How difficult is marriage to meet a sister-in-law who deliberately makes things difficult for her sister-in-law? My sister-in-law always felt that I was an outsider in this family and stole his brother's love. She deliberately let my cat go and smashed our wedding photos. The man who should have had a conflict with his sister-in-law chose to use cold violence to force me to compromise.
In the end, I became a single mother. He wanted to save his marriage and drink until his stomach bleeding.
——Zhang Wei
[He is waiting for us mother and daughter again]
My name is Zhang Wei (pseudonym), I am 32 years old this year, and I am a single mother. His ex-husband is named Zhou Qun (pseudonym), and he is a science man.
Since we divorced, he has often come to the community garden and wants to stay with us mother and daughter for a while. After our mother and daughter returned home, he was in a daze alone in the community. Before the divorce, he kept using cold violence to force me to compromise and forced me to apologize to my sister-in-law.
After the divorce, Zhou Qun began to play the emotional card, hoping to remarry as soon as possible.
We were originally sweet campus love, from undergraduate romance to graduate school.
No matter how romantic love is, when you meet a sister-in-law who is stubborn, which woman can bear it.
When Zhou Qun and I were in love, my sister-in-law was always jealous of me and snatching her brother away. As the youngest child in the family, my sister-in-law is loved by her family and has a very arrogant personality.
Zhou Qun’s parents are both in business and love Mingzhu in their palms very much. How terrible is the spoiling of Zhou’s parents? Everything follows the wishes of their baby daughter. My sister-in-law didn't want to go to school, so after graduating from junior high school, she found a vocational school and studied at . My sister-in-law's cultural level is worrying, and her understanding of society will always remain in idol dramas.
My sister-in-law and her friend opened an online store together. She said she opened a store together, but in fact she never cared about the matters in the store.
[My sister-in-law is the thorn between us]
If there is no sister-in-law, Zhou Qun and I will be a good couple. We are in a good match and have been in love for many years. But without a sister-in-law, his parents' attitude was not good, and his daughter-in-law was always an outsider.
Since we started preparing for the wedding, my sister-in-law has been in the limelight everywhere. My sister-in-law wants to wear the wedding dress I like. The wedding photos we took were not good-looking, and my sister-in-law said a lot of unpleasant words in front of the guests.
In fact, my sister-in-law is only a few years younger than me, but because she has never been to work, she doesn’t know how to maintain the dignity of others in public.
That day I was wearing a red cheongsam to toast the guests, and my sister-in-law also wore a red cheongsam to walk at the wedding banquet. Her high heels were very tall, and she was much taller than me. Those who don’t know thought she was the bride, which made everyone look at each other.
Zhou Qun did not stop this ignorant sister, but just told me not to take it to my heart.
When taking a photo, my sister-in-law deliberately squeezed between me and Zhou Qun, which almost made me angry.
In the video and photos that the photographer finally reported back, Zhou Qun and his sister-in-law are like newcomers!
My sister-in-law showed off at her brother's wedding, and the Zhou parents didn't say anything. Mother Zhou even felt that her daughter was doing the right thing, otherwise she would give her a warning to her daughter-in-law.
Our marriage was full of disharmonious factors from the beginning.
[My sister-in-law comes to our house every now and then]
Zhou Qun and I have a wedding room, and both of us have prepared a set at home. We live in the house prepared by his house every day, and the wedding house under my name has always been empty.
As a person who doesn’t work, my sister-in-law has time to toss me. She always felt that I was an invisible "rival in love" and snatched away my brother who held her in her palm.
Where is the world between Zhou Qun and I? I'm afraid there is only one way to and from get off work. Because our work company is in the same direction, Zhou Qun takes me to work every day. When he gets off work, he will wait for me at the company gate.
I don’t know who the other co-pilot is sitting in, and Zhou Qun’s co-pilot is almost occupied by his sister-in-law. Except for not following us when we were on and off work, my sister-in-law firmly controlled the passenger seat at the other time.
The wedding room is a private space for newlyweds, but my sister-in-law often lives in it. She was so nonsense that the Zhou family’s parents just said a few words lightly. Mother Zhou loves this baby daughter to the core.
Occasionally I would complain, and Mother Zhou's face immediately became cold. If I hadn't loved Zhou Qun, why would I suffer this grievance?
[We moved out of the wedding room prepared by our in-laws]
Love is a matter for two people, but marriage is a matter for many people.
My sister-in-law has been standing among us, making our relationship between us not as good as before. But at that time, there was no idea of divorce at all, but I just felt that the family atmosphere was more depressing.
When my sister-in-law was at home, she had to exclude me from the plan everywhere. She still wants to keep the four of them alive together and doesn't want me, an outsider, to intervene. The cups my sister-in-law bought have 4 of them. I will always be the extra person in her family.
