable is not a feeling worth cherishing.
Second, please think carefully about what kind of feelings you need; what kind of feelings you have for the other person. Many children cannot distinguish between friendship and love, like and obsession, and blindly fall into the so-called "love" and allow them to be driven by feelings. At least it should be clear: true love will not be in pain just because you can’t get the other person.
Third Before confirming your feelings for him, please confirm that you understand his character? Do you really have similar interests with him? The most tragic thing is that when you are covered in bruises and are killed, you will only find that you love the wrong person after you turn around. Never like people you don’t understand, especially the legendary “male god”. The feelings that need to look up are unequal. If you are not equal, you cannot talk, and without dialogue, you cannot enhance your feelings. Without equality, there is no dignity. How can you talk about self-love if you lose your dignity?
Zhang Ailing once said: Love is in the dust. Sometimes I really don’t understand how such a talented woman is so stupid in love. It’s said that women are like flowers. Look at the flowers blooming in spring. They are the result of the nourishment of the warm spring breeze, gentle drizzle, and bright sunshine. Can flowers bloom in the dust? What kind of flowers can bloom!
Of course, if you are obscene and have to be a "male god", then practice yourself into a "goddess". This is the so-called " golden gourd with silver gourd , zucchini with pumpkin". Although it is vulgar, it is an eternal truth. Of course, on that day, you may only realize that the so-called "male god" is just that you have never seen the world. You are in the mortal world, so where do you have so many gods? But they are all mortals.
If you don’t want to be a goddess, then be at ease to find a mortal like yourself, respect and love each other, and be happy. Didn’t you like someone at first just to be happy?
What is a good relationship? The criterion for judgment is whether you gain happiness from it and whether you grow together.
Shu Ting's poem " to Oak " I think is a good comment on love.
