I can understand why a rural woman would not leave home after divorce. After all, if a rural woman throws water away from her married daughter, her natal home is no longer her home, and her husband's home is no longer her home. Where should
go? How many women have asked themselves?
Xiao Xu chose to stay in her husband's family. She is definitely attached to her daughter, and she is definitely looking forward to her husband, Mr. Wang, returning to the family.
Xiao Xu has lived a divorced life for eight years without leaving home. In the eyes of outsiders, her ex-husband is still her husband, and her family is still her daughter. Mr. Wang and her family of three are still together.
However, Xiao Xu felt aggrieved and helpless when her husband, Mr. Wang, cheated on her.
Xiao Xu said: One summer, her ex-husband Mr. Wang took her, her daughter and her cousin’s daughter to Disneyland. Mr. Wang drove the car and Xiao Xu turned on the navigation on her mobile phone. After arriving at Disney, her ex-husband Wang started to play. The husband was playing with the children with her. After a while, her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, found an excuse and said that the weather was too hot. I would go out and drive the car to a cooler place to blow in the hot air. You guys should go out quickly and we can contact her by phone.
Xiao Xu and the two children agreed very well, but after her ex-husband Mr. Wang left, the two children saw that there were still many places to play, so they were unwilling to go out and kept jumping around.
However, Xiao Xu’s mobile phone was out of power because the navigation was turned on. He could not contact his ex-husband, Mr. Wang, and his two children could not be left. Xiao Xu was anxious and had no choice. He thought that the children would not come easily, so he simply Just play with your children for a while to satisfy their curiosity.
Time flies very fast. Three hours have passed and the sun is getting a little tired. Xiao Xu can no longer let the children play wildly. Thinking of his ex-husband Mr. Wang who is still waiting outside the gate, Xiao Xu takes the children out of Disneyland. .
Sure enough, when his ex-husband Mr. Wang saw Xiao Xu, without saying a word, he angrily walked up to Xiao Xu and punched his chest. When Xiao Xu wanted to explain, his ex-husband Mr. Wang kicked him in the leg.
The anger of her ex-husband Mr. Wang comes from the fact that the waiting time was too long. It has been three hours. Xiao Xu’s mobile phone has been turned off and Mr. Wang cannot be contacted. It is summer again, the temperature in the parking lot is high, and everything inside and outside the car is wet. There was no one to sit down, and Mr. Wang couldn't contact Xiao Xu and the children. It would not be an exaggeration to describe his impatience as an ant on a hot pot at this moment.
When something happens, who is right and who is wrong? Everyone has his own theory.
But Xiao Xu said: My ex-husband Mr. Wang did not treat me as his wife. At least Mr. Wang did not beat me before the divorce. After the divorce, he punched and kicked me in front of the children. I couldn’t live with my face. If it didn’t work, I would Choose to leave him.
My ex-husband Mr. Wang, who sits on the Jiangxi TV " Gold Medal Mediation " column group, said: My idea is still to live with Xiao Xu. Our home is still me, her and our daughter. We are still a family of three, and divorced It’s no different than before.
I heard it. What my ex-husband Mr. Wang said the most was that she was my daughter’s mother.
Xiao Xu said: We divorced in 2012, and I have never left home. I have always asked myself to be a wife to my ex-husband, Mr. Wang, and I still fulfill my responsibilities according to my wife's requirements.
Mr. Wang’s mother was sick. Mr. Wang asked his ex-wife Xiao Xu to get some money for his mother’s medical treatment.
Xiao Xu said: The money she took out to give to her mother-in-law was even more than what her ex-husband asked her to do.
Xiao Xu wanted to express that she was still a daughter-in-law and treated her father-in-law and mother-in-law sincerely.
However, my ex-husband Mr. Wang said: She withdrew the money, but I asked her to take a day off to go to the hospital to take care of my mother, but she did not go. As a daughter-in-law, isn’t she still leaving herself out like this? ?
Xiao Xu said: I still have to go to work. Thinking that my daughter is also 16 years old and has nothing to do during the holiday, I discussed with my daughter to go to the hospital to take care of her grandma.