Even my parents could see her thoughts. My parents advised me to move out of the wedding house prepared by my in-laws and live in the house I bought.
Zhou Qun reluctantly moved with me, and my sister-in-law cried many times during this period. The Zhou family’s parents remained the same attitude, thinking that I was making things difficult for their baby daughter. My relationship with my in-laws is getting along with each other in a distance.
[During pregnancy, my sister-in-law deliberately let my cat go]
After moving out of the Zhou family's house, our relationship briefly heated up. It was at that time that the child came into my stomach.
It’s just that I underestimated my sister-in-law’s “free” level. She made an excuse to come to our house again, and stayed there for more than a week, and had no intention of leaving at all.
I don’t like things that have scented fragrance, so my sister-in-law deliberately put a lot of osmanthus flavored osmanthus at home, which made me dizzy. Every time Zhouqun removes the balm, but the smell of those pungent spices has been vague.
I raised Garfield was also tormented by my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law said that she likes cats very much, but she scares my cat to tremble every time.
When I went for prenatal check-up, my sister-in-law deliberately let the Garfield cat that she had been raising for several years. I braved the wind and rain, with my big belly on my head, and my sister-in-law was lying comfortably in the living room playing with her cell phone.
Fortunately, my cat dared not run around and kept hiding in the flowers in the community. When I took the cat home, my clothes were wet.
Zhou Qun still couldn't bear to get angry with his sister and said against his conscience that my Garfield cat ran out by himself. There is a surveillance in the living room. How does the cat run out? Why do you need to tell lies?
Zhou Qun and I had a long fight, and my sister-in-law hid home. Every time she caused a storm, she would choose to return to the Zhou family’s parents to seek protection as soon as possible.
[My sister-in-law posted a message on WeChat Moments to scold me]
After the incident of letting the cat go, my relationship with Zhou Qun once reached a freezing point. My sister-in-law scolded me on her circle of friends, saying that the cat I raised scratched her, and said that I was deliberately letting the cat do this. No matter how good my temper is, I can't stand such a sister-in-law.
Zhou's parents were afraid that I would do something extreme when I was excited, so they reluctantly pressed my sister-in-law to apologize to me, and that circle of friends was deleted.
But my heart can no longer be calm. I originally thought that one step back could save my family, but who would have thought that my concession would be exchanged for my sister-in-law's greed.
If it weren't for the green light all the way through the prenatal examination, I wouldn't even plan to have a child. At that time, the child was in my belly for almost 7 months, so my parents could only comfort me to raise the fetus first.
When facing his family, Zhou Qun repeatedly promised to coordinate the relationship between his sister-in-law and sister-in-law. When facing me alone, it was purely moral kidnapping . He asked me to tolerate my sister-in-law, after all, she is still a child. An adult in his 20s still has a child.
In the late stage of pregnancy, not only my body is uncomfortable, but my heart is always uncomfortable. Zhou Qun clearly kept protecting his sister.
My parents have been advising me to be more open-minded. They have a very conservative mind and can’t divorce for my sister-in-law.
[Daughter 100-day banquet , my sister-in-law broke the wedding photo of Zhou Qin and me]
Since my sister-in-law deliberately let my cat go, we were in a state of incompatibility. She would hide home and cry, and I would also question her in the family group.
Anyone with discerning eyes can tell that my sister-in-law and I have a bad relationship.Sometimes the Zhou family’s parents would mediate symbolically, and more often they would protect their own baby daughter.
After my daughter was born, I refused to go back to my in-laws' house to get full moon wine . I don't want to see my sister-in-law on a festive occasion like the Full Moon Break.
After I returned home from the confinement center, Zhou Qun kept asking me to take my child back to my mother-in-law’s house to take a look. They wanted to prepare a lively 100-day banquet for the child.
is still my parents’ peacemaker. They make the Zhou family lively and host a 100-day banquet. Parents don’t want their granddaughter to live in a broken family, and many things have been compromised.
A lively 100-day banquet, my sister-in-law is causing trouble again. The 100-day banquet was held in Zhou Qun’s hometown, where we had a wedding room. There were several sets of wedding photos in the wedding room. The frames were made of glass. Although they looked very good, they were very heavy.
My sister-in-law used to say that my wedding photos were not tasted, and she broke my wedding photos on the excuse of taking something. Such a heavy wedding photo could have fallen to the ground if it wasn't deliberately pushed away.
glass photo frames were broken all over the floor, and our marriage was broken too.
[He forced me to compromise with cold violence]
The broken wedding photos were finally cleaned up by Zhou's mother, and she herself realized the seriousness of the matter.
