Raising children to prevent old age is a cliché topic. From ancient times to the present, this has been the most commonly used way for people to care for their elderly.
" Things Lin Guangji " has a sentence: " Raise a child to prevent old age, accumulate grain to prevent hunger."
In the past, in people's consciousness, the "son" to raise a child to prevent old age refers to a son, not including a daughter, just because the daughter will get married sooner or later, and is from other people's family. She should respect the man's parents and cannot control her own parents.
Therefore, raising children to prevent old age has become the most reasonable reason for many people to prefer boys over girls, and it is still the case until now.
Just like when I was young, I heard relatives persuade my parents to have another son and have a son. The reason is to raise a child to prevent old age. They said that their daughter will get married sooner or later, and it is from someone else's family. If there is no son, no one will care about my parents when they get old.
Although my parents didn’t believe it, many people believed it, otherwise there wouldn’t be many parents who were fifty and still had a second child at an age of 50.
In fact, only when you get old can you know that whether your children are filial or not has nothing to do with gender, the key lies in three points.
First, it has a direct relationship with whether you are a parent or not;
"I have a son, she only gave birth to one girl. Why is it because I am sick and no one cares about me, but she lives an extremely comfortable life?"
Seeing that my sister has a nursing home, my daughter hired a nanny to serve her, and her life was free and happy, Aunt Zheng felt jealous and couldn't figure it out. You know, over the years, she has been mocking her sister, saying that she only has one daughter, and no one cares about her when she gets old. Unlike herself, she has a guarantee if she has a son.
Aunt Zheng’s sister doesn’t care and cultivates her daughter wholeheartedly. Under her training, her daughter is very outstanding, very sensible and very filial. After getting married, her in-laws were very satisfied with having such a capable, sensible and filial daughter-in-law. She also admired Aunt Zheng, who taught such a daughter. Her son-in-law was even more polite to her mother-in-law. She often sent things to her mother-in-law and came back to visit her mother-in-law during festivals. If Aunt Zheng hadn’t liked the environment of big cities and had to be in her hometown, he would have taken her mother-in-law away.
Because Aunt Zheng refused to go to big cities to retire, the son-in-law bought a retirement house in his hometown county town and found someone to take care of his mother-in-law.
As for Aunt Zheng, because she, her husband and in-laws are very spoiled to her son, she always responds to her requests since childhood and is reluctant to discipline her son. Not to mention becoming a talented son, it would be better if she could not mess with her, so she could not make things difficult for Aunt Zheng to clean up the mess.
The reason why Aunt Zheng fell ill was hospitalized was because her son was fighting outside and caused trouble. She hid. She found her home and asked for compensation. The house in her hometown had long been sold to pay off the loan for her son. Therefore, Aunt Zheng, who didn't know how to raise the money, became anxious and fell ill.
There is a saying in "Yan Family Instructions": Those who are elegant in their temper can move from top to bottom, and those who are first to put them on the latter. Therefore, if a father is not kind, the son is unfilial; if a brother is not friendly, the younger brother is disrespectful; if a husband is not righteous, the wife will be unhappy.
Whether children are filial or not has much to do with gender, and it has a direct relationship with whether you will be a parent.
Second, it also has a lot to do with how you treat your children's partner;
"Mom, I know you love to eat dumplings. I have packed 100 for you, and they are stuffed into the refrigerator. If you are hungry and too lazy to cook, you can eat it when it is hot."
"I looked at the medicine box and your medicine has been finished. I have asked my husband to go to the hospital to buy it for you, and I will send it back to you soon. Remember, take it twice a day, and you can't stop."
"We may not come back during the Chinese New Year this year. We will pick you up for the New Year. At that time, I will arrange for you to go to the hospital and have a full-body examination."
"There is 5,000 cash here. I know you don't like to pay with your mobile phone. There are not many in my hometown. I specially withdraw it. Don't save too much. Eat what you should eat and spend what you should spend. Tell me when I have no money."
Maybe, many people think that this person is the old man's children, but in fact, she is the daughter-in-law.
This is the advice of the daughter-in-law to Grandma Zhou before leaving at the end of the holiday. If Grandma Zhou hadn't refused to go to a big city, her daughter-in-law would have taken her away to enjoy her happiness.
The reason why the daughter-in-law is so filial is because Grandma Zhou is a good mother-in-law. When his son and daughter-in-law were at their busiest time, Grandma Zhou took her granddaughter of 18 years and brought her granddaughter from a baby born into a graceful and graceful girl, leaving her daughter-in-law with no worries.
Moreover, Grandma Zhou is very troubled. Every time her son quarrels with her daughter-in-law, even if it is unreasonable, Grandma Zhou only scolds her son.
Many elderly people have bad life in their later years, which is related to offending their children’s other half. Once you can’t handle your relationship with your children’s partner and your children are caught between you and your own family, it will be very difficult to deal with.
Treat your children well with kindness, and at the same time, you are also accumulating blessings for your old age.
Third, if you can save yourself a little worry, your children will not have so many complaints when they respect you.
"Mom, why don't you tell us when you are sick? If I hadn't called you, I felt that the surrounding environment was not right, so I asked my neighbors, but I didn't know!"
"What are you saying, there is nothing big problem. You are all very busy and can't rest well. If I disturb you again, wouldn't you feel even more uncomfortable? I'm sick, just go to the hospital."
Aunt He not only did not tell her children that she was sick, but even made arrangements for seeking medical treatment, arranging hospitalization, and hiring nursing staff. After the children came back, they saw that Aunt He had arranged everything, so they asked about her well-being, and left a sum of money, so they hurried back. However, before they left, they all promised that they would come back to accompany Aunt He on National Day.
"As parents, take good care of themselves, take good care of their lives, and don't let their children worry too much, which is the greatest help to their children. They are not unfilial, but they really don't have time. How much pressure is there at that stage? Are we experienced people still unclear? If you can solve these problems yourself, why do you need to increase pressure on your children?"
is difficult to ask others. Before asking others, you should do your best! Only in this way can you ask others with confidence.
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