The daughter agreed, and Xiao Xu went to the hospital to meet her mother-in-law, who also agreed that her granddaughter should take care of her.
Xiao Xu asked her ex-husband Mr. Wang today: Where did I fall short?
My ex-husband Mr. Wang said: When an old man is hospitalized for treatment, on the first day of admission, he not only has to go through a lot of procedures, but also has to go through blood tests and various things like CT, MRI, ECG, color ultrasound, etc. Waiting for the examination, is this something that a 16-year-old girl can do?
My ex-husband, Mr. Wang, also emphasized that when his daughter finally called him, he took time out to go to the hospital for another busy day.
Although Xiao Xu knew that her mother-in-law was hospitalized and there were many things going on, she thought that she would lose a lot by taking one day off. Her daughter taking care of her grandmother was fulfilling her filial piety on her behalf.
Her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, added: Xiao Xu’s father has been admitted to the hospital six or seven times. Doesn’t Xiao Xu really know that a 16-year-old child cannot handle the examinations on the first and second days of hospitalization for the elderly?
Mr. Wang talked about Xiao Xu’s fault. Although his expression was calm, he did not stop complaining.
Mr. Wang also meant that Xiao Xu’s father had been in the hospital many times and it was Xiao Xu who took care of him. Xiao Xu was very aware of the troubles on the first day of admission. Xiao Xu asked his daughter to take care of his grandma, but he obviously did not want to go to the hospital. Take care of your mother-in-law.
Xiao Xu did not go to take care of her mother-in-law after work, but danced in the middle of the night.
My ex-husband, Mr. Wang, had more than one reason.
My ex-husband, Mr. Wang, asked Xiao Xu: Do you think I will be your son-in-law?
Mr. Wang believes that Xiao Xu, who has not left home after divorce, should keep a close eye on herself and not regard herself as a member of a big family.
In addition to seeing Xiao Xu’s little thoughts at her mother-in-law’s house, Mr. Wang also questioned his desire to help his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Xiao Xu said: What did my parents and I do wrong? We did not treat you as a son-in-law?
’s ex-husband Mr. Wang told the host.
’s ex-husband Mr. Wang said: Xiao Xu’s natal family is going to acquire land, and the land acquisition is a big matter. I told Xiao Xu earlier that if the land of my father-in-law and mother-in-law’s family is acquired, tell me in advance, and I will go and greet them and ensure that the land is acquired.
Xiao Xu said: He went to the collection office, but when the person from the collection office asked him, who are you? Mr. Wang actually replied that he was the former son-in-law.
I was also present at the time. I felt embarrassed and annoyed, but I thought that we were united in going to the outside world today, and we must be united no matter what today.
Mr. Wang said: I have emotions too! This is already the third land acquisition at my parents-in-law’s house. They didn’t tell me the first two times. Didn’t my parents-in-law and Xiao Xu just think that I was not their son-in-law?
This time it was because my mother-in-law had a dispute with someone. She was beaten. I was informed by someone else. I only found out about it. I went to the collection office on my own initiative. My father-in-law, mother-in-law, and Xiao Xu were not notified by anyone. .
If it's not a dispute, I don't even know that the land expropriation for my father-in-law and mother-in-law's house has been completed. Doesn't this mean they don't trust me?
Xiao Xu said: My parents didn’t notify you, and they didn’t notify me either. I didn’t know about the first two land acquisitions either.
My father mainly thinks that if nothing happens, he doesn’t want to disturb the life of our small family.
does not mean that Mr. Wang is treated as his ex-son-in-law.
The ex-husband and the ex-wife complained to each other that the other party did not treat them as husband and wife.
As a weak person, Xiao Xu knew better that during the eight years since the divorce, Mr. Wang had not only given him no care and warmth, but she had also been kept in the dark about many things in the family. She was like An outsider.
Xiao Xu said: One time she went to her mother-in-law's house, and her mother-in-law mentioned something that made her unhappy.
The mother-in-law said: The village built an iron tower on the land allocated to them, and the village gave them 5,000 yuan, but the money was not given to them, so the old couple stayed and used it.
Xiao Xu was surprised at first, then calmed down and agreed to her mother-in-law: Okay, you can use it.
Why was Xiao Xu surprised?
