Love is beautiful, but marriage is very realistic. There is not so much romance and romantic passion, but only a dull and boring life. For women, they all hope to continue their happiness before marriage after marriage. But as time goes by, they realize that there is always a little gap between ideals and reality. How naive the original idea was, especially when it comes to getting along with their in-laws. Once they can’t get along and can’t adapt, it will be difficult to have happiness after marriage.
Writer Bondalev once said: The root of all human suffering comes from the lack of sense of boundaries. Getting along without a sense of boundaries will only make people feel disgusted and disgusted. When one day I can't stand it, the relationship between them will be completely broken.
Xu Ling and Wang Hao met at work. When they first met, they had a good impression of each other. They also had similar personalities and same hobbies. They always had endless topics to talk about. Not long after, they decided to have a romantic relationship. After being found out by their parents, they hurriedly entered the palace of marriage after only half a year of dating.
But after getting married, Xu Ling couldn't get along with her mother-in-law. She felt that the other party was too strong and always wanted to be the hostess at home. She wanted to control everything and wanted others to live according to her requirements. Over time, Xu Ling would inevitably feel depressed and disgusted. After telling her husband, her husband decided to take her out. Fortunately, her mother-in-law did not stop her. This made Xu Ling's big stone finally fall into the ground. She no longer had to worry about how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all day, and no longer had to worry about how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all day, nor did she need to live carefully.
Since moving out, the couple has indeed spent a happy time. Xu Ling also felt much more relaxed. She could sleep until she woke up naturally, buy whatever she wanted, and no longer had to worry about other people's feelings. Until her brother-in-law graduated, she said she wanted to find a job locally, so she moved over. Xu Ling thought that she would move out naturally after she found a job, so she did not refuse.
But what Xu Ling didn't expect was that since her brother-in-law came, she either stayed at home to play games or asked her friends to go out for a drink. She didn't come back until midnight. Xu Ling was woken up by him several times, and she knew how to eat and drink all day long, and never helped her family. Xu Ling sometimes reminded him that it was time to find a job seriously, but he always said that he was not in a hurry and just take it slowly.
Xu Ling had no choice. Until that day she saw her husband's mobile phone, she realized that her brother-in-law's money was given by her husband. Now Xu Ling was completely angry and directly asked her husband: Why should we use the money we have earned with hard work to raise her brother-in-law? But my husband said hesitantly, I can't refuse what my mother asked for. Xu Ling was so angry that she had a big fight with him. Her husband then repeatedly said that he would never give his brother-in-law a penny again, and this matter was considered a complete story.
But half a month later, Xu Ling came home from get off work and just arrived at the door and heard it was very noisy inside. After opening the door and entering, the whole room smelled of smoke. There were many snack bags and wine bottles on the floor. My brother-in-law was still talking to his friends about playing games together in the evening, and asked them to stay here tonight. After seeing Xu Ling come in, he said directly: Sister-in-law, there is a competition tonight. My three friends are going to live here, so let me tell you first.
After hearing this, Xu Ling said unhappily: No, this is my house, please leave. The atmosphere was a little awkward. Finally, after my brother-in-law sent off his friend, he ran to complain to Wang Hao. However, Wang Hao said directly: You have lived for so long, and you have made a mess of your home. You don’t go to find a job. You only know how to eat, drink and have fun. You have graduated and need to work hard to make money to support yourself. Our family doesn’t support idle people, so you can do it yourself. Seeing that his brother didn't help him, my brother-in-law moved away angrily.
Getting along with people requires sincerity, not others treat you well. You are just arrogant. Everyone has their own patience and bottom line. You may be able to make some tolerance for small matters, but when it comes to principles and bottom line, you will naturally no longer allow you to do things arbitrarily. You must know that people’s hearts are mutual, and I will treat you as much as you treat me.
Schiller once said: People who do not respect others will not respect him. That's true. Those who only focus on themselves but do not know how to consider each other will be annoying no matter who they get along with. Moreover, they will naturally not be respected by others without caring about other people's feelings. #Marriage##Emotional Firm##Emotional#
