Cold War refers to the disconnection caused by two people due to some conflicts, conflicts and other reasons in love or marriage, and no one pays attention to each other.
If you think about how long the two of you will be able to break up, it means that the relationship between the two has long been in danger.
Because the Cold War is usually the result of the joint choice between two people, not only because the other party is unwilling to contact you, but also because you are unwilling to contact each other on your own initiative, which ultimately leads to the Cold War.
So when you think about how long the cold war lasts, you can break up. The actual meaning is that you will not take the initiative to contact the other party, and you can only wait for the other party to contact yourself. If the other party cannot contact you within how long, you must choose to break up.
This way of thinking is to push all the responsibility for maintaining this relationship to the other party. I only want to enjoy the goodness of the relationship, but I am not willing to assume the responsibilities in the relationship. After all, if I am willing to take the initiative to communicate, the cold war will not continue.
I may feel that I have too strong self-esteem, so I am unwilling to lower my attitude. Including some girls, they feel that if they are too proactive, the other party will not cherish it.
But rather than saying that it is because my self-esteem is too strong and I am unwilling to contact you actively, it is better to say that it is because I am too scarce and too fragile, so I am afraid to take the initiative and show my true self.
Because the deeper you hide and the further you are from others, the more secure you feel.
In other words, you are too insecure in your heart, so you really hope that the other party can give you a lot of love, care, and tolerance first, so that you can feel that you are a sense of security and dare to get close to the other party.
can understand your inner uneasy, and perhaps your partner can also sense your inner uneasy, so in your many conflicts, the other party may be willing to take the initiative to coax you and comfort you.
But a relationship cannot be maintained by one person after all. The other party is also a human being, and it will be tired over time. When the other party is so tired that he is powerless to bear all the pressure of this relationship, what should he do?
Do you continue to take on the responsibility of another person? No one can afford it! If your inner deprivation is not filled and your inner uneasiness is not healed, then anyone else may be squeezed out.
So, when you encounter a cold war in your relationship, you find that all you can think of is "how long the cold war will take you to break up", it means that you are more waiting for the other party to love you in your relationship, rather than maintaining this relationship through yourself.
If you only want to gain love in your relationship, instead of giving love first, then maybe it is difficult for you to have a stable and long-lasting love at the moment.
If you want a stable and long-term love, maybe you need to first cultivate your ability to manage your relationships, heal your inner uneasiness, and make your heart mature and independent.
Perhaps, the reason why I feel that I will have a cold war is just because of being angry. If I think the other party loves me, I should take the initiative first. But what's the point of not fighting for a win or lose in your relationship? Even if you win, your relationship will lose in the end.
Even if the other party is willing to take the initiative to coax you every time, behind every initiative, it is actually consuming his love for you. In the end, you won many times but lost his love for you. Isn’t it still lost!
In short, when a relationship is in a cold war and you are unwilling to take the initiative and just want to wait for the other party to coax yourself, it is better whether you break up or not. The most important thing is to deal with your inner lack and uneasiness first.
Otherwise, no matter how much love and marriage you experience, it is difficult to have long-term happiness.
Happy~