If my mother-in-law didn't tell her today, she would probably never know about it.
When Xiao Xu returned home, she complained to her ex-husband Mr. Wang and said: Even if you tell me, I won’t say that I won’t give it to my parents-in-law. The problem is that you have to tell me! I regard myself as your wife, and I have the right to know about the family's finances.
Her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, was unwilling to pay attention to Xiao Xu, looked at her contemptuously, and still did not explain.
Sitting at the mediation table of Jiangxi TV's "Gold Medal Mediation" today, her ex-husband Mr. Wang seemed at a loss in front of the observers, but still did not answer directly.
Mr. Wang’s answer was this: In fact, I feel that this kind of thing is a very small thing, and I have never deliberately asked about this kind of thing.
Xiao Xu said: This is not the only thing I have no right to know. Mr. Wang used our house as a mortgage and did not tell me.
He asked my cousin for a loan. I only found out after my cousin told me about it.
Mr. Wang said: In those few years, my partner and I lost business, and I took out a house loan as collateral.
host asked: Why not tell Xiao Xu?
Mr. Wang said: If I tell Xiao Xu about these lack of money matters, she won’t be able to help me solve them. Not only will it not help, it will also increase her psychological burden.
I don’t tell her, not because we don’t have a marriage certificate . This is my approach. I don’t want her to worry or worry.
Xiao Xu said: I never left home after divorce. I always regarded myself as my wife. I think Mr. Wang did not regard me as his wife.
Mr. Wang said: A few years before getting married, Xiao Xu also cared about these trivial things.
But now I feel that Xiao Xu is more carefree.
host asked: Is it just because Xiao Xu didn’t leave home after getting divorced?
Mr. Wang replied: We also mentioned remarrying the year before last, but two days later we quarreled over a trivial matter. After that, I never mentioned the remarriage again.
Xiao Xu said: He never mentioned the matter of remarriage at all.
Mr. Wang said: I mentioned that if you don’t believe it, you can ask your daughter to testify.
host asked: Xiao Xu, do you want to remarry?
Xiao Xu cried: Shouldn’t men propose remarriage?
Besides, when we divorced, it was because Mr. Wang cheated on us. Now that we want to remarry, it is more because of his initiative that I feel confident.
Xiao Xu knew very clearly that after divorce, she would be Mr. Wang's ex-wife. Legally speaking, she has no right to require Mr. Wang to disclose all his financial transactions to her.
But if Mr. Wang regarded her as his wife, he should take the initiative to inform her of family affairs.
What other things does Xiao Xu not know now? In Xiao Xu's heart, she always wants to test whether her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, is sincere or fake towards her!
This year's Valentine's Day coincided with Xiao Xu going to the bank to handle business. The bank held an event and gave each of its depositors a rose.
Xiao Xu was full of joy but also a little disappointed. Would she be happier if her ex-husband Mr. Wang gave her this rose? At the very least, does it represent her ex-husband Mr. Wang’s love for her and his determination to build a better life together?
Although Xiao Xu felt that her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, was lukewarm towards her, she still wanted to see his reaction to the rose.
Xiao Xu carefully placed the roses in the vase and placed them on the bedside table. Her purpose was very clear. The roses the wife received on Valentine's Day were not from her husband. The husband would be surprised and questioned. The husband's jealousy showed that he cared about his wife. It will definitely be a little fun.
Xiao Xu is also looking forward to the arrival of this jealous happiness.
On the first day, my ex-husband Mr. Wang did not respond.
Xiao Xu specially posted on WeChat Moments to show off, in order to attract the attention of her ex-husband, Mr. Wang.
As a result, my ex-husband Mr. Wang did not leave a message, and when he got home, he did not ask where the roses came from.
Xiao Xu also made his point clear today: My ex-husband, Mr. Wang, just doesn’t care about me at all. My wife has been given roses, but he hasn’t responded yet.
’s ex-husband Mr. Wang said: This is a very childish thing. I even saw Xiao Xu post it on WeChat Moments. His cousin’s sister-in-law left a message saying she was so happy. Xiao Xu told her cousin that it was a gift from her daughter.
Xiao Xu said: Why didn’t you ask me or leave a message when you saw it?
