Middle age is a very embarrassing age.
is a bit early to say that it is old. Speaking of being young, I am no longer young. It just so happens that at such a young age, I still have to bear pressure from all aspects. If you don't pay attention for a moment, you will have many regrets for the rest of your life.
When a person reaches middle age, he has the support of his parents, and if he is not careful, it will be unfilial; he has the education of his children, and poor education will accumulate throughout his life.
People in middle age are inferior to dogs! Work must be sincere, relationships must be cautious, and family must be responsible. This kind of trouble and trouble is inevitable. But if there is a warm home behind, it will be worth it no matter how tired it is, and it will be willing no matter how hard it is.
But when people reach middle age, what they fear most is overestimating their status in the heart of the person next to them.
When people reach middle age, the most difficult thing to manage is marriage.
When a person reaches middle age, he is far away from the passionate marriage of the past. He is surrounded by daily necessities and a dull life day after day.
In the life where the left hand touches the right hand, all kinds of trivial matters are mixed together, and there are chicken feathers everywhere. The "you and I love you" that the two people once had has been replaced by countless cold wars and quarrels!
In addition, some people face psychological and physical betrayal by the person they sleep with, or disputes with their financial interests. Everything is physically and mentally exhausting and mentally draining.
When people reach middle age, they must pay attention to the loyalty of the person next to them to prevent them from not having a good home in old age. In the
TV series "My First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun became a full-time wife after getting married.
Originally, Luo Zijun was a top student and had a job, but she believed that her husband was her life and she could rely on her for the rest of her life. She believes that husband and wife should work together to raise their children well and do everything well at home. The husband should not be tied down by the family and should focus on his career. Thinking this way, she will become happier and happier.
She never expected that after 10 years of marriage to Chen Junsheng, her husband changed his heart and fell in love with another woman Ling Ling. Faced with the sudden change, Luo Zijun was on the verge of tears. The most important thing is that she has been out of touch with society for many years, without a job or income.
After the divorce, Luo Zijun stepped out of the predicament step by step with the help of friends, but every step was difficult.
has a very realistic saying, "Never believe in the other party's promises, it's like the weather in February and August, there is no fixed number." Luo Zijun is an example. Such things happen around us from time to time.
The cruelty of real life is more reflected in middle-aged people. "Hold your hand and grow old together." This is desire, and when desire conflicts with reality, reality must be followed.
It’s not that who is too weak to bear the pressure, but that at the moment when desire is rampant, comfort and pressure will cause you to forget the kindness you have with the person in front of you, and go astray.
Love it or hate it, the old vows of eternal love are rare things in the world of middle-aged people. Do things with nine points and leave one point behind to give yourself an unknown future and leave a leeway in case of emergencies.
There seems to be nothing in this world that can become a truly stable relationship. In the face of interests and desires, even middle-aged couples who have experienced the test of life together are still "untrustworthy"!
Many middle-aged people have been stabbed, betrayed, or even killed by the people next to them. This is the human heart and human nature.
If you have reached middle age, I suggest you not to overestimate the person next to you, don't underestimate human nature, and be rational in your treatment of people and things around you.
First, good and evil must be distinguished. Don't underestimate human nature.
Human nature is the most difficult thing to predict in the world. This is the reason why people's hearts are separated from each other. Some people think that they understand each other after being together for many years, but the reality is that you are too self-righteous.
Human nature is the most real thing, it is hidden in the deepest part of the soul. Don't look at people by their appearance, that's just what they want you to see. Therefore, even if the relationship is intimate, there should be reservations. This is leaving yourself a way out.
Don't trust people completely, and don't put all your emotions on the other person. Whether some people are good or bad to you, their ultimate starting point is just to satisfy their own desires.
You must look at things from multiple aspects and never blind one eye to another. In the end, you will always be hurt.
The second economy must be independent, so that you can feel confident.
Luo Zijun in "My First Half of Life", if she had not given up her job and returned to her family because of Chen Junsheng's words "I will support you", she would have her own circle and have own job and income.
As a financially independent person, she can have a more keen awareness and understanding of people's hearts and human nature.
Luo Zijun thinks that she only needs to be as beautiful as a flower. But in real life, the two people are very different because of their different life circles.
Chen Junsheng betrayed Luo Zijun. He fell in love with Ling Ling out of control.
Marriage needs to be managed. Money determines whether you need to rely on your partner. Financial independence determines whether you can see the world by yourself.
In this way, you will neither be derailed by society nor rely on anyone for money.
Let yourself grow up and have the ability to be financially independent. If the person next to you suddenly changes, you will not be at a loss like Luo Zijun.
In real marriage relationships, both men and women must have self-worth that is indispensable in marriage!
Economic independence is a person’s greatest confidence.
Third, love must be equal, learn to love yourself
Reality is always much crueler than ideal.
Fighting for love is the courage that many people have had. I think that as long as I pay enough, I will definitely get a happy ending. But all you get in the end is damage.
In the world of love, every woman needs more heart. It’s not that you shouldn’t love seriously, but you should learn to love yourself while loving.
As the old saying goes: "Don't love too much, things will turn to the extreme." No matter what the result is, if you give and love without leaving any room, it is easy to hurt yourself in the end.
It doesn't matter if you meet someone of value, otherwise it will be a complete failure.
always remember words like this.
"To trust others too much is to be irresponsible to yourself." Don't overestimate the person you sleep with. Even if you love him very much, you should pay more attention to yourself.
Reserve everything so that you can escape unscathed when a crisis occurs.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to face everything in real life, accept reality, and understand reality. Faced with the unfriendliness, incomprehension, and even "marital exploitation" of the person next to you, you should be kind to yourself. If you have to live together, you must see the reality clearly, be good to yourself, and learn to do whatever you want in everything else.
When people reach middle age, their mentality is very important. Try not to hurt yourself in your marriage. If your life is really boring, you should learn to find happiness and hobbies for yourself, and immerse yourself in doing your own things, so that you won't care about the words and deeds of the person next to you. The human heart is made of flesh. As time goes by, with your silent efforts, maybe he will change.
But never comfort someone who is hurt and "heartless". In life, the most reliable person is yourself, and the most loyal friend is also yourself.
When a person reaches middle age, he is lucky to have a person beside his pillow who knows both coldness and warmth. Even if you don't, you should be kind to yourself.
