Author: Yiduo
Picture: From the Internet
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When it comes to marriage, should you listen to your parents or make your own decision?
Logically speaking, as an independent individual, after adulthood, you can choose what kind of job to do, what kind of person to marry, how many children to have after marriage, etc. As for the opinions of parents who have experienced it, you can listen to the best parts, but of course you have to discard the dross.
However, in real life, not everyone can make such a rational decision. The vast majority of people often have difficulty choosing what to eat for lunch. When faced with marriage matters, they are even more anxious and do not know how to make a choice. They finally obey the arrangements of their parents and friends and enter the marriage hall in confusion. .
Marriage is just the starting point, and there will be problems in the future. Of course, young men and women hope to prolong their relationship and put aside fertility issues for the time being. However, the urging and coercion from their parents and relatives often cause newlyweds a headache. If there is no news of pregnancy between the couple for a long time, gossiping neighbors and relatives will start to spread rumors that there is something wrong with their health.
In order to avoid being talked about by their parents and the rumors flying all over the sky, many couples choose to compromise and start having a baby without being mentally prepared. Little did he know that from the moment he was conceived, his life would be in chaos.
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“When we were not married, you urged us to get a license for the wedding as soon as possible. Less than a month after the wedding, you urged us to have children again. Since it was you who encouraged us in the first place. If you have a child, now that the child is born, you have to come and help take care of the child!”
Wang Yingzi called her mother-in-law in anger and asked her to come to her home to continue to help take care of the child. You know, before she was pregnant and had a baby, Wang Yingzi was quite disgusted with her parents-in-law coming to her home in her hometown in the countryside. Even before getting married, she openly made a request not to allow her parents-in-law to come to live with her in the city.
Wang Yingzi and her husband have been married for more than three years. The two were introduced to each other. At that time, Wang Yingzi and her husband, one was 29 years old and the other was 31 years old, were at an age where they hated to marry. They confirmed their relationship after two or three meetings. After dating for more than half a year, they started a family at the urging of their parents.
After getting married, Wang Yingzi and her husband thought they could breathe a sigh of relief. Unexpectedly, my parents-in-law and my mother-in-law started to have a baby again, especially my mother-in-law, who called me seven or eight times a month, always mentioning the topic of pregnancy and childbirth.
Later, Wang Yingzi couldn't stand her mother-in-law's nagging, and as she was getting older, the two of them put the pregnancy preparation plan on the agenda. In the second year after her marriage, Wang Yingzi became pregnant as she wished. Feeling tired and tired, she decisively quit her job and raised her baby at home.
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I have to say that Wang Yingzi is in good health. She eats delicious food all day long and does not suffer from nausea or vomiting. Wang Yingzi is secretly grateful for this.
During her pregnancy, Wang Yingzi did not ask her mother-in-law to take care of her. Instead, she called her mother-in-law. The reason was that she was not feeling well and her mother-in-law could take care of her by herself. The most important thing was that she always looked down on her family in the countryside. People always feel that they are slovenly and have an unpleasant earthy smell.
During the holidays, Wang Yingzi is unwilling to follow her husband back to her hometown in the countryside to visit relatives, , let alone live under the same roof and eat at the same table with her parents-in-law. The parents-in-law also saw through this and did not want to be disliked by others. They never went to their son's house in the city on weekdays.
Therefore, during the week when Wang Yingzi was about to give birth, it was the first time her mother-in-law came to see her after marriage. During the confinement period, my mother-in-law was very busy. In addition to taking care of Wang Yingzi and her daughter, she was also responsible for providing three meals a day for my mother-in-law.
Wang Yingzi felt sorry for her mother-in-law that it was too hard to take care of her during pregnancy. Now that her mother-in-law was here, she let her mother-in-law rest and gave all the work to her mother-in-law, who was a free laborer.
Wang Yingzi and her daughter have a deep prejudice against rural people. They usually do not let their mother-in-law hold their children, because they dislike her mother-in-law because she is covered with germs. Her mother-in-law can only watch her granddaughter from a distance every time.
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Such days lasted for more than half a year. During these six months, my mother-in-law worked hard without complaint. She never returned to her hometown once and slept on the sofa all the time. Her lumbar spine couldn't bear it anymore, so she stayed in the hospital for half a month. Her wife in the country felt sorry for her, so she took her back to her hometown as soon as she was discharged from the hospital, and no longer allowed her to serve her daughter-in-law and three other people.
Of course Wang Yingzi was not happy, and she did not want to go back to her hometown in the countryside to pick up her mother-in-law, so she called her and asked her mother-in-law to come by car and continue to help her take care of the children.
"Obviously, I was asked to take care of the child. From the time the child was born to now, I have never held him once. Every time I want to hug my granddaughter, you push me away with disgust and give it to me all day long. Arrange laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, and cleaning, and complain that I’m not good at cooking "Eat, I'm not here to help take care of the child, but to serve you and your mother's servants! I don't care who gives birth to the child!"
After saying this, the mother-in-law hung up the phone. I no longer want to deal with my daughter-in-law. After a while, the son called and complained that his mother spoke too much and made his wife and mother-in-law angry. He also persuaded his mother to continue to come to the house to help.
At this moment, the mother-in-law felt cold towards her son. She looked at her wife who was waiting for her and couldn't help but sigh. People say, "When you grow old, you must have a companion. When you grow old, you must have a companion." She couldn't help her mother when she was older. She can no longer count on her son. From now on, she just wants to live a solid life of farming with her wife.
From a legal perspective, the mother-in-law does not have the responsibility or obligation to help her son and daughter-in-law take care of the children. From a moral perspective, the mother-in-law can help, or she can stand by and live her own life.
For a long time, parents have always worked hard and worked hard all their lives. They used all their savings to help their sons get a wife and raise their children. However, they ended up being "disliked and unwilling to support them".
Here, I would like to give a reminder to all the elderly people. After getting old, you should worry less and pay more attention to your personal life. Relying on your son and daughter-in-law is really not as good as your wife beside you. At the same time, I also want to remind men and women who are already married that as children, we must not be unfilial.
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Do you think mother-in-law has the obligation to provide for her son and daughter-in-law? If you were Wang Yingzi's mother-in-law, would you still go to your son's and daughter-in-law's home in the city and continue to help take care of the children? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.
