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Colleague Xu Xu, who recently surrendered to her mother's high-pressure policy, had no choice but to have a first time in her life.
: When it comes to the man’s conditions, it is not bad. He has a house and a car, and his work is stable. In the past two years, he is the best "economic and affordable man". Xu Xu's mother was very satisfied and praised her repeatedly. What's even more rare is that she was interested in Xu Xu; so Xu Xu's mother kept urging Xu Xu to date the other party and even began to plan for marriage.
Xu Xu was shocked and complained to us. It turned out that she had told her mother several times, and she had no feelings for the man, and she was even bored. But her mother didn't listen, just said that Xu Xu was not young, so don't be too picky.
Xu Xu said: "I'm not picky."
Xu Xu's blind date partner's surname is Han, so let's call him Xiao Han for the time being.
The two met for the first time and made an appointment with a restaurant in the mall. This restaurant is not expensive and has a mass consumption level, with an average of less than 100 yuan per person, so the man chose group purchase.
Xu Xu's ability to accept is pretty good. I think that I often buy movie tickets, meal coupons, etc. in group purchases, which can indeed save a lot of money. However, I didn't know that before I finished the meal, I had the intention to escape in panic.
After Xiao Han bought the discount package in the group, he called the waiter and kept asking if there was anything in the package and whether he could replace the existing one with something else... After finally confirming it, he told Xu Xu that he must Ask clearly, otherwise the waiter will give less, and group buyers are often bullied.
thought to myself: I haven't encountered it before.
Then the two started chatting. Xiao Han asked for more than half an hour like checking his household registration. It didn't matter. He slowly comforted himself, and he was like this, and he promoted understanding between both parties. After this meal, Xu Xu had no intention of meeting again, but Xu Xu's mother said that the man had a crush on Xu Xu and hoped to communicate further. Xu Xu could not resist his mother's repeated urging, so she thought about explaining it to the other party in person.
The result was even worse this time. When Xiao Han sent Xu Xu home, he first took Xu Xu to the fruit stall on the street and said he wanted to buy some fruit for Xu Xu's mother and let her take it back. Xu Xu admitted that there was no need to worry about it, but it was useless, so he waited for Xiao Han to pick up the fruit.
Xiao Han asked about the prices of apples, bananas and peaches, and told the boss, give them more cheaper. The boss asked, how many boxes do you want?
Xiao Han shook his head, and two pounds were the same.
Slowly, I saw that the boss's expression was the same as hers, and it was a little incredible.
The boss said, "I have been setting up a stall here for several years. The prices are not high and they are very affordable."
Xiao Han asked a few more questions unwillingly, "You really can't give it a cheaper one?" "You're cheaper, come here often Buy it, "Okay, weigh it."
Seeing this, he hurriedly took out his wallet and planned to pay the bill himself. Xiao Han said no, so he blocked him back.
However, Xu Xu still couldn't get Xiao Han's affection, and he was calculating everywhere.
Since then, I have stopped meeting it again, and this "marriage" has ended.
Xu Xu said that Xiao Han may not have to be wrong in some things, but she always feels that a man’s pattern should not be a petty pattern.
His life is not a difficult time, and he does not need the three or five yuan to help him. He is a person who wants to do a career. If he is particularly limited to these trivial matters, in the future, it will be easier for two people to stop moving forward; This kind of life that is tangled is not the life she wants.
She wants a generous and stylish person.
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What is the pattern?
I remembered that I had watched an issue of " Everyday Upward ", and Ni Ping and Zhao Zhongxiang are guests.
Ni Ping said that her principle of buying things is to not bargain with people who are poorer than her. When she meets a familiar elder sister or girl, she wants to give her onion and garlic. She said she can't make it for 80 cents, and she feels uncomfortable all day long. , have to pay.
But when she encounters someone richer than her, she will definitely bargain, such as buying a house.
Ni Ping said that it’s better to help yours, it’s nothing.
I actually agree with this point of view. People must know where their pattern is and where your energy and time are used, they are visible.
