Appearance determines whether two people are together, and their three views determine whether two people are suitable for each other.
Three views refer to world outlook, outlook on life and values. The important way to reflect a person’s three views is to speak. It can be said that a person can let others see what kind of person he (she) is.
In gender relations, the charm of language cannot be underestimated.
In this era of the development of the Internet of Things, WeChat has become a chat base for many people. Every word you say and what you say, the relationship gradually has the possibility of heating up in this way.
Of course, stones from other mountains can be used to polish jade, and not everyone can use this stone from other mountains.
Some people can chat, which will make the other party want to continue chatting; some people can’t chat, and just say a few words will make the other party feel boring and boring, just want to end this meaningless chat as soon as possible.
This shows that in order to warm up the relationship between men and women, good chat skills need to be mastered.
What the boy is doing? How do you reply? A woman who can flirt with a man’s reply is different from you, so you might as well give it a try.
women who can flirt with know how to delay satisfaction
A portion of fried chicken and a portion of fat-reducing meal are placed in front of us. We think fat-reducing meal is bland and tasteless, far less delicious than fried chicken. We chose fried chicken to satisfy our desires, which is timely enjoyment;
fried chicken is delicious, but its calories are too high. Although fat-reducing meal is bland and tasteless, it is beneficial to health and help us gain a good figure in the future. We chose a fat-reducing meal in exchange for a good feedback in the future, which is delayed satisfaction.
Timely enjoyment can be obtained by indulging in one's own way, while delaying satisfaction requires restraining the current desires, but you can get a good feedback from the future.
" Walden " says: "Time determines who you will meet in your life, your heart determines who you want to appear in your life, and your behavior determines who will stay in the end."
When it comes to the message "What are you doing" sent by a man, some people will choose to reply in seconds, and some people will choose to finish their own affairs first before replying.
The former is to enjoy timely, and over time it will make others feel that nothing strange;
The latter is to delay satisfaction, and pay time costs in the other party’s waiting process. Because the cost is superimposed, the other party will pour out their attractiveness, so they feel cherished.
Women who can flirt with men know how to take this opportunity to establish a character
Normally, our understanding and judgment of others often starts from the local area, and then spreads from the local area to the whole, thus drawing an impression of the whole.
cognitions like
are often generalized by side, just like public figures are beautiful, we will default to their other qualities, which are also beautiful.
This is like a halo around the moon, so it is also called halo effect .
If we can leave a good understanding for others, then in the eyes of others, our other qualities are also positive, which will stimulate them to want to understand us.
is used in the process of chatting, which means learning to establish a character.
For example, when a man asks us what we are doing, we can answer truthfully:
reading can create an image with a poetic and self-proclaimed spirit;
exercise can create an image with strong self-control;
arranging flowers can create an image with elegant temperament and interesting temperament.
In short, these things can let the other party know that we are not doing nothing, but are very busy and busy with meaningful things, which will create a good positive image.
plus the halo effect, the other party will feel that our other qualities are as beautiful as ever, so they will want to know us further.
Women who can flirt with men know the roundabout tactics
Talk well is really important for dealing with feelings. Water can carry a boat and can also overturn it. A good way of chatting can make a love we want.
Lin Yutang mentioned in "The Art of Speaking": "Speaking is equal to expression, but to express a good sentence, it requires intelligence and talent. If you don't say it well, it is easy to offend people."
Authentic, Westerners always express love directly and enthusiastically, such as "I love you", while Chinese people express love is implicit and restrained, such as "What are you doing?"
When men send us "What are you doing", it means that they are missing us at this moment, want to know what we are doing, and want to chat with us.
And what we have to do is to respond to such emotions. If we only reply "What are you doing", it will appear very dry and will make men feel that their longing is meaningless.
Smart women will use this opportunity to enhance their relationship. For example, they will reply, "When you are eating, what are you doing?"
This method will connect each other's topics. When you look at me and say something, you will have a place to vent your feelings, and your feelings will become something to say and talk about.
