Do you feel this way?
An unexpected sentence, a look, or a phenomenon you see, you feel that you have encountered a strong signal, and follow this signal, and you can't wait to tell others what you think.
You think you have a keen insight, but in fact it is not. You are just too sensitive.
Murphy's Law tells us that things tend to move in the bad direction you think of. The wrong signal will lead you to the wrong direction and appear childish.
Once upon a time, Ji Qi helped the king tame cockfighting , locked up an impetuous chicken for a month, erasing all his sharpness.
When the cockfighting appears, no matter how other chickens challenge it, they will "stand still". Therefore, other chickens were scared away by their powerful aura.
Zhuangzi learned a truth from it : "Those who are not worth doing but must be done will inevitably be done."
You still have to do something that is not worth doing, so why don't you work hard? It’s better to do nothing and preserve your strength.
So, we will find that the more mature a person, the lower the sensitivity, and can remain "indifferent" in the following ways.
01
When I was isolated, I was used to walking alone.
Ming Dynasty , Zhu Chenhao organized a dinner party and called Nanchang and surrounding officials over.
Just as I was eating and drinking, Zhu Chenhao said, "The Empress Dowager arranged for me to raise an army and join the court to be the king."
Everyone present was surprised. Pursuing the throne was a ruthless thing. But most people stood on Zhu Chenhao's side.
If the uprising is successful, and if Zhu Chenhao can enjoy the delicious food and drink in the future, and oppose it on the spot, the consequences will be unimaginable.
At the critical moment, Jiangxi Governor Sun Sui stood out and said, "Take out the edict and let me see."
Sun Sui stood alone at the dinner party, but his practice of sacrificing his life for justice was praised by later generations.
In fact, Sun Sui was isolated by Zhu Chenhao before the dinner. Sun Sui was not afraid at all, but quickly changed the layout of Jiangxi and attracted a group of loyal officials.
For example, transfer ammunition database ; let Jiujiang officials control the forces of Ningzhou, Ruichang and other places, forming a military important place; let Zhang Wenjin restrain the rebels in Anqing .
When a person is isolated, he happens to be a "mainstay". Because you are out of place and are excluded by people of different levels; because you are too excellent and are envied by people of lower levels; because you have grasped the vital points of others, you are regarded as a thorn in your eyes.
isolate does not mean "you are useless".
When you bravely be a "unsociable" person, you will find that you are outside the circle, but you have the great wisdom to jump out of the circle and look at the circle. Over time, the people in the group will be afraid of you.
Those who are afraid of being isolated always please others with timidity, and are easily exploited by others and even stepped on them.
You must understand that excluding your circle is not suitable for you. As long as you are excellent enough and leave other people's circles, you will have your own circle.
02
When I heard the comments from the outside world, I smiled.
Zengzi's mother, who heard the news of Zengzi doing bad things three times, fled over the wall in fear. The story of three people becoming tigers is left behind.
Some news that is difficult to distinguish between true and false is like a microphone, recording sometimes, enlarging the sound sometimes, and it is noisy. If you pick up the microphone, you will disrupt your quiet life.
All false words stop at the wise. What you hear and see may be fake and you need to judge it yourself. Don't be too competitive, otherwise you will be taken away by someone else.
Actor Actor After becoming popular, a lot of negative information was exposed. "Playing a big shot, kissing female stars casually" and so on, he couldn't argue.
After careful consideration, he withdrew from the entertainment industry and became a farmer. Although he is less famous, he lives freely.Looking back, all the negative information is untenable.
He said frankly: "Variety shows are meaningless, they just make some money."
Go your own way and let others talk. You can't block everyone's mouths, nor can you keep covering your ears. The only thing you can do is smile and ignore it.
Maturity means not caring about right and wrong, not asking about the future, and focusing on yourself. If you are a star, don’t snatch the light of the moon; don’t drive away the dark clouds that block the light, and wait for the clouds to roll and unfold.
03
grows calmly when it fails.
There is a boy who has no interest in learning.
Dad said, "Let's do a question, whoever does it the fastest will get a reward."
For the sake of the reward, he picked up the pen and won his father again and again.
After the boy graduated from college, his father said, "Let's compare, who can save money this month..."
Boy quietly threw the money into his father's passbook and said, "I lost."
When we reach a certain age, we will understand that growing up means trying our best to win the father, and maturity means that we can win the father, but let the father win.
Many people will show depression and cannot find their direction when they are in a low point. If one day I can endure it slowly, everything will be fine.
Complaint, resist, and cry are useless. Only by growing up can it be done. It is like a seed that falls into a mud pit, sprouts hard, and sets towards the sunshine, and the mud pit will become a place to nourish oneself.
is like the boy who grew up, treats losing as a life experience and enjoys the joy of "saying defeat". This is true for my dad and for life.
success and failure are carried out alternately, you don’t have to be surprised, but follow the trend.
04
I read a proverb: "Eight mature, ten harvest; ten mature, two lose."
The best life is not to be mature, but to be on the road of maturity. Even if you are already in your eighties and nineties, don’t say you are “very familiar” anymore, and you have to live as an old child.
Life is just like this. You are panicked for a few pieces of silver, and quiet is life.
Mature wisdom is to filter out those unnecessary impurities, leave behind a pure self, stop looking at other people's faces, do not need to make do with other people's circles, and do not be afraid of the ups and downs of life.
If you have not lived for more than a lifetime, what if your heart is not moving, what can the wind do?
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
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