Author: Xiao Xueping Editor: Fuyang
Source: marriage and family magazine
fall in love in love When she loves, Chen Yu most appreciates Su Zhiyuan's filial piety, and what makes her unexpected is that what makes her most dissatisfied after marriage is his filial piety.
is in Su Zhiyuan's heart, and parents are always the first.
Chen Yu was difficult to give birth when he was born. His mother -in -law called to recur. He immediately left her and left at home. The baby room, Su Zhiyuan is too expensive, but her mother -in -law said that the uncle decorates the house For lack of money, let him help him, he immediately sent 50,000 yuan, and there were countless things.
Chen Yuyi complained that Su Zhiyuan criticized her selfishness. Later, she simply said that she was not filial, loved, and proposed to her!
is different from Chen Yu. Li Na explicitly label her husband Zhang Liang .
She thinks that Zhang Liang is like being controlled by her mother -in -law. What can I do if I can't help but filial piety?
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. Basic quality, if a person is not filial, his existence value will be questioned.
So when people are filial to their parents, they are actually expressing their recognition to their parents:
I am doing what you want me to do, so please confirm me. It's your child, please give me you Love.
is not wrong, but the blind behavior of filial piety does not take care of or even hurt yourself, partners and children.
Filial Piety, usually because there are too few love and and too little love and and self -sense. In the subconscious, they are afraid of being denied and abandoned. A sense of security.
is because of fear of losing his parents' love. Su Zhiyuan must take his parents first, and even put his brother in front of himself -to please his parents by taking care of his brother, and also proved to his parents that he is a good child worthy of love.
is also the same. It makes Zhang Liang unable to transfer emotions to Li Na. During the growth process, he used to treat his mother as the only source of security. Before he was convinced that Li Na was more trustworthy than his mother, he did not dare to loosen at all. Open the corner of the mother.
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to find time If contradictions and conflicts are regarded as TV series, then this drama also has your feelings. Chen Yu hopes that Su Zhiyuan is dominated by a small family, and on the other hand, "filial piety" is the core virtue of people.
, as her closest person, Su Zhiyuan will definitely perceive her contradiction and then insist on herself.
, Li Na just asked questions and express dissatisfaction, but did not think about solutions, as if this was Zhang Liang's problem, it had nothing to do with her.
So Chen Yu needs to communicate with Su Zhiyuan, her emotional needs to be satisfied, and she will be filial with her husband, otherwise her husband's filial piety will be greatly reduced; For the problem.
solves the long -awaited marriage problem. It should be as patient as a fisherman. After clarifying his mind, he patiently observe the state of fish drifting , and accurately judge the timing of the lifting rod.
is the same. The same is true of the fool's filial piety. You must not want to twist him immediately. Instead, you must observe carefully and wait for the right opportunity.
suitable opportunities are the following two features:
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2. Partner and parents are unhappy, so their mood is low.
adult children and parents are too close to the relationship, so there are too many opportunities.
is at this time you gently embrace your partner, and frankly talk about your views and feelings of this matter, such as:
- "You too" Uncomfortable in my heart, right? Your parents are not fair this time. 2
- "Filial Pick is should, but but I want to be the person you care about most, I need to be too much, think about it in other places, you also want me to put you first, right? There will be more and more, he will gradually realize that you are the one who understands him most, the most he thinks, and really cares about him.
When you can become his safe harbor and become his emotional person, he will naturally stop seeking parents' identity and reduce filial piety.
This article is taken from "Marriage and Family" magazine
- "Filial Pick is should, but but I want to be the person you care about most, I need to be too much, think about it in other places, you also want me to put you first, right? There will be more and more, he will gradually realize that you are the one who understands him most, the most he thinks, and really cares about him.
