Although it is necessary to be filial to parents. But when you are filial to your parents, have you ever thought about your own family? If you only have your own parents in your heart, then in the end you will definitely destroy your family because of filial to your parents, just like this woman in the article. If it weren't for your excessive effort, would your husband divorce you? Who can blame this ending?
can only be said to be very satisfying. If you care so much about your parents and want to be filial to your parents, then you should go back to your parents and be filial to them. What's going on? Let's take a look together. A wife with a monthly salary of 3,500 yuan is filial to her parents every month. Wife: Family, I: Get out.
Case story sharing person,
38-year-old Mr. Su:
My father told me that you have to be filial to your parents. It is natural. Your wife is filial to your parents. This is natural. Since it is natural to say that it is natural to do so, don’t worry about so much. Why do you do so much? It will not be of any benefit to you, as long as your wife lives with you well. After my father finished speaking, my mother told me again, "Yes, it's natural for your father to be filial to your parents." Your wife is so filial, we should be happy. After all, your wife is filial not to do anything bad.
If your wife does something bad, she should get divorced. The problem is that your wife has not done bad things, she is just filial to her parents. Is there any problem? Where can I find such a filial wife? So there is no need to make trouble with her wife because of this matter. For you.
has no benefit. If you really get divorced, how should you live with me? Now, hurry up and go to your parents’ home to bring your wife back. If you have any questions, please discuss. After my mother finished speaking, my father talked to me. My father told me, "That's right, there is no need to divorce your wife. If you think your wife is filial to her parents, it's more money." Then you can tell us. We will give you the best amount of
, and your mother and I also have a pension. We also keep our money. A few days ago, we took tens of thousands of yuan to deposit it in the bank. Isn’t it because we have too much cash and can’t spend it? That's why I got it deposited in the bank, and it was our only child. Sooner or later, the money will be left to you.
Since this is the case, why can't I give it to you? I'll let your mother give you the deposit. You can take the deposit back to live. We have money to live. After we spend it, we will have a pension every month, but we can't spend the pension at all. You also know that your mother and I have several thousand yuan in pensions every month. Spending one person’s pension is enough, and the other person can give you four to five thousand yuan a month.
You can give a little more yourself, and then you can get enough 10,000 yuan. Then your wife will have the money to take it back and be filial to her parents. This will be the best ending for the family, for yourself, for your father-in-law and mother-in-law, and I think your wife just wants to do this, otherwise you will be under too much pressure. We can't spend that much money anyway. It would be better to give you the money. As long as you can make your wife and live a good life, that's fine, the money is used to spend it.
I felt extremely painful when I heard my parents say these words. My parents loved me so much and worked hard all their lives. Now that I am old, I am willing to take out my savings for my happiness. The more I feel like this, the more I feel like this. The less I can make my wife become more and more arrogant. Let’s just say that. If I agree to this matter today, my wife will definitely be too much again.If that happens, how can I face my parents? I can help me this time and I can’t help me for the rest of my life. Now I can take the money back to solve this problem, but what should I do in the future?
What should I do if my wife is filial to her parents in the future? To put it bluntly, my wife has no me in her heart. My wife has only her own parents in her heart. Otherwise, she wouldn’t have treated me like this. Since my wife has done this, what else can I say? She can only choose to divorce. Isn’t it?
Do you want me to endure it again and again? When facing this matter, no matter what, don’t talk about me. If it were you, I think you can’t bear it anymore. Since you can’t bear it, you should choose to divorce and break up. My wife is too much. I hope that through my personal experience, I can remind all women. It is okay to be filial to your parents, but you must be sensible. You must know that you have your own life and your own family.
If you are too filial. In the end, your family will definitely be destroyed because your society has seriously affected your family life, just like my wife. My wife was very filial to her parents before, but at that time I thought it was a bit good. After all, there were not many filial children, but gradually I found that if you don’t care or say that you give your wife filial, your wife will be more and more capable.
will become more and more over-the-top and filial. In the past, my wife always gave her some money back from time to time, but now my wife is too over-the-top. He actually asked me to take 10,000 yuan back. My wife told me, you can give 10,000 yuan to my parents because my parents need to spend money. At that time, I thought it was only 10,000 yuan, but after a while, I agreed.
After I gave 10,000 yuan, my wife told me that I forgot to tell you something, not that it is 10,000 yuan, or that I will be filial to my parents every month from now on. Don’t think that 10,000 yuan is a lot. What I want to say is the money my parents spent on me. You have gone too much for 10,000 yuan. My parents gave me life and raised me again. I have paid as much as I have spent. Now that they are old, you have to repay them, right? You should know how to reward yourself.
I told my wife, although you need to know how to repay, the problem is that you are too much. Have you given your parents less money over the years? Now I still want me to give my parents 10,000 yuan a month. If that happens, should we live our lives and what should we do?
