article | Alone Cactus
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Hello everyone, I am a lone Cactus.
You can never expect your mother-in-law to treat you as nice to her daughter as her biological mother treats her daughter and take you to heart. Don’t say whatever you want to your biological mother, and make any requests at will.
This is the secret of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship that all married women teach unmarried girls. It is also the philosophy of getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law summarizing by all daughters-in-law.
I have always kept this sentence in mind and regard it as a guideline. However, my best friend’s married life broke my usual cognition.
She did what I wanted to do but didn't dare to do, and said what I wanted to say but was embarrassed to say.
Best friend is 7 years younger than her husband Lao Liu. She is a pure city person. The first girl among the younger generation is the treasure in the eyes of all elders. My best friend’s mother-in-law is an authentic rural person. She has run a hotel and sold insurance in a small county. She has been trying hard for most of her life to accumulate an enviable family fortune.
A is a young wife who is 7 years younger than her son and is a sweet little wife in the city.
A good mother-in-law who is older than her own mother and dares to work hard in the countryside.
Whoever saw such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's combination was sweating, thinking that the two of them would be thunder and fire in the sky, and sparks would be everywhere.
plus, Lao Liu respects his mother very much. As long as the request made by his mother is not excessive, even if Lao Liu feels wronged, he will follow it.
After understanding the attributes of my best friend’s husband and mother-in-law, I couldn’t help but be amazed. My capable mother-in-law and obedient execution husband in the countryside, my best friend is encountering the ultimate survival mode.
Best friend said lightly that no matter which village or city, no matter how capable the old woman is, she must be reasonable. Lao Liu is not a mother-in-law, but it is just a habit that he has developed since childhood, and he is frustrated with his own filial piety to his parents.
Mother-in-law is reasonable again, and your husband is in the middle and you have to be angry with him? I first comforted her with the philosophy of being regarded as the norm, and then used my experience of defeating more than winning less to give her advice.
Best friend doesn’t understand my words. If the request made by my mother-in-law is unreasonable, why can’t you object and why can’t you say it in person? Nowadays hesitation and perfunctory response are all about burying landmines for future life.
Best friend told me a small friction that occurred on their dining table .
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My mother-in-law doesn't like leftover vegetables and doesn't waste food. Once you have cooked too much food, you would rather finish it than have a second meal left. On the contrary, best friends will never do anything that would rather support bad people than rot.
This day, my mother-in-law made too many eggplants. Seeing that it was about to leave, my mother-in-law kept persuading her best friend to eat it. My best friend glanced at the eggplant in disgust and told her mother-in-law directly that she never ate eggplant.
The mother-in-law didn't seem to hear her, and she kept persuading her to eat all the leftover eggplant. The reason is that eggplant supplements iron, which is best for women who have given birth to children.
Best friend glanced at Lao Liu silently, quickly pushed the plate to him and said: Lao Liu should also make up for iron.
Lao Liu was helpless and wanted to pick up the leftover eggplant, but his mother-in-law brought it back to the plate and kept pushing it to her best friend, smilingly advising her to eat more eggplant and replenish more iron.
Best friend avoided backwards, and her dislike for eggplant on her face became physical. She said to her mother-in-law with a serious face: I really don’t like eggplant. I’m the kind of dislike that I will immediately feel nauseous and vomit after eating it.
When my mother-in-law saw her best friend's mouth straightened and looked refusing, she explained weakly: It's just an eggplant, it's not so serious, everyone eats it.
Best friend seemed to have encountered a principle problem, and unswervingly stated again: I don’t know how others are. I have never eaten eggplant since I was a child. I will feel nauseous, vomit, feel uncomfortable, and be unhappy.
Seeing that my mother-in-law was skeptical, my best friend continued to increase the offensive: Let’s talk about mom, you see, Lao Liu’s belly is as big as a 6-month-old pregnant woman, she always cleans the bottom of the food at night, eats more and exercises less. He was 7 years older than me. If he didn't take good care of his health, he could only sit in a wheelchair and watch me dance square dance with other old men when he was old.
The mother-in-law ended up losing to a set of theories of her best friend.
The last dish was given to my father-in-law.
I said, it's not a big deal. If I were to do so, I would sneakily call my husband to my husband while my mother-in-law was not paying attention.
Best friend immediately denies me: There is no big thing in life, but it is only in the small things that your attitude is not firm and ambiguous enough, which makes both parties unhappy.
I said, if you do this, the atmosphere on the dining table was too awkward, and my husband might also think you were pretentious in his heart. What did you think you were trying to do?
Best friend told me proudly: Later I found a lot of articles and short videos about "Men's belly is too big and affects their health" to send it to her. Now my mother-in-law is chasing Lao Liu and my father-in-law to lose weight, and no one has to clean up the food anymore. This is the result of the benign friction between me and my mother-in-law.
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There are many benign frictions between best friend and mother-in-law.
For example, mother-in-law is reluctant to change diapers, and always has to wait until it reaches its limit before changing to a new one for the baby. My best friend advised me a few times and saw that it was not effective, so I often shared relevant videos with my mother-in-law, all about the harm of the baby's butt being too wet.
My mother-in-law always loves to direct her best friend to do housework. My best friend does what she can, and pretends not to hear when she is unwilling to do it.
On the Chinese Valentine's Day, my mother and mother-in-law asked her to watch the children at home, and went out for a date with her husband.
My best friend and my mother-in-law have clearly talked about it. The child is too young and I hope my mother-in-law will either help me take care of the area or sponsor some fees for hiring a day shift nanny.
The concept of best friend is that you can have your persistence, and I also have my habits. We can understand each other or not understand each other, but we don’t need to be wronged and be careful with each other.
From the relationship between my best friend and my mother-in-law, I see a relaxed relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. He just said whatever he wanted, and he refused to cause internal injuries while smiling.
What do you want my mother-in-law to do? Express it directly.
does not agree with mother-in-law's approach and express it directly.
only tells the truth without emotions.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is quite special. Although they are not related by blood, they have to get along like relatives. Therefore, they often do not place their positions in the right place and have unrealistic expectations. They always hope that the other party will understand that they will take the initiative to give more.
But, no one is the roundworm in the belly. If you don’t say it, how do you know what you think.
is worse than saying anything and expressing it directly. Whether you listen or not is someone else's business, and whether you say or not is your own business.
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