My ex-husband Mr. Wang said: I have seen it all, and I also know that the rose was given to you by my daughter. Isn’t it superfluous for me to ask again?
Afterwards, my ex-husband Mr. Wang emphasized: I am not someone who sits idle and has nothing to do. I am very busy every day. There is no need to ask me about these little things.
Her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, said it contemptuously and lightly. Xiao Xu was aggrieved: It had been 8 years since the divorce and he didn’t want to wait any longer. If he could live with it, he would treat her as his wife.
If you can't get through, make it clear that the two of you are completely separated.
My ex-husband Mr. Wang said: I have always treated you as my wife. After our divorce, our acquaintances did not know that we were divorced. We are still a family of three, and I still treat you as the mother of my daughter. The host of
asked, Mr. Wang, what is the purpose of your appeal?
’s ex-husband Mr. Wang said: I think we just lack a correct way of communication. Since I am here today, the purpose is to hope that Xiao Xu and I can live together and our relationship can be further improved.
Xiao Xu said emotionally, but Mr. Wang was a little absent-minded and kept writing and drawing on the table.
My ex-husband Mr. Wang did not make any request for remarriage.
At this moment, Xiao Xu made a decisive decision: What she wants for mediation today is not only her status as a wife, but also whether she can be recognized by Mr. Wang for her wholehearted dedication over the years. If my ex-husband, Mr. Wang, was just talking about so-called cooperation, then it would be unnecessary and we could get together and part ways.
My ex-husband Mr. Wang said: I have been busy in business these past few years. I don’t want her to come to me for small things in life. I agree if we remarry, but I don’t have time at ordinary times. I have to wait until the Spring Festival to have time. Just wait. Let’s get remarried during the Spring Festival.
The mediation between Xiao Xu and her ex-husband Mr. Wang has reached a deadlock. How should the observers and teachers point out the problems and resolve the conflicts? What will be the attitude of ex-husband Mr. Wang towards remarriage? Can the
gold medal mediation team help Ms. Xu find the answer to this question? Where is the core focus of the conflict?
observer Wen Yan said: If the name is not correct, the words will not be correct. Xiao Xu kept asking, do you regard me as your wife? Because you no longer have that certificate, both of you are making the same statement.
Mr. Wang said, I have been very busy recently. Otherwise, I should wait for the Chinese New Year and have time to get a certificate. How long will it take to get the certificate?
A trip to the Civil Affairs Bureau can delay anything. Ms. Xu also said that I want to see if he can change it before going to get it. How long have you been looking at this certificate? It’s divorced. Eight years, you haven’t seen enough, you still don’t know what he is What kind of person, you must first solve the civil affairs issues before you can speak fluently. You keep talking about whether you consider me your wife. The first thing you want is the right to know about family finances and all things and the right to make partial decisions. Secondly, In this home, I want to be a hostess, both internally and externally. And thirdly, I need someone who can make some demands on you as my wife.
And you keep asking now because you don’t have this identity, and you don’t know whether you should ask for it. In your heart, you think that we are actually living like a couple, and I have the right to ask for it. of , but in fact I don’t have that certificate, and I don’t have the confidence to ask for it. In addition, the hurt you suffered before makes you even more afraid to ask him, so you are very embarrassed. You want to understand one thing, this person This is his problem. He is such a man. Do I want to live with him? , you have to go with him to get the certificate, don’t go with him, everyone separates freely.
observer Juping said: He doesn’t care when the bank sends flowers on Chinese Valentine’s Day. Do you think he doesn’t care about you? Don’t you feel uncomfortable when someone else gives me a flower or your wife a flower?
You don’t care, you didn’t ask, because you don’t regard me as your wife, what does this reflect? Let me explain a situation, that is, you yourself have not determined your identity, and then you will continue to project this mentality onto all your affairs. As long as something happens, no matter what it is, you will only think about that aspect, that is Said he didn't regard me as his wife.