We are also barely living now. Have you ever earned money to me? You didn't give me a penny, you spent all the money you made. Now I want my parents who give 10,000 yuan a month. I can get so much money, at most I will give more than 1,000 yuan a month. If it is more, I won’t have a penny. Then my wife told me, you are too much, what can you do for 1,000 yuan? I told you that you are filial to 10,000 yuan a month, but you told me that you gave 1,000 yuan, and you turned this 10,000 yuan into 1,000 yuan.
. Isn’t there any position of my parents in your heart? Is there anything wrong with doing this? If it were you, you would be like your parents. Why don’t you care about my parents? If I don’t care about this matter, you have to agree, and if you don’t agree, you have to agree. I told my wife, why are you unreasonable? How can we have that much money for 10,000 yuan? It doesn’t cost so much money even if I sell me. Unless I don’t pay the mortgage every month, otherwise I really don’t have that much money.
My wife told me, I have come up with two solutions for this matter. The first method is to help you. I will pay more than 3,000 yuan a month. I will not spend money anymore. I will give you all the money I earn. My salary is more than 3,000 yuan. You can subsidize it a little more, and then give it to my parents after 10,000 yuan. In that case, I can give my parents 10,000 yuan a month. It sounds like 10,000 yuan is quite a lot, but it is not much given to my parents. There are two of them, one is 5,000 yuan, and two are 10,000 yuan. Do you think 5,000 yuan is still sold for flowers?
5,000 yuan spent on every day.Every day is just over 100 yuan. What can more than 100 yuan do? To put it bluntly, you can go out for a meal, it costs hundreds of dollars a day. You can’t make anything for this more than 100 yuan because I think you have a hard time. I think you don’t have that much money, so I said it’s 10,000 yuan. I have fully understood you in this matter. Can you understand my intention?
10,000 yuan a month can’t lose my salary, and then you make up for it a little more, that’s enough. The second way is to ask your parents to do that, I will not give you my salary. After all, I have to spend money. If I give you my salary, wouldn’t you ask you for money? I think it is better for you to use the second method.
Use the second method, you don’t have to worry about spending it. Anyway, if your parents don’t have a pension, I don’t know how much money they have. Anyway, just let them pay 10,000 yuan a month, and then use the 10,000 yuan to be filial to my parents. And my parents also agree on this matter, why can your parents have so much pension? Why don’t my parents have any pensions? Since this is the case, let your parents give me money. If you look like
, that's a kind of compensation to my parents, and it's a kind of help to your parents. Isn't it better to give money if they have so much money to spend. My parents' words are also a kind of help to us. You just said that we basically have no money to live. Since this is the case, we should give your parents’ money to my parents, which will save us a lot of money.
Then I won’t ask you for money, and you don’t have to borrow money everywhere to live. Let's do it like this, not only for you but also for this family. If you don't want to do this, don't blame me. I've given you the solution. How to choose depends on whether you want to live with me. If you want to live with me, you should know how to choose. My wife didn't give me any choice.
I told my wife, are you just giving me a choice? You just forced me to divorce you. It’s not that I don’t want to live with you, it’s that you’re too much. If you don’t want to live with me, just tell me directly, there’s no need to make things difficult for me. My wife felt even more uncomfortable when she heard me say this, so she slapped me in the face. My wife told me, "I don't want to live with you anymore, you don't want to live with me, right?"
You can use my salary and add your money, and then raise 10,000 yuan for my parents, or ask your parents for 10,000 yuan. Both methods are OK. Isn’t this a choice for you? Forget it, my wife said that, what else can I say? My wife has her own parents in her heart, and she doesn’t have our family at all. Since I have been treated like this, why should I give my wife a chance?
and she also hit me, only had 0 and countless times. Once this head is opened, it will be endless. If I don’t obey anything in the future, my wife will still hit me. As long as this is the case, you should choose to divorce, right? He doesn't want to live with me, so he can divorce my wife and let my wife go back and live with her parents. He wants to be filial to his parents so much. Then let my wife go back and be filial to her parents.
Conclusion:
I think you are not wrong in the face of this matter. Just say that, you must do this. You do this not only to yourself, but also to your parents. If you don’t do this, you will not be able to live your life in the future. Your wife is too much. She has no place in your heart. In your wife's heart, she has her own parents.
There are still many such women in real life. Many women are extremely filial in their hearts but ignore one thing. Don’t forget that you also have your own family and your own life. If you only care about your parents, then in the end you will definitely return to everything about yourself, just like this in the article.
Don’t blame your husband for divorce from you at that time. If you want to blame yourself, blame yourself. If you weren’t too much, if you weren’t blindly filial, would your husband divorce you? And how many chances your husband has given you. The 100% waiting for you at that time is a tragedy, so women must be careful and never be blindly filial. Do you understand?
