If you are very dissatisfied with your partner and are disappointed, but because of your family and your child, you just want to take care of your child, and then you can't divorce, but if you continue to live, you feel very painful, then what should you do at this time? First of all, you must understand, which aspect of yourself is dissatisfied with the other party, and find out the fundamental reason. Maybe you are full of the other party's inadvantage, maybe you are dissatisfied, that is, the other party can't make much money, and think that you are not worse than anyone else's words. Then, the person you are looking for is basically able to make money, and you feel very desperate [swept] and you also feel that you have a bad vision. Then at this time, your heart is in great pain [she burst]. One is self-blame for yourself, and the other is that you are not good at the other person and do not live what you want. You are still very dissatisfied with it. You are in a painful cycle for this matter [she burst]. At this time, what you need most is to change a mindset.
After finding the root cause, the first thing we need to change is ourselves. If you are dissatisfied with the other party's inadversity and dissatisfied with the other party's inability to make the money you want, you can improve your abilities, make yourself sunny and positive, and then earn the money you want through work and live the way you want. When you achieve what you want, you will find that you have no requirements for the other party.
Of course, if you have this kind of dissatisfaction, don’t keep it in your heart all the time, otherwise you will be very depressed [swept]. You can express your respect in a tactful way, so that the other party will be willing to accept you, rather than scolding and accuse the other party. It's not here, nor there. In this case, the relationship between the two people will only be more rigid, and the other party will resist more and will not change at all. If he really loves you, then if he says he makes a tactful suggestion that he can listen comfortably, he will basically change more or less, but this will take a matter of time.
Of course, you don’t have to have too much expectations. After all, even his parents cannot change him. Then, you, an outsider, suddenly, want to change him because of a husband and wife. This is also very difficult. Unless he realizes from the bottom of his heart that I have to work hard, be motivated, and change him. Only when he changes, will he make a real change, that is, we must learn to strictly demand ourselves, but we must learn to lower the expectations of others.
In the end, you will find that the money we strive for and the sense of security we strive for ultimately comes from ourselves. When you are strong enough, you really don’t have time to worry about gains and losses, nor do you say you are staring at one of the shortcomings of the other person. What we need is to make ourselves beautiful, excellent, and more valuable in a limited time. This is the most practical thing.