The second point is that both parties will have it. When you have no identity, when it is time to take responsibility, there will be jumps and hesitation. For example, Mr. Wang’s mother is hospitalized. As a daughter-in-law, even if you entrusted you I went to take care of my daughter, but as daughters-in-law, we would definitely visit them every day when we were free after work. This is what a daughter-in-law should do, but if you didn’t go, would you feel a little psychologically at that time? If you don't recognize me as your wife, why should I do it? It will have some impact.
Including saying that others asked him, who are you? What did Mr. Wang say? I am his ex-son-in-law, why do I say ex-son-in-law? But what did he do? He did what a son-in-law should do. When asking others, Mr. Wang asked you to be good to my mother and to go to the hospital to see my mother, because I treat you as my wife, right?
But what about when you ask for it? When he feels that he should shoulder the responsibilities of a husband, he will say that I am his ex-son-in-law.
Including Ms. Xu, you can also think about it yourself. You ask Mr. Wang to care for you like a husband, pay attention to you, and ask him to treat your family like a husband, but when you treat their family , you are also hesitating, should you resolve the problems between you two first and then remarry, or should you remarry first and then resolve the issues?
First of all, the matter of whether to remarry will actually have a certain impact on both of you. Maybe remarrying first will help you two solve your marital problems.
First of all, if this marriage is remarriage, it is at least a determination and the first step you must take to solve the marriage problem.
Observer Zhongzhen said: Mr. Wang, deep down in your heart, you have no love for Xiao Xu. Why do you say that? Regarding the Disney matter, you are punching and kicking me all of a sudden. If you really love Xiao Xu in your heart, how could you do it so quickly? So from this point of view, I suggest Xiao Xu let go and leave as soon as possible. Don't worry about it. If you want him to change, can he change? Can domestic violence be changed in ? I don't believe it.
If a person doesn't love or respect another person at all, and he can't control small things, just take action. If you don't love her in your heart, it's not your sin or your fault.
There is no clause in our law that says you must love your ex-wife, but life has given us a lot of burdens, such as taking care of the elderly, picking up children, doing housework, cooking, washing clothes, etc., etc., and accompanying children with homework requires a People, and the cheapest and most caring person is the child’s mother.
Why is it still there after divorce? Leave home, because you need the name of this family, and you need Ms. Xu even more. This woman is like a nanny to take care of the children and do housework. If you really don't love her in your heart, then why should you hold her as a nanny? Don’t let go? As for Ms. Xu, if you are still confused about what you think of me, you may be deceiving yourself.
So in this case, if Mr. Wang doesn’t love Xiao Xu, can you try to cherish her in the future? You also said, I have been very busy in the past two years, so you definitely can’t take care of your family. The family is inseparable from Xiao Xu. If you neither love nor cherish him, you will just use him as a nanny. This is very cruel.
mediator Li Jinping said: There are two locks on the security of marriage, one is the objective legal binding force, and the other is the subjective emotional supervision.But now you two have lost the binding force of objective law, and only have the power of emotional self-supervision.
You are originally divorced, and you are originally in a cohabitation relationship where you are divorced and do not leave home, but you want to change it into what it should be, and I should be your wife.
You should treat me like a wife. You should take care of me like a wife. Who has the ability to change what is is into what should be. Don't say this piece of paper is useless. You are not a couple. You have to discuss the relationship as a couple. When it comes to husband and wife issues, this is called the major premise being lost.
There is also another question, that is, do you consider me your wife? Do you love me? Which is more important, legal confirmation or emotional confirmation?
When you two re-discuss your eight years of cohabitation, your attitude should return to the discussion of marriage issues, because what we are discussing today is your marriage issue, not your cohabitation issue.
There is no need to discuss the issue of cohabitation in this way. Are you so serious about cohabitation? Do we require recognition of the wife's role when we live together? When we ask for a certificate for living together, do our father-in-law and mother-in-law regard us as family members? In short, don't take your cohabitation relationship so seriously. If it's really serious, then return to your family.
families have a double recognition, legal and mutual emotional.
you two should think about it carefully.
mediator Li Jinping suggested that both parties enter a secret room for mediation.
Xiao Xu told the observer Ju Ping : The two people divorced because Mr. Wang cheated.
Just because Mr. Wang got into the bad habit of gambling, he stayed away from home all day long, and then had an affair outside.