You need to distinguish which ones can be counted and which ones do not need to waste time. The stinginess between the ruins of the market or the generous nature of the vast ocean and the sky depends entirely on yourself.
The slowly blind date Xiao Han is a man who is confused by the entanglement of a few dollars, and the entanglement of this intangible money is completely unnecessary for him. It’s not that we don’t care about this mere few dollars, and no one’s money is blown by the strong wind; it’s that people should know their own boundaries.
has been entangled with small things for a long time, and will not broaden your horizons, your thinking will not expand, and your thinking will not be advanced; people will stand still and even retreat.
Because, this will limit yourself to a small circle and think that this is life.
He will easily fall into trivial troubles, be sad for a whole day because he lost a few dollars, and be sad for a whole year because he missed an opportunity. He is constantly capricious in trivial setbacks, and has no energy to do it, which will help improve. His own affairs and his world are only alive before his eyes.
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Just like at work, some people can only be small employees, while others can be high-level employees.
A few days ago, a designer came to the company for an interview. A man of 35 or 36 years old. At that time, we had a question. Looking at his resume, why are he still changing jobs frequently at this age? There was no solution; he saw that his resume had sufficient work experience, so he invited him to come for an interview.
In the preliminary examination, the human resources manager told him: The designer may work overtime, so you must explain it to you in advance.
This designer asked: What time do you usually need to work overtime? How to eat lunch in the company? Do you care about food? What kind of benefits will the company provide him with?
The designer is very worried about overtime and keeps asking if there is any specific time for overtime, and what time are they usually busy with? He also said that he had checked several bus routes from the company.
He said that if he works overtime at 9 or 10 pm, he will be unable to go home after the last bus.
The personnel manager comforted him. This depends on the specific situation. In fact, the position of designers will work overtime. We will also have corresponding overtime pay and rest payments, the cost of taking a taxi home and overtime meals. The company is all Reimbursement is possible. But I buy food by myself. Apart from the workshop assembly line, there are almost few companies that manage food now.
The designer's question, I instantly understood why he was still looking for a job at this age, and his vision was always on the last bus at night.
According to personnel, the designer is not married yet.
The Internet was once popular with the chicken soup "If the company is gone, you will still open it, if the family is gone, you will be heartbroken, so don't work overtime to death." But I tell you, the reality is that you can go to work on time when you are free and get off work Get off work at the right time, but you will never get promotions or salary increases.
"Maybe people like this kind of life, and it is not necessarily everyone has to live with chicken blood." said a colleague.
Well, I completely agree that not everyone has to work hard to do a career, but a man who is in his 40s is worried that he will not have a bus and dare not take a taxi if he works late. Do you think he is living a good life? Does he have no desire for money?
I don't believe he doesn't want to live a better life.
If he asks for overtime pay or taxi reimbursement, this is normal. I believe that everyone hopes that the efforts and rewards are equal, but what he is worried about is that he dare not take a taxi and the last bus easily.
This shows that in his heart, he is a person who is prone to entanglement in the branches and branches; these are enough to make him nearly forty years old and still working hard for his livelihood.
If I want to make a choice, I will definitely not want to be such a person.
The pattern is too small, and you can't just look at the immediate interests. Although working overtime is tiring, in this city, the circle of this industry is so small. If the picture you designed is effective, you will not have to worry about being discovered, being favored by a headhunter, or being introduced to work on your own. Anything can be made possible for him. He gains popularity as long as he has real skills.
However, he did not. He was worried that he would miss the last bus when working overtime. His energy was not used to make money, but to save money.
A person's pattern is too small, and the road will become narrower and narrower; on the contrary, only by having a broad vision and doing things at a grand scale can you benefit from it and become broader and broader.
Our path is always going upward, and our requirements are getting higher and higher.
Don’t spend your energy on small things, don’t just look in front of you, don’t be able to see it because of a little setback, and don’t be blinded by a single leaf Taishan . In fact, the more open you are, the luckier you are.
Only by having a big pattern can you go further and further.
