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Text: Guxi
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"I have been in love with my boyfriend for three years. Because my boyfriend's family background is not good, he has no car, no house, no savings, so my parents don't agree with this marriage. My parents Said that my boyfriend is unreliable, unmotivated, and will not give me happiness in the future. Although my boyfriend loves to play games and is not very interested in work, he is good to me. I love him very much, and my parents have bought me I have a garage and everything, so why do I need him to prepare it? What should I do?” Two days ago, a reader friend sent such a private message.
I felt a lot when I saw this private message.
If a man has no house, no car, no savings, is not motivated, loves to play games, and is just nice to women, can this man make women happy?
In fact, this man can give a woman happiness for a short time, but in the long run it will definitely be pain and misfortune.
Because love is a romance, but marriage is a reality of daily necessities.
If there is no certain material foundation and a marriage is maintained solely by love, it is often fragile and vulnerable.
In addition, what her parents did was not to prevent her from being happy, but to prevent her from jumping into the pit of fire. All of this was for her sake, because that man was indeed unreliable and did not have the ability to make a woman happy.
This friend should actually listen more to his parents' advice, because parents in the world are pitiful. They only want you to be happy. Don't think too darkly about them.
In reality, people often ask me, "What does a truly reliable man look like?"
In fact, there are three obvious manifestations of a reliable man.
"A reliable man does not take refuge in anything and does not evade responsibility."
Somerset Maugham once said:
"If you want a man to show his true nature, the most effective way is to let him take responsibility."
Whether a man is reliable or not depends not on how many promises he has given, but on his How much responsibility do you take with your actions?
Some people think: "A man's responsibility is to live his life well."
Some people think: "A man's responsibility is to be filial to his parents as a son, to love his wife as a husband, and to raise children as a father."
I deeply think about this. Of course.
If a man cannot live a good life and take care of himself, then he must not be able to take care of others.
They just need others to take care of them. Don't believe that they can change, because they don't care about themselves, so how can they care about others to change.
A truly reliable man can shoulder the responsibilities of a man and make a family live a better life.
When they encounter problems, they do not shirk or complain, but face them bravely and take the responsibility to solve everything.
Whether a man is reliable or not depends on his attitude when facing difficulties and setbacks.
If they have been escaping and complaining about their birth, experiences, bad fate, etc., but have never looked for problems within themselves and then solved them, then it is unreliable.
They cannot recognize themselves and cannot shoulder their responsibilities, so they shirk responsibility in various ways.
My father told me before: "A man's responsibility is to be a good husband, a good father, and a good son. If he cannot do this, then he has not shouldered the responsibility."
In this regard, the author has always practiced his father's words. .
It's like a man being responsible for his wife. It's not like I think of ways to spend money on you and everything goes according to your wishes.
But when two people get along, when they encounter problems, both parties do not run away. They work together through thick and thin to solve the problems and find solutions together.
People's life is often filled with misfortunes and hardships. If you want to truly live this life well, you can only be strong yourself, shoulder all responsibilities, and move forward with a heavy load. One day, you will be able to see all the beautiful things.
Just as the Avatamsaka Sutra says: "If you want to be like Buddhas, dragons, and elephants, you must first be like oxen and horses for all sentient beings."
A reliable man is humble in his dealings and does not reveal his nature.
It is said: "If the sky is crazy, there will be rain, and if people are crazy, there will be disaster."
Reliable men tend to be humble in their interactions and keep their appearance to themselves.
Reliable men never show off, because they understand that showing off is of no benefit at all, and may even bring all kinds of trouble to themselves.
"The wise hide more, but the fool always show off."
If a person doesn't know how to keep a low profile, he will bring disaster to himself sooner or later.
I once saw such a story on the Internet:
An uncle returned to his hometown to farm and grow vegetables that were popular in the market. Because of the smooth sales, the uncle made a lot of money in the past two years.
He not only built a new house, but also bought a new car. He showed off his wealth to everyone without caring about other people's feelings.
The market was good this year. He increased investment and contracted more land in greenhouses to grow seasonal vegetables. He also expected to make a lot of money.
But who knew that not only did he not make any money this year, he actually lost everything.
Because the greenhouse where he grew vegetables was completely cut open overnight, and all his vegetables were frozen to death overnight, he lost everything.
You see, if a person is too high-profile, something is bound to happen.
We are not afraid of real villains, but we are afraid of hypocrites. If a person lives a good life, he will inevitably be jealous of others, and then be plotted secretly.
Really reliable men know how to quietly make a fortune and make their families better and better. Only unreliable men will show off their achievements everywhere and bring disaster to the family.
A reliable man dares to change and is consistent in his words and deeds.
Whether a man is reliable or not depends not on how powerful his words are, but on how many actions he takes for it.
Change is difficult because it is difficult to step out of your comfort zone.
Many men have nice words one after another, but once they are put into action, it is extremely unreliable to just talk and not act.
They are giants in words and dwarfs in action, so they often achieve nothing.
Because words without action are actually just words on paper.
As one writer said:
"Most of the legends in this world are just ordinary people who turned their thoughts into actions."
All talk without practice is just a lie.
If a man is not so determined about the results he wants, he will fall into the cycle of "you just look like you are trying hard."
For reliable men, they are true to their words and resolute in their actions. They have the courage to face all difficulties.
Actually, it is difficult at the beginning, but once you start, everything will fall into place naturally.
When you start to do something, it is like walking in the fog. From a distance, it is just a blur.
But when you muster up the courage to let go of your worries and move forward step by step, you will find that with every step you take, you can see the road ahead more clearly. Don't stand and watch from a distance, keep moving forward and you will find your own direction.
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