But Mr. Wang gambled and lost, and the woman broke up with him. Later, when Mr. Wang was desperate and expressed his willingness to change his past, she chose to forgive him.
It turns out that in the first few years when Xiao Xu and Mr. Wang divorced and stayed home, the two of them lived in harmony. Especially in the past two years, Mr. Wang's business has begun to improve a little, and the economy has become better. Not having a good time.
Xiao Xu keeps recalling the unhappiness of the past and the mistakes of her ex-husband, Mr. Wang. Now Xiao Xu also wonders whether Mr. Wang's business is booming and his money is making a lot of money, so he doesn't care about himself anymore. Anyway, Xiao Xu spent eight years in a daze without leaving home after divorce.
observer Ju Ping believes that Xiao Xu did not understand why the more Xiao Xu gave in, the more he would encourage Mr. Wang's unreasonable bad mood and strengthen his momentum.
This is all because they do not have a marriage certificate.
Observer Juping said: Xiao Xu, you and Mr. Wang cannot communicate on one point. You are focusing on the wrong point. You focus on small aspects and not on big aspects.
observer Ju Ping reminded Xiao Xu that the reason why you are not leaving home after divorce is because of your identity uncertainty, and the change in Mr. Wang's financial situation is the main reason for the current emotional instability between the two.
In such a situation, both people should make a decision as soon as possible whether to divide or merge.
observer Juping has two specific plans.
First, the plan to break up.
If you want to have peace of mind before dividing, you must have peace of mind and think clearly. Then divide the points cleanly, do it simply, and don't be sloppy.
Second, the remarriage plan
It has been 8 years since you divorced him and you have not left home. This has made it very clear that you are not willing to leave Mr. Wang.
Since you want to live with Mr. Wang, you must have a firm determination to remarry.
Xiao Xu was thoughtful and nodded in recognition of observer Ju Ping's suggestion.
As for her ex-husband, Mr. Wang, he really couldn’t find any obvious mistakes in Xiao Xu. But he didn't understand why Xiao Xu would care about little things.
Mr. Wang told observer Yang Shimin: He did make mistakes in the past, but now, the things Xiao Xu mentioned are just minor problems. He doesn't understand why she is so entangled in these issues?
My ex-husband Mr. Wang said to himself: In fact, whether Xiao Xu and I get married or divorce and stay home, after thinking about it for so many years, we don’t have any serious conflicts.
Mr. Wang has always wondered why his ex-wife Xiao Xu made such a fuss?
Mr. Wang said that now he has two companies under his name, and he has also taken on some projects. His life and work arrangements are very busy, and he wakes up early and works hard every day just for the sake of this family. But Xiao Xu doesn't understand this, and feels that she sometimes doesn't understand people.
Mr. Wang asked observer Yang Shimin: Are we having communication problems?
observer Yang Shimin said: You just mentioned that she doesn’t understand you. In fact, you don’t understand her very well. This is your biggest problem. So what is behind this understanding? Just what you feel in your heart, do you still regard her as a family member?
You see, you said, because I am very busy outside, so don’t bother me with your affairs. This is not the attitude of a husband towards his wife at all. If the wife has something to do or has a psychological problem, she must find the husband to solve it and complain.
And you didn’t let Xiao Xu come to you to complain, chat with you, or deal with things with you. You also said that I just treat you as my wife, and I just treat you as my child. This is obviously a gesture of escape from you. .
The feeling you give Xiao Xu must be that we don’t talk about this thing, we just make do with our lives.
But if Mr. Wang wants to change this situation, you must make efforts.
observer Yang Shimin reminded Mr. Wang: The insecurity brought to Xiao Xu by not leaving home after divorce is very obvious. He must learn to put himself in his shoes and understand this. Changing the current status quo is one of the ways to solve the problem.
Yang Shimin said eloquently: Mr. Wang, let me ask you a few questions now. They are very important questions. Is she your friend? Or ex-wife? Or my wife? Or live together with her?
Mr. Wang said: In my heart, Xiao Xu is my wife.
observer Yang Shimin asked: Does this sentence go against your heart?
Mr. Wang said: No.
observer Yang Shimin said: Then you have to face it directly. If you decide to continue with Xiao Xu, then you must change. Are you willing to change for this?