I held my daughter and wanted to leave the scene, but my parents still stopped me, hoping that I would stay until the banquet ended.
I thought my parents would persuade me to knock my teeth and swallow my blood again, but this time they did not advise me to continue to tolerate it. My parents asked me if I wanted to live with Zhou Qun. If I didn’t want to live with him, my parents would be my backing and my children.
In the past, my parents always felt that there was always a need for a couple to stumbling together, and no one in the family had any conflicts.
, but Zhou Qun obviously did not maintain me. My sister-in-law broke the wedding photo, and Zhou Qun just said lightly, "If it's broken, it's fine."
No matter how my sister-in-law causes trouble, Zhou Qun will always be indifferent. After all, it is his real sister, so you can't never interact with each other for the rest of your life. They are relatives with blood, and I am just an outsider.
After the 100-day banquet, Zhou Qun kept treating me with cold violence. He forced me to compromise and forced me to be a "dumb" sister-in-law. Zhou Qun even wanted to force me to apologize to my sister-in-law, thinking that I shouldn't have given her a look that day.
I did not compromise, and the marriage entered the countdown.
[We are divorced, my sister-in-law posted to celebrate on WeChat Moments]
Cold violence is the biggest obstacle to marriage. Whenever Zhou Qun goes back to his house for dinner, he will quarrel with me when he comes back.
No matter how stupid I understand, his family deliberately made things difficult for me. My sister-in-law dared to treat her sister-in-law like this, and behind her was the family who supported her.
I don’t know why, some in-laws always like to bully their daughter-in-law. No matter how good you said before marriage, you must bully your daughter-in-law in different ways after marriage.
Zhou Qun not only treats me coldly and violently, but also takes care of his daughter very rarely. The aunt I invited was responsible for three meals a day, and I took care of the baby myself.
After the baby is half a year old, I asked about separation. Zhou Qun always felt that I was making trouble and thought that I was not a good wife, nor a good sister-in-law.
We have been separated for a long time, and my sister-in-law posted on WeChat Moments every day to stimulate me. When Zhou Qun was by my side, he rarely did housework. But in my sister-in-law's circle of friends, Zhou Qun cooks for her family every day, and even roasts butter cake . Even though we have been in love for many years, I have never eaten these.
It only took 2 years between Zhou Qun and me from separation to divorce. When we were divorced, my sister-in-law posted a celebration photo on her circle of friends and announced that her brother would be single.
[He kept waiting for our mother and daughter to come home]
When we divorced, our property was quickly divided. My daughter's custody belongs to me, and he is responsible for giving the child support.
What I didn’t expect was that Zhou Qun regretted it after the divorce. Are men like this? Don’t cherish when they get it, and only when they lose it will you realize the importance of your wife and children.
Zhou Qun always comes to me when I get off work. I refuse to see him, so he is waiting for us at the entrance of the community. He often drinks alcohol and drinks himself several times until his stomach bleeds. When my friend called me, he begged me to go to the hospital to see Zhou Qun.
If I had known this, why should I be there? When my sister-in-law made things difficult for me in the past, Zhou Qun never maintained me.
The most pitiful thing in a broken marriage is my daughter. My daughter is still young and has no idea about the affairs between adults. Every time Zhou Qun comes to see her daughter, she is so happy. Perhaps in the hearts of children, the role of dad is irreplaceable.
I will not refuse Zhou Qun to express his fatherly love, but I will not remarry him.
Zhouqun often waits for us in the community garden because I will take my daughter down to play regularly.
Zhou Qun, who used to rarely take care of children, learned to take care of children honestly. He had a kettle hanging on his body, and his daughter's diapers were still on his bag. People who don’t know think he is the best father in the world.
just I never want to be with him again. His family's attitude is just like that. I can't never meet his family for the rest of my life, nor can I get along with my sister-in-law peacefully.
[Really sorry for my daughter]
My daughter grew up day by day, I really sorry for her. Because I am a failed mother and have not given my daughter a complete home.
I have always kept my sister-in-law’s circle of friends, reminding me all the time how she treated me.
Zhou Qun and I apologized many times, and he promised to take good care of our mother and daughter. But we can never go back, like broken wedding photos, we cannot re-adhesively anyway.
I have also gone to a psychologist to try to get myself out of a bad marriage.
Maybe many female friends will understand my helplessness. When they meet an unreasonable sister-in-law and a close-knit parent-in-law, they can't stand up for their marriage.
In this marriage, the one I am most sorry for is my daughter. Such a young child is forced to become a child of a single-parent family.
Maybe I shouldn't have married him from the beginning, maybe I shouldn't have compromised from the beginning.
Love and marriage have always been different.
I can only move forward and live a good life with my daughter.