Mr. Wang said: Yes.
observer Yang Shimin asked: Mr. Wang, are you willing to get a remarriage certificate?
Mr. Wang said: Yes. I still think Xiao Xu is very important.
Mr. Wang began to reflect on himself and expressed his willingness to make changes. Will Xiao Xu agree to remarry her? After the
secret room mediation ends, what choices will both parties ultimately make? The host of
asked: Have you two thought about it? Should we live together or remarry?
Mr. Wang said: I have never changed my mind and regard her as my wife.
After today, if Xiao Xu is willing, he can take time to get the certificate tomorrow.
It seems that Mr. Wang officially proposed to his ex-wife Xiao Xu today.
Xiao Xu said: I also agree to remarry, and hope that we can make changes as much as possible. I also realize that I have indeed fallen short in some places, and we must develop in a good direction together.
mediator Li Jinping once again analyzed: Let me emphasize to you two again the importance of the remarriage certificate. Only with this marriage certificate can you have the confidence to treat each other. You are my wife and you are me. husband.
You see, many women are very imposing in front of their husbands and say, "Husband, come here." If the husband is disobedient at this time, it is impossible, right?
The second is self-restraint, which is self-supervision. You will supervise yourself, and you will think, I am his wife, he is my husband, this is what I should do, this is what I should do I do it, so I do it.
If you don't have this marriage certificate, you are just a basic couple, you are scattered, and you always have the idea of leaving yourself some room and settling for second best.
It’s just that we are not a couple anyway, so it doesn’t make any difference whether I do it or not.
You must have a sufficient understanding of marriage certificates. This is a major prerequisite and a major event in your marriage.
mediator Li Jinping’s explanation was well-founded, and both Mr. Wang and Xiao Xu were convinced. Although they did not hold hands to express their sincerity to each other like other couples, they had a new and correct understanding of their previous misunderstandings and attitudes. .
A family, a person, and a relationship really cannot be solved by a divorce certificate .
Therefore, a marriage certificate is particularly important. It is a responsibility and a responsibility.
So, falling in love or living together without the purpose of marriage is a hooliganism.
both want the other party to pay and claim benefits themselves. This is a sign of inconsistency.
Husband and wife have the most intimate relationship under the same bed. How can they plot against each other?
Mr. Wang's behavior today is still indifferent. The observer Zhongzhen can see that Mr. Wang does not love Xiao Xu at all. This is the most true psychological reflection of Mr. Wang's unwillingness to mention remarriage after eight years of divorce and living with his ex-wife for eight years.
Mr. Wang couldn't stand it and couldn't live without Xiao Xu's care for the family and his daughter, so they lived together tepidly.
Today, Mr. Wang is still asked to make a choice. Mr. Wang said that he chose to remarry, and also said that in fact, he and Xiao Xu did not have any deep hatred. In fact, in other words, the love between them was ordinary, often ordinary, like the calm lake. Make no waves.
As for Xiao Xu Na, facing the indifference of her ex-husband Mr. Wang, she felt aggrieved and could not find a good reason to make a fuss. Did she always feel that she had done something wrong somewhere? In fact, it is neither.
To put it clearly in one sentence, there is no love between them.
When Mr. Wang faced Xiao Xu's dependence on him, Mr. Wang thought it was a big trouble, and unconsciously had the desire to keep Xiao Xu thousands of miles away.
Today, Mr. Wang was asked by the teachers of the observation group. He should also know that he was selfish. Xiao Xu's request was not excessive. It was time for him to give Xiao Xu the status of his wife.
"Gold Medal Mediation" sends a surprise message to the dreamer:
The story of Ms. Xu and Mr. Wang is like a microcosm of real life. Around us, many people choose to get divorced without leaving home, because the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper and is not important. However, they all ignored one point. A form of marriage without legal protection, such as divorce without leaving home, is neither legal nor in line with marriage ethics. Without the constraints of marriage, no matter how close the relationship is, it will be unstable. A marriage without emotion is like a dish without salt, which is boring and tasteless.
A relationship without the protection of marriage is like a ship without a ostrich pole, unable to withstand the trials and tribulations of